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The explanation on the Internet seems to be "because they went to college and became liberals".
I can't speak for others on why someone seems to be a "good person" before college, then turns into a liberal while at college. I think if someone decides to adopt those beliefs, were they a good person before?
That's what I've seen but I thought I'd pose the question here. I went to college as did my daughter and we returned levelheaded. But we weren't finding ourselves and are less impressionable. Maybe that's part of it? I remember when she went up to Penn for a debate event and said there were barf bags on the shuttle bus. I told her that wasn't the place for her and she agreed.
Another thing - it irks me when men get upset about these kinds of appearances. They're hung up on a woman's appearance and a woman must have certain beauty standards or they're considered undateable. What happened to looking at someone's insides and finding beauty there?
I'm probably the worst person to ask and it's not because of the fashion stuff. It's because I've heard and seen the truth up close and prefer to be honest. And I'm not distinguishing between saved and unsaved men in my response. Christian men are less likely to be as blunt but that doesn't mean they don't have similar opinions.
A man will always gauge a woman's appearance in ways we don't. Attractiveness matters to them and the degree of importance differs. But there some relative givens overall. A woman's physical stature is more reflective of him than the reverse. Much like a man's success shines favorably on a woman.
For the majority viewing those images it looks like sabotage. To them, they've marred their loveliness and chosen something otherwise in its place. Men aren't oblivious to a woman's innards but he doesn't ignore the packaging the way a woman might. He wants to appreciate her beauty and celebrate it.
Physique can't be separated from the whole. Most aren't expecting someone gorgeous. But softness, femininity and attentiveness to her health are usually a must. There's some wiggle room on weight with a strong caveat. If she's addressing the problem and needs support many will help. But if she believes she's okay as is and wants him to compromise the majority won't.
I've heard every argument against that truth from frustrated women and always remind them they're asking him to change while saying they won't. Body positivity has convinced some they can skirt tradition and be okay. Some can get away with it with similar partners but most will not. The same applies to sexual liberties. Men like sweetness not notches. And they've developed unflattering terms in response.
He'll always want you soft, feminine, attractive and kind hearted. It speaks to his masculinity and arouses his protection. The question isn't whether it's right or wrong but what we're willing to accept. Whenever we color outside the lines there's a price. That might mean less opportunities or a lengthier wait. I think there's easier battles but we must choose for ourselves.
~bella
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