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Look, I don't have a problem with review and feedback and all of that. It's normal and healthy and we probably need more of it, not less, in church leadership. The process in this instance has, I think, also some room for improvement; but I am not so sure that my bishop is as open to honest feedback as he is expecting me to be!

About ten years older than me. Mid fifties.

I'm sure the lack of reciprocity from the bishop has something to do with his expectations that come from knowing that you're in the 'pastoral' position as a priest. On some level, as I'm sure you already are well aware of, they want you to do the Pauline Jig and attempt in more or less traditional manner to "be all things to all people."

Frankly, I empathize with you because, for the life of me, I'm not sure how you do it. I could never pull that off. While I'm all for knowing my audience, I'm the sort that isn't going to refrain from making sure my audience knows my mindset and my views as well; and there is, after all, a reason I dropped out from Bible College and discontinued seeking to enter the ministry. ^_^ Kudos to you that the ministry is your calling! I do hope your bishop will at least lend an ear to your side of the story. I know it's not easy to engage older generations within the Church. I'll say a prayer for your situation, sister.
 
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On some level, as I'm sure you already are well aware of, they want you to do the Pauline Jig and attempt in more or less traditional manner to "be all things to all people."
Absolutely. And - despite whatever St. Paul might have said - that's not possible for mere mortals!
Frankly, I empathize with you because, for the life of me, I'm not sure how you do it.
None of us is perfect at it. We muddle along and do the best we can.
While I'm all for knowing my audience, I'm the sort that isn't going to refrain from making sure my audience knows my mindset and my views as well;
One of my early supervisors observed that I "don't suffer fools gladly." I have learned along the way that if not gladly, I do sometimes need to suffer them quietly! ;)
I'll say a prayer for your situation, sister.
I'll take all the prayers I can get. Thank you for the kindness. :)
 
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I always feel so tired. Starting to wonder if I suffer from some mild form of sleep apnea.
I have severe sleep apnea and my CPAP isn't working. Been that way for weeks :(

Hang in there, friend.
 
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I have severe sleep apnea and my CPAP isn't working. Been that way for weeks :(

Hang in there, friend.

I suspect I have always had sleep apnea. Even when I was a kid. I would sometimes wake up gasping for air. It wasn't until a few years ago I even learned what sleep apnea is.

Sleep apnea apparently can wake you up hundreds of times a night. Might explain why some nights it feels like I have actually been awake all night. Like I have difficulty knowing if I actually slept or not. This isn't every night though.

I hope you get the CPAP issue resolved. Especially if you have severe sleep apnea. I know you know the dangers. Even I worry I might never wake up again when I go to bed.
 
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I suspect I have always had sleep apnea. Even when I was a kid. I would sometimes wake up gasping for air. It wasn't until a few years ago I even learned what sleep apnea is.

Sleep apnea apparently can wake you up hundreds of times a night. Might explain why some nights it feels like I have actually been awake all night. Like I have difficulty knowing if I actually slept or not. This isn't every night though.

I hope you get the CPAP issue resolved. Especially if you have severe sleep apnea. I know you know the dangers. Even I worry I might never wake up again when I go to bed.
Thank you

I need to get my insurance sorted out.
 
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Thank you

I need to get my insurance sorted out.

If you have severe apnea there should be a law that you will be provided a working one right away no matter the insurance issues.
 
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Currently on my mind lately. I wish I was a better person. Like I was able to care about others more. I am able to feel emotional empathy but I do have great difficulty feeling close to others and sadly that often makes me cold to the feelings of others.
 
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If you have severe apnea there should be a law that you will be provided a working one right away no matter the insurance issues.
I agree. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way :(
 
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I just got sprayed by a skunk for the 17th time in my life. I don't work with skunks, I don't live around skunks. I don't know why this keeps happening.

But that's not what's really on my mind. I'm wondering why people say "half a dozen" when they could just say "six". That's four syllables compared to one. Time is our most valuable commodity. That's 75% of your life that you will never get back.
 
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But that's not what's really on my mind. I'm wondering why people say "half a dozen" when they could just say "six". That's four syllables compared to one. Time is our most valuable commodity. That's 75% of your life that you will never get back.
Perhaps the joy of communication is not always in its speed.

(I say this deeply conscious that it is not an argument for long sermons!)
 
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Do you have any family members that can help you out?
I actually recently got insurance but there are somethings that need to be changed!

I am really thankful for that! :D
 
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Was walking down a residential street, and there was this house that apparently had made a custom driveway at some point. You know how when people lay wet cement they sometimes etch a message into it so that it will be there in the concrete? Near the sidewalk, there was this message that said "To my favorite niece, Janie". This is weird is it not? No one says a thing is their favorite unless there's more than one thing to choose from. Nobody says "You know that Eiffel Tower in Paris? That's my favorite Eiffel Tower." So why is this person publicly dissing the others? They must be horrible nieces.

Horrible Nieces - my new punk band.
 
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