Why did God give me a son instead of a daughter?

[Krock7772]

I grew up not having very many friends in grade school through high school. I was the shy/quiet type. I always wanted a best friend that was a girl since I didn't have that. I saw other friendships blossoms. Sad huh? Then in 1999, I met my soulmate and found out that I was unable to have biological kids. It didn't suprise me as I was born with a defect that you can't see when looking at me. So, my husband and I decided to adopt, and we were matched with a young couple who wanted us to adopt their newborn son. So we did and we are so happy to have him in our lives.

So, here is the question: Why do you think that God have me a son when my husband has a lot of guy friends and I don't have any girl friends? I just wanted that girl friendship that I didn't really have in school. Know what I mean?

What do you think?

 

[DreamsAreFree]

Maybe because he wants you to be a parent rather than a friend to your child? You can do both the friend and parent thing but a child is not a substitute for a friend. Who knows - maybe next time you will get a daughter? And believe me, sons can grow up into great friends too

 

[Elijah2]

My dear sister, our Lord Jesus Christ didn't make your family's decision to adopt a boy. Is there any reason why you can't adopt a girl?

Blessings.

 

[DreamsAreFree]

Elijah - in this day and age a couple does well to get any baby to adopt. There aren't many babies up for adoption these days.

 

[Elijah2]

Elijah - in this day and age a couple does well to get any baby to adopt. There aren't many babies up for adoption these days.

Gee what a shame, when so many orphanages are filled with children.

Is that the reason why Madonna went to Africa to adopt a child?

Blessings.

 

[DreamsAreFree]

I don't know but I have looked at adopting internationally as I can see so many who need homes. I'd love to bring home several children who otherwise will only know orphanages but that has its own challenges. Maybe you could look at international adoption Krock? Or even in most countries are children who are disabled in different ways that are hard to find homes for.

But it is true that a child is not the same as a friend. My sons and daughters are great friends to me but I can't share everything with them that I would with a friend and I am the mother, not a friend. The dynamics are different.

 

[AMR]

So, here is the question: Why do you think that God have me a son when my husband has a lot of guy friends and I don't have any girl friends? I just wanted that girl friendship that I didn't really have in school. Know what I mean?

Ask that question when you are talking to your granddaughter.

AMR

 

[fields316_2000]

i dont want to be a jerk about this..but you are lucky to be having kids at all. listen. i have alot of family problems right now from top to bottom..and the one thing that we always wanted was a little girl. my wife sort of always wanted a baby girl for the same reasons you do, since we have 2 boys. However she's been sick and didnt know it and may not have the chance to have kids again. so the thought of just BEING pregnant would be a miricle for some couples. thank god your son is born with 10 toes and fingers..and just wait on God. he has his ways about him

 

[glass_heart]

Have you thought about the oppurtunities you will have now with your baby son in tow? Mother and baby clubs for starters, school run (eventually) parents commitees. God has just given you a way to make female friends of your own age, through caring for the child you have always wanted. My mother has only just become my friend now i'm 22; because she believed that motherhood came first, she couldn't raise me without having my obedience and respect. A female friend might not gain either and may even end up being despised as an enemy. So embrace this opportunity with open arms; love your little boy whole heartedly and who knows; maybe God will send you the child you wanted in the end as he did with Rachel and Sarah. Nothing is impossible for the Lord.

Take the hint.

 

[glass_heart]

Oh and also, don't believe your defective- you are simply one of the many women who God believes has the ability to cope with this, raising children who have no family and desperatley need someone like you to provide them with motherly love and true Christian care. I had a solid group of friends at school (gradeschool equivalent) I now no longer see any of them as I am a apparently a "Bible- basher", the friends i've made since then are few- but truer than any of those I made before. So don't lose heart because being shy is not a crime. God will provide and don't forget it is the meek and the humble who are in Gods favour.

 

[rosenherman]

Maybe because he wants you to be a parent rather than a friend to your child? You can do both the friend and parent thing but a child is not a substitute for a friend. Who knows - maybe next time you will get a daughter? And believe me, sons can grow up into great friends too

I've got to agree here. Kids don't need another pal, they need someone to set and hold limits, show them how to, when to, when not to, etc. If you want a "girl friend" become a big sister. It's an excellent organization with lots of girls that need a big sister.