Hey everyone, I was hoping I could find some advice here. First to give up some context, I have been a christian basically my whole life I have tried my best to live a life worthy of being called God´s son so perphaps sometimes I could be inflexible with some things.
About 6 months ago I started seeing a girl for the first time in my life. I had never hang out with a girl or had a girlfriend, but as I am 26 I felt that I had to start working on that area before its too late. The girl I met was not a christian when I met her as we start seeing each other and becoming friends she gave her heart to God and is now trying to follow him. A couple of months later he became a couple. Honestly, I have seeing God´s hand in her, she has been really improving in some areas but one issue that I´m seeing are her friends.
None of her friends are christians and to put in worse they are actually the complete opposite, they have severe life problems so they have found between each other comfort, they hang out together most of the time to the point that it seems weird. Most of her friends are sever alcoholics (specially the men), are very "open minded" in most life topics and at least I considered them a bad influence for her.
Her group of friends basically flood every area of her life from social activities, to life advices, family and I suspect even my relationship with her.
I suffer everytime she goes out with them because I know how those parties can go off the rails pretty quick, I have to stay up until 3 or 4 am waiting for her to go back home. Because, despite the fact or her recent conversion she is still struggling with drinking at least drinking in severe moderation.
I have talk to her many times about this issue, she seems really confused in the manner because she does not consider them a threat to her relationship with God, and she believes she cand manage things well (she might but its very hard) I still hope she cand find the balance in that (I myslef has many friends that are not christians but I know the limits of to what do or not do with them)
I´m still hoping that if she deepens her relationship with God she can start noticing how her friends are not so much of a great influence with her. Recently she decided that it is best if I stop seeing her friends as she start noticing my growing dislike for them. Her group of friends basically consists of alcoholics, weed addicts, feminists, lesbians and drug addicts. I honestly don´t know how she has not fallen into any of these practices up to today.
This is the first time I have a girlfriend, I did took a risk entering a relationship with someone who has just barely start knowing God. But I really want to make this work out. But if at some point I feel that my relationship with her is damaging my relationship with God I will have to break up with her (something that I have been considering lately) and she knows this.
Should I wait and I see if there is a change of heart in her? or should I break up with her before things hurt even more. She seems very comfortable with the way her life is right now and I feel I can´t stay with a girl like that for too much of a time.
Pray for me this is the very first time I am experience all these, pray for me for serenity and guidance.
Matthew
About 6 months ago I started seeing a girl for the first time in my life. I had never hang out with a girl or had a girlfriend, but as I am 26 I felt that I had to start working on that area before its too late. The girl I met was not a christian when I met her as we start seeing each other and becoming friends she gave her heart to God and is now trying to follow him. A couple of months later he became a couple. Honestly, I have seeing God´s hand in her, she has been really improving in some areas but one issue that I´m seeing are her friends.
None of her friends are christians and to put in worse they are actually the complete opposite, they have severe life problems so they have found between each other comfort, they hang out together most of the time to the point that it seems weird. Most of her friends are sever alcoholics (specially the men), are very "open minded" in most life topics and at least I considered them a bad influence for her.
Her group of friends basically flood every area of her life from social activities, to life advices, family and I suspect even my relationship with her.
I suffer everytime she goes out with them because I know how those parties can go off the rails pretty quick, I have to stay up until 3 or 4 am waiting for her to go back home. Because, despite the fact or her recent conversion she is still struggling with drinking at least drinking in severe moderation.
I have talk to her many times about this issue, she seems really confused in the manner because she does not consider them a threat to her relationship with God, and she believes she cand manage things well (she might but its very hard) I still hope she cand find the balance in that (I myslef has many friends that are not christians but I know the limits of to what do or not do with them)
I´m still hoping that if she deepens her relationship with God she can start noticing how her friends are not so much of a great influence with her. Recently she decided that it is best if I stop seeing her friends as she start noticing my growing dislike for them. Her group of friends basically consists of alcoholics, weed addicts, feminists, lesbians and drug addicts. I honestly don´t know how she has not fallen into any of these practices up to today.
This is the first time I have a girlfriend, I did took a risk entering a relationship with someone who has just barely start knowing God. But I really want to make this work out. But if at some point I feel that my relationship with her is damaging my relationship with God I will have to break up with her (something that I have been considering lately) and she knows this.
Should I wait and I see if there is a change of heart in her? or should I break up with her before things hurt even more. She seems very comfortable with the way her life is right now and I feel I can´t stay with a girl like that for too much of a time.
Pray for me this is the very first time I am experience all these, pray for me for serenity and guidance.
Matthew