“5 Better is open rebuke
Than love that is concealed.
6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend,
But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.
8 Like a bird that wanders from her nest,
So is a man who wanders from his home.
12 A prudent man sees evil and hides himself,
The naive proceed and pay the penalty.
17 Iron sharpens iron,
So one man sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:5-6,8,12,17 NASB1995)
We live in an era, at least we do here in the USA, when speaking the truth of God’s word, in love, if it has anything to do with sin, addiction, obedience, or God’s judgments, is largely regarded as unkind, unloving, judgmental, and legalistic. And we live in an era when lying to people to make them feel good, and diluting the gospel message to make it less offensive to the world and to the ungodly is largely being regarded as kind, loving, and acceptable.
And I am well aware here that Proverbs is in the Old Testament, and so many people may disregard it because it is not in the New Testament, but much of what was taught in the Old Testament regarding faith, obedience, and holy living, and what that should look like for the believer in Christ, is repeated for us in the New Testament writings. Yes, we are not under the Old Covenant liturgical, ceremonial, sacrificial, purification, circumcision, dietary, and Sabbath laws, but we still must die to sin and obey God.
So, this still holds true that open rebuke, spoken in love in an appropriate and thoughtful manner and setting, is better than love that is concealed (hidden). And hidden love involves lying to people to make them feel good even when they are obviously deliberately and habitually walking in sin against God and against their fellow humans. But faithful and loving and kind are the wounds (corrections) of a friend who loves you enough to risk their own reputation out of love for you by telling you the truth.
[Acts 2:14-18,42-47; Romans 12:1-8; 1 Corinthians 12:1-31; 1 Corinthians 14:1-5; Galatians 6:1; Ephesians 2:8-10; Ephesians 4:1-16; Ephesians 5:15-21; Ephesians 6:10-20; Philippians 2:1-8; Colossians 3:12-16; Titus 2:11-14; Hebrews 3:13; Hebrews 10:23-25; James 5:19-20]
But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy. Those who lie to you and who alter and dilute the biblical message of the gospel while acting as though they are being kind and loving toward you are not your friends. They are your enemies. They are those who trick and deceive the naïve and the trusting with their lies in order to get them to reject the truth of God’s Word, and to embrace the lies, and to continue in their sins without feelings of guilt. For they disguise the lies as truth and they teach the truth as a lie.
Sadly, since so many people today are teaching an altered and diluted and false gospel, which is a blend of truth and lies together, and since so many people today are accepting the lie as the truth, and they are rejecting the truth as a lie, we seemingly have a very large number of professing Christians who are still living in addiction to sin and not in obedience to our Lord and to his commands. And multitudes are living in sexual immorality, idolatry, and adultery, while they are being pampered in their sins.
And if we confront anyone in their sin, no matter how gentle we might be, we are being regarded as the enemy, not the one living in deliberate and habitual sin. For so many professers of faith in Christ are accepting a false gospel message based off Scriptures taught out of their biblical context and twisted to make them say what they do not say if taught in the correct biblical context. And they are being taught that a profession of faith secures them heaven for eternity, but regardless of how they live on this earth.
But Jesus Christ taught that to come to him we must deny self, take up our cross daily (die daily to sin), and follow (obey) him. For if we hold on to living in sin and for self, we will lose our lives for eternity. But if we deny self, die daily to sin, by the Spirit, and we walk in obedience to our Lord and to his commands, in his power, then we have eternal life with God. For not everyone who calls him “Lord” will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one DOING (obeying) the will of God (see Luke 9:23-26; Matthew 7:21-23).
For by God-gifted faith in Jesus Christ, which is not of our own doing, we are crucified with Christ in death to sin and raised with Christ to walk in newness of life in him, no longer to live as slaves to sin but as slaves to righteousness in walks of obedience to God’s commands. We are no longer to permit sin to reign in our mortal bodies to make us obey its desires. For if sin is what we obey, it results in death. But if obedience to God is what we obey, it results in sanctification, and its end is eternal life with God (see Romans 6:1-23).
The grace of God, which is bringing us salvation, is training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives while we wait for Jesus’ return. For Christ “gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works.” “For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” (See Titus 2:11-14; Ephesians 2:8-10)
And we learn in 1 John 1-3 that if we claim that we have fellowship with God, but yet we walk in darkness (sin), we are liars. If we claim that we know God, but we do not obey his commandments, in practice, we are liars. For it is not the one who claims he is “in Christ” who is “in Christ,” but it is the one who has denied self, died with Christ to sin, and who is now walking in obedience to our Lord and to his commands, in practice, and no longer in sin. We have the hope and the promise of eternal life with God in heaven.
[Matthew 7:13-14,21-23; Luke 9:23-26; John 10:27-30; Acts 26:18; Romans 1:18-32; Romans 2:5-10; Romans 3:23; Romans 6:1-23; Romans 8:1-14; 1 Corinthians 10:1-22; Galatians 5:16-24; Ephesians 2:8-10; Ephesians 4:17-32; Ephesians 5:3-6; Titus 2:11-14; Hebrews 3:1-19; Hebrews 4:1-13; Hebrews 10:19-39; Hebrews 12:1-2; 1 Peter 2:24; 1 John 1:1-10; 1 John 2:3-6; 1 John 3:4-10; Revelation 2:1-29; Revelation 3:1-22]
As the Deer
By Martin J. Nystrom
Based off Psalm 42:1
As the deer panteth for the water
So my soul longeth after You
You alone are my heart's desire
And I long to worship You
You alone are my strength, my shield
To You alone may my spirit yield
You alone are my heart's desire
And I long to worship You
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