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Some people act genuine but really aren't. Or they think they know what they want but they don't. Or the interest in the other person is false. Even Christians struggle w/ these items. How do you think we can filter out the bad w/ false genuineness, or how have you filtered it out?I don't have any criticism. Just something to add to what you are saying. I think the way to look at it is that a woman you are interested in is a human being. Not just someone to pursue to fill a void or desire in your life. So the way to really connect with someone (this applies to non-romantic friendships as well) is to really take an interest in them as a person who has feelings, thoughts, desires, etc. I would say it's about trying to form a connection with another individual where you actually take the time to get to know them and also to share with them who you are as a person. If there is some compatibility between the two of you, the bond will grow because of the shared interests and outlook on life. You don't want to force a connection. From a female perspective, I would share that I find I'm interested in a guy if he is genuine, doesn't put on a charade or act in a such away that he thinks will impress me, and shows a genuine interest in getting to know me. I think that winning someone isn't so much about making them see the desirable qualities in you, but more so that you are being kind to them and showing them that you are interested in them. No one wants to feel like they are just a statistic or someone who meets requirements on your list. Women do this too. They want a husband and a father for future children, and they try to find someone that they think can fit that role. That's missing the whole point of marriage and falling in love. You should be pursuing someone who you find genuinely interesting and are attracted to. Someone you actually like and want to spend time with. I think if a woman senses that a guy actually likes her for her personality and individual traits, that will make the woman feel more comfortable and special and happy to spend time with the guy Thoughtfulness and sincerity goes a long way.
I will share first. I think honesty is important. When I say this, I'm not using it as a canned answer like it seems so often. Really share what you believe & think: Don't tell them what you think they want to hear. Don't be scared to ask the hard questions.
Also: Find out what their circle knows about them. This isn't the same as gossip. Maybe it should occur later in the dating process? But find out what has this person done, how they have acted, or how have they changed if they have acted poorly?
Those are the ones that stick out to me.
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