VOW
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To Cammie:
I think we've all been in church, in a restaurant, in a theater, in some public place where kids have behaved as you described. It's abominable. Some people feel if they set limits for their children, that their children won't "love" them, or they'll damage the child some way.
Hogwash.
If you love your child, you will teach him or her how to behave properly. Discipline IS a form of love. The child who is permitted to run wild, tear up property, beat up other people, and behave like a rabid dog is going to come face-to-face with limits and restrictions in school. As the child grows, there will certainly be limits and restrictions in the workplace.
A well-placed swat has its uses, but it generally won't work on the unruly child in a restaurant, church, or movie. Why? Because the kid will start to SCREAM. No, the best disciplinarian move for the unruly child is REMOVAL. Mom or Dad needs to take the kid OUTSIDE (or to another room) where the distraction is minimized, and you can get nose-to-nose with the kid and say, "Knock it off RIGHT NOW."
You may have to actually LEAVE a few times. It's aggravating to walk away from a meal or a sermon, or even a movie you've paid for. But I guarantee you, it won't happen very often.
Even a toddler can learn this. You might need a few trips to another room, but soon all you'll have to do is say, "Do we need to take this outside?" and the kid will shape up.
You work it right, all it will take is "the look."
And the moms here know EXACTLY what I mean!
Peace,
~VOW
I think we've all been in church, in a restaurant, in a theater, in some public place where kids have behaved as you described. It's abominable. Some people feel if they set limits for their children, that their children won't "love" them, or they'll damage the child some way.
Hogwash.
If you love your child, you will teach him or her how to behave properly. Discipline IS a form of love. The child who is permitted to run wild, tear up property, beat up other people, and behave like a rabid dog is going to come face-to-face with limits and restrictions in school. As the child grows, there will certainly be limits and restrictions in the workplace.
A well-placed swat has its uses, but it generally won't work on the unruly child in a restaurant, church, or movie. Why? Because the kid will start to SCREAM. No, the best disciplinarian move for the unruly child is REMOVAL. Mom or Dad needs to take the kid OUTSIDE (or to another room) where the distraction is minimized, and you can get nose-to-nose with the kid and say, "Knock it off RIGHT NOW."
You may have to actually LEAVE a few times. It's aggravating to walk away from a meal or a sermon, or even a movie you've paid for. But I guarantee you, it won't happen very often.
Even a toddler can learn this. You might need a few trips to another room, but soon all you'll have to do is say, "Do we need to take this outside?" and the kid will shape up.
You work it right, all it will take is "the look."
And the moms here know EXACTLY what I mean!
Peace,
~VOW
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