NerdGirl
The untamed daughter
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To be honest, I don't see anything "lacking" in your personality. People are simply different. I don't think that dominant personalities necessarily "complement" passive personalities, either, or vice versa. As someone else said, I would focus less on the labels and trendy buzzwords, and more on what works for you and your partner. Are you happy together? Do you work well together? The fact that you're here, asking how to take the lead of a woman who doesn't WANT to give up control, makes me think there may be some friction going on.
Think about this: If two horses are pulling a wagon, do you want one that pulls harder and faster than the other? Do you want one horse "making up the lack" of the other? No. If that happens, you'll have an uneven, bumpy ride, and two very flustered, frustrated horses. You want two horses with a similar style, similar strength, similar personalities. There's some truth to the notion that opposites attract, but opposites don't often work well over the course of a lifetime.
I'm a laid back, introverted woman. The thought of being with a high-energy, dominating man sounds like an absolute nightmare to me. I need someone who understands me, and can work well with me through life. Again, what excites us in the dating world, doesn't always translate well into a marriage, parenting, running a home, and going through all the ups and downs of life together.
To answer your original question, I cannot think of a way to make a Type A woman comfortable with a Type B man taking control. By default, she wants to be in the lead. It sounds like a recipe for a lot of conflict to me. But maybe with a lot of really good, open communication and understanding, it can work.
Think about this: If two horses are pulling a wagon, do you want one that pulls harder and faster than the other? Do you want one horse "making up the lack" of the other? No. If that happens, you'll have an uneven, bumpy ride, and two very flustered, frustrated horses. You want two horses with a similar style, similar strength, similar personalities. There's some truth to the notion that opposites attract, but opposites don't often work well over the course of a lifetime.
I'm a laid back, introverted woman. The thought of being with a high-energy, dominating man sounds like an absolute nightmare to me. I need someone who understands me, and can work well with me through life. Again, what excites us in the dating world, doesn't always translate well into a marriage, parenting, running a home, and going through all the ups and downs of life together.
To answer your original question, I cannot think of a way to make a Type A woman comfortable with a Type B man taking control. By default, she wants to be in the lead. It sounds like a recipe for a lot of conflict to me. But maybe with a lot of really good, open communication and understanding, it can work.
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