Hi, I didn't think I'd write a post like this, lol but I finally have become to understand why talking before Mass is frowned upon (as far as talking after Mass, that may be another topic, but I'm focusing on the before aspect). For many people, it's the only time/place where they can seek peace and quiet, and when they encounter things that pose as a threat to that peace and quiet, it is extremely irritating.
I paid no mind to this problem until the shoe was on my foot. I just wanted to relax, internally, but there were people talking near me as if they're at the lunch table (a bit of an exaggeration but not entirely). I thought to myself, I just want to absorb the peace/quiet that is expected of being in a sanctuary, and I can't get it. I then thought, "I used to think people were legalistic about this, and now I totally get it."
A couple days ago at Saturday Vigil, I was sitting next to a lady who I otherwise like and who likes me. She is chatty though, and as much as I try to whisper to her as softly as possible, she doesn't talk as soft and I'm starting to worry that others in the congregation will start knowing me as "the one who talks and distracts people" even though it's not entirely my choice - it's the choice of the woman next to me. On Saturday she happened to be chatting with a lady she went to high school with, and they didn't seem considerate of how "loud" they were talking among the congregation who were trying to wait for Mass. Mind you, they're not the only ones guilty of doing it, but they stood out.
I paid no mind to this problem until the shoe was on my foot. I just wanted to relax, internally, but there were people talking near me as if they're at the lunch table (a bit of an exaggeration but not entirely). I thought to myself, I just want to absorb the peace/quiet that is expected of being in a sanctuary, and I can't get it. I then thought, "I used to think people were legalistic about this, and now I totally get it."
A couple days ago at Saturday Vigil, I was sitting next to a lady who I otherwise like and who likes me. She is chatty though, and as much as I try to whisper to her as softly as possible, she doesn't talk as soft and I'm starting to worry that others in the congregation will start knowing me as "the one who talks and distracts people" even though it's not entirely my choice - it's the choice of the woman next to me. On Saturday she happened to be chatting with a lady she went to high school with, and they didn't seem considerate of how "loud" they were talking among the congregation who were trying to wait for Mass. Mind you, they're not the only ones guilty of doing it, but they stood out.