The consequences of sin are not defeated that way (by surrendering to God) and there is a sin that can't be forgiven: murder of a human being, and we really have to turn away from sin, Jesus and the Holy Spirit can inspire us to do so. Having done so we don't escape but begin a new life.
One thing which believers do is that a man and a girl pray wherever they are that God will help them come together and form a couple. In order to deserve each other certain ways of living are required. Compare this to the analogy of salvation: if looking a lot about the past life, I may not deserve a really good wife, but I've started all over. Granted, I could have saved myself all the trouble and just
read about how to be a good husband but anyway having some experience since before I believe I'm a position where I can tell myself in what manner I should act, what I should remember to do and take care of, and what love is. I don't believe I'm totally different from non-believers who do the same at all, but I do believe I have truly started over now and am soon ready for a life together with a girl and that it does make a decisive diference what our source is: the Bible and what's needed to make use of it, praying, the Trinity. We don't want to defile our bodies or minds with junk food, lack of excercise or futile entertainment such as TV, we don't believe countries need military armies or to start wars, and we don't have a feeling of entitlement of having to live very close to any railway network where square feet are more expensive, nor do we believe we should punish ourselves by distancing ourselves too much from the City. But she lives far from the City - I'll see at what point she moves closer - probably at least a year from now it could as well be two years from now depending on where she decides to study to become a nurse. By punish ourselves, I'm thinking that I shouldn't burden her with having to pay a lot for housing i.e. to force her to pay a large part of a decent size apartment and anyway it would require us to be married first before it would be possible for
me to move - because I doubt I can sign a contract anywhere within a humane distance from the city without anyone backing up paying for the apartment.
What I mean by all this is that my life is very focused on a few things. But I can see how deserving a good girl puts requirements on myself, and a/the girl has stated she has Christian values. If wouldn't think there is such a things as a girl like her having
Christian values, why would I have bothered to try to make a point? I do think she knows what the values are and that she keeps forming good values. I
don't think it's as simple as appreciation. The relationship, if it starts, is going to be more than just choosing each other and loving each other, it's going to be about walking the narrow path together, kindling the spark within (both of us finally understanding notions in full and living them a part of which is deep love for the Trinity), motivation, taking stances for or against, protecting each other physically, by each providing food, and by navigating in theology and Biblical scholarship. The latter may be what's too specific for non-believers to care about as they have other guides:
So we are God conscious and our minds are pricked by sin. We become sensitive to sin and wrong doing. We want to please God and be obedient to Him. You cant serve two masters of sin or God. So there is a thing as morals or goodness and God is the standard through Jesus. But we cannot live up to this standard on our own ability. We have to surrender to God through Jesus and we are saved. It is not bey good works that we are saved but by the Grace of God.