Would you (guys) date a single mom?

[trulyliving]

I always wonder about that equally yoked rule.. and why us as believers only must be with other believers, I mean.. its hard enough, all I ever meet is nonbelievers who of course I click with except for the belief in God, and of course I would rather be with a Christian woman, but the closest I came was that Mormon woman...

I mean if we won't marry or be given in marriage in the next life whats the use of being equally yoked?..

i guess we'll know....if the other dampens or contributes to our own individual fire for the Lord... i'd like to hold out for someone who can truly help my fire going, but it's not easy... there's the equally yoked that both would check off Christian on an application form, then there's the equally yoked where deep down inside you know they'll be strong when your own faith is weak and it's an equal amount of taking turns..... cuz otherwise we'll just burn out and we can suddenly find ourselves detached..... i would soooo rather be single than be with someone who puts out my fire for the Lord

 

[CroCop]

No I would never date a single mom. I believe in a traditional family where our kids are our kids and no exceptions.

 

[GQ Chris]

i guess we'll know....if the other dampens or contributes to our own individual fire for the Lord... i'd like to hold out for someone who can truly help my fire going, but it's not easy... there's the equally yoked that both would check off Christian on an application form, then there's the equally yoked where deep down inside you know they'll be strong when your own faith is weak and it's an equal amount of taking turns..... cuz otherwise we'll just burn out and we can suddenly find ourselves detached..... i would soooo rather be single than be with someone who puts out my fire for the Lord

I do feel exactly the same way now.. thats why I decided I had to leave behind everything, I even had to completely stop going to bars because I would never meet a Christian gal there, and right now I have pretty much decided I won't compromise my beliefs any more. So I have taken the necessary measures not to put myself in temptations way...

 

[trulyliving]

I do feel exactly the same way now.. thats why I decided I had to leave behind everything, I even had to completely stop going to bars because I would never meet a Christian gal there, and right now I have pretty much decided I won't compromise my beliefs any more. So I have taken the necessary measures not to put myself in temptations way...

yah.... and I think God will truly reward that... either with complete peace with being single or the desires of your heart.... he never abandons

 

[SonicBOOM]

No I would never date a single mom. I believe in a traditional family where our kids are our kids and no exceptions.

do you beleive people should be forgiven for past mistakes? do you beleive the way things should be are not the way things are? I beleive this is why God allowed polygomy in the OT. The way things should be and the way things are are 2 completely diffrent things and even God has to deal with it. Because we choose the life we lead, even though it greives Him, and even though He knows it will greive us later on.

 

[Sketcher]

No I would never date a single mom. I believe in a traditional family where our kids are our kids and no exceptions.

Is adoption frowned upon in Croatia?

 

[justanobserver]

I would date a single mom although the ones at my age, the majority's kids are grown and gone.

I have dated single moms, married one once long ago, her son and I got along pretty well back then (mid 80's).

I would have more in common in a sense with a single mom that with one who has never been married or had kids.

 

[GQ Chris]

yah.... and I think God will truly reward that... either with complete peace with being single or the desires of your heart.... he never abandons

That blog of yours was Great, it was like the female equivalent of what I had been experiencing.

 

[trulyliving]

I would date a single mom although the ones at my age, the majority's kids are grown and gone.

I have dated single moms, married one once long ago, her son and I got along pretty well back then (mid 80's).

I would have more in common in a sense with a single mom that with one who has never been married or had kids.

wow... thanks for that input.... i'm realizing age and maturity has alot to do with the types of responses/ perspectives we all have.... awesome stuff!

 

[trulyliving]

That blog of yours was Great, it was like the female equivalent of what I had been experiencing.

glad to know someone was blessed.... it was groundbreaking for me....but i do still wonder

 

[GQ Chris]

glad to know someone was blessed.... it was groundbreaking for me....but i do still wonder

you have to operate out of Faith. It is not an issue of how much, but that you have it...

 

[Divinah]

The last three women were as follows, one was a single mom with three kids, but is not Christian, she's agnostic, the next one after that was a sexy 37 year old six foot tall gal with lets just say "blessed" attributes, but then admitted to me over the phone that she is a witch and is a member of a coven, and the one after that was a catholic who is agnostic now. So I have pretty much decided to kick back now, focus on work and school and sublimate by working out incessantly, hanging out with my friends.. etc etc

Where are you meeting these chicks?

Thats true, when I was dating that beautiful mormon gal, she asked me.. "hey, its Wednesday, don't you have Bible Study"? and my reply was "uhh yeah, but I can catch it next week" and proceeded to spend the rest of the day with her...

I do feel exactly the same way now.. thats why I decided I had to leave behind everything, I even had to completely stop going to bars because I would never meet a Christian gal there, and right now I have pretty much decided I won't compromise my beliefs any more. So I have taken the necessary measures not to put myself in temptations way...

