This sentiment is echoed by many Christian men. That tells me two things:
Education and better job opportunities have sparked an upward trajectory across the board. It isn’t limited to women.
However, the mating marketplace rewards five qualities more than others: class (born in a prominent family), wealth, appearance, position (social, political, and financial connections) and potential (well-regarded employment). In most instances, those in possession of these attributes select a suitor from amongst the group. They rarely go outside the fold.
Growth creates a measure of disparity and scarcity. We expand at different rates. Some qualities are valued more than others. Rather than one populace of available suitors you have three groups instead.
The first is comprised of the five parties previously mentioned. The second includes those desiring entry into the first group. And the third includes every one else. If you consider the complaints and allegations the problem is evident. They’re pursuing the wrong prospects.
This is the elephant in the room in Christian circles. Few are rejected over doctrinal differences. Appearance and wealth are frequently mentioned. But that implies an unstated absence of potential which could offset the deficiency in the other’s eyes.
Before we criticize we must examine our behavior. Do we notice the kind and lowly in our midst? Have we considered them for companionship? What of those whose shortcomings are less appealing than others? Have we passed them by?
Opportunities abound if you’re honest.
ETA: This is an outgrowth of a larger issue at work. The growing polarization of society reduces homogeny in deference to tribalism.
~Bella