I have a friend (now a Christian) with kids from 3 different men.
I know someone else (my first ex-wife) that's been married 3 times and in between #2 & #3 had a child with someone she didn't marry (after abandoning the two we had leaving them with me).
That's what I meant. Not your situation. I hope I didn't imply that.

See, now this tells me that alot of men these days are in the same boat and I'm sure have to be just as cautious with letting women into their lives.

Be Blessed!

 

[paul123]

I don't know how to start polls in here, and maybe this has already been asked, but I thought I'd do some qualitative research first and then do a quantitative poll a little later...

Anyway:

1. Would you ever date a single mom if there was all the other things in there that would attract you to her as a person?

2. If not, would you be attracted and want to get to know her BUT take longer (if at all) in actually deciding to allow yourself to date her or hesitate in some other way? Why?

3. Would you marry a single mom after dating her and feel that you want to?

4. If it's no problem, or if you have dated single moms before, did you have alot of "warnings" from friends or family? Did you go against others' advice?

5. If you are someone who has warned your friend/ brother/ father/ cousin, etc. about dating someone they really liked who was a single mother, why did you do so?

I always thought it's no big deal, but after giving my life to Christ and having more boundaries in regards to dating, I'm now not dating period. Non-believers are so open and friendly, but Christian guys..... I don't know, maybe it's 'cuz like magnets repel or something. So I wonder now if it's because I'm a single mommy.

I dated a girl once that had a little boy. She had a lot of qualities that I looked for. She was fun. So was her son. My folks didn't like it, but I hardly cared. She wasn't a Christian. I stopped seeing her for that, not because she was a mom.

Maybe, guys are intimidated by you. They may ask themselves, "Why would a girl who has her act together and is raising a child want to date me?"

 

[SonicBOOM]

Maybe, guys are intimidated by you. They may ask themselves, "Why would a girl who has her act together and is raising a child want to date me?"

thats honestly something to consider. I personally get intamanted by alot of girls. There are a number of girls who I feel are FAR to good for me. Maybe it's not that guys don't think your good enough, maybe it's the fact that guys might think your to good for them. It happens alot with shy guys and I'm personally not shy, but i haven't had the best success with women..... kind of damaged my confedence.

 

[Forever trying]

I don't know how to start polls in here, and maybe this has already been asked, but I thought I'd do some qualitative research first and then do a quantitative poll a little later...

Anyway:

1. Would you ever date a single mom if there was all the other things in there that would attract you to her as a person?

2. If not, would you be attracted and want to get to know her BUT take longer (if at all) in actually deciding to allow yourself to date her or hesitate in some other way? Why?

3. Would you marry a single mom after dating her and feel that you want to?

4. If it's no problem, or if you have dated single moms before, did you have alot of "warnings" from friends or family? Did you go against others' advice?

5. If you are someone who has warned your friend/ brother/ father/ cousin, etc. about dating someone they really liked who was a single mother, why did you do so?

I always thought it's no big deal, but after giving my life to Christ and having more boundaries in regards to dating, I'm now not dating period. Non-believers are so open and friendly, but Christian guys..... I don't know, maybe it's 'cuz like magnets repel or something. So I wonder now if it's because I'm a single mommy.

1. Yes, I would and have without hesitation.
2. The only hesitation I'll have now is that from my previous experience (very recent), they might be on the defensive alot. Say something that in most circles is taken as an innocent joke, somehow it gets twisted to be a personal comment . So I'll have to be more tactful till I gauge her personality.
3. Yes.
4. A couple of friends warned me. Didn't take notice. I keep that part of my life away from my family (except perhaps my brother) to avoid needless gossip and interference.
5. Has never happened.

Perhaps your looking in the wrong places. Perhaps the fellows just haven't got enough character to give you a chance and immediately just see trouble for some reason.

 

[trulyliving]

I dated a girl once that had a little boy. She had a lot of qualities that I looked for. She was fun. So was her son. My folks didn't like it, but I hardly cared. She wasn't a Christian. I stopped seeing her for that, not because she was a mom.

Maybe, guys are intimidated by you. They may ask themselves, "Why would a girl who has her act together and is raising a child want to date me?"

thats honestly something to consider. I personally get intamanted by alot of girls. There are a number of girls who I feel are FAR to good for me. Maybe it's not that guys don't think your good enough, maybe it's the fact that guys might think your to good for them. It happens alot with shy guys and I'm personally not shy, but i haven't had the best success with women..... kind of damaged my confedence.

Awe! You guys are so cute! That's possible too. Yah -with shy guys, you just can't tell...anything. I hope you both find a great young lady to date. You both are such gems. If I had 2 younger single sisters, I'd introduce them to you guys.

 

[SonicBOOM]

Awe! You guys are so cute! That's possible too. Yah -with shy guys, you just can't tell...anything. I hope you both find a great young lady to date. You both are such gems. If I had 2 younger single sisters, I'd introduce them to you guys.

thats quite the complement thank you so much