Minimum Requirement for Salary to get a wife

[Tskjesusfreak]

What is the acceptable requirement of income to get married because I was told by married men from one of my previous churches us single men must make a bare minimum of $75K per year but it should be $100K per year in USA dollars in USA.

 

[Citanul]

It might be difficult for us to give figures because living costs differ depending on where you live and what sort of lifestyle you lead. But as a basic first step you need to supporting yourself properly. That means meeting all your financial obligations along with saving a decent portion of your salary (both for retirement and rainy days). And the only debt which would be acceptable to have would be longer term things like house and car repayments.

Then the next thing you need to consider is whether you want children (and how many) and whether you intend for you wife to be a stay-at-home mom or whether she's going to continue working. You don't necessarily need to be earning that right now, but there would need to be a realistic expectation that you'd advance in your career sufficiently that your salary would be able to cover that.

If you want to get a proper answer to this question there you are going to have to do some research into costs of things, and I'd also suggest asking someone other than a group of single people. There's a sub-forum of Married Couples where singles can ask questions, and you might get better answers there.

 

[Tskjesusfreak]

Thanks I'll go there.

 

[DragonFox91]

I have heard $75K a lot, yes. But lot of people are dirt poor & get girlfriends pretty easy.

 

[Maria Billingsley]

What is the acceptable requirement of income to get married because I was told by married men from one of my previous churches us single men must make a bare minimum of $75K per year but it should be $100K per year in USA dollars in USA.

I never heard of such a thing. I believe it is more important to be honest with your partner so that she makes her own decision based on truth. I'm guessing anyone worth marriage will not focus on money however women would prefer a man with good work ethics.
Blessings.

 

[bèlla]

What do you want? That’s the starting point. Are you able to fund the life you envision alone or will she have to contribute? If so, how much? You have options.

This is the time to take risks and step out of your comfort zone. If you want to be the bread winner and cover everything and your income makes it difficult start a side hustle now. Work at it while you wait. You’ll eventually earn more through that than your day job if you set up passive income. Now you’ve solved the problem. You just need the girl.

Money isn’t an impediment to companionship. You can always make more. Don’t allow a job to box you in. That’s one form of employment. Don’t be afraid to spread your wings and try something new in this season. It’s far harder to do when you’re married and have a family. Because they’re depending on you. That’s why you do it now.

I told my daughter the same. Paint me a picture and tell me your ideal. Imagine the demands and responsibilities in light of your strengths and weaknesses. Are you home? Do you want help with childcare? Will you need help with housekeeping? Do you want to homeschool? And so on.

We spoke about the realities of marriage and parenting. The necessity of having quality time with your spouse and nurturing the bond. And we talked about time. No one can do it all alone.

If you want to work outside the home you need childcare. If you want to work from home you still need help. If you want weekly dates you need a babysitter. If homeschool is desirable who’s the instructor? What would you get off your plate if you could?

I took her answers and provided a number based on the things she said. It didn’t include a mortgage, car note, etc. That’s his domain. She’s the cherry on top and this is my philosophy for us. I didn’t tell her to look for someone who could cover everything. That’s unlikely for someone her age and she wants to work from home.

I told her to fund the spoils. The things that would make their life easier and more comfortable. That’s the list she composed. It complements his provision and allows them to have the life they want without putting the burden on his shoulders. That’s what she’s doing now.

I did it for a reason. Her forethought and preparation will be significantly more appealing to a suitor than the one demanding a number. She’s demonstrating marriage mindedness, generosity, and wisdom through her actions. That isn’t the norm. It’s a mark of excellence (aka Proverbs 31).

If you want a good woman look at her mother. Pay attention to her friends and influences. They’ll play a part in her mindset and effect your alignment. With that in mind, I’m going to be blunt about this topic and hope you listen.

It isn’t a man’s responsibility to fund a lifestyle for a woman she can’t afford. Repeat that to yourself. If its important she’ll work for it. You aren’t a cash cow or beast of burden. Don’t allow anyone to treat you that way.

What is she bringing to the table? How are you bettered by her presence? Look at her and imagine a mini me. Are you delighted or terrified? That’s your reality. Don’t get sidetracked by appearances or puffery. Every woman knows her market value. If she could get a millionaire she wouldn’t be talking to you.

Don’t allow anyone to make you feel you’re not enough or you need more. Marriage is a partnership and few walk in with everything in tow. Look for women with vision who can see the horizon and don’t mind working towards it.

Leave the princesses alone and stop lusting after trophies. You can’t afford them and they’ll never help you. They look for established men who’ve already made it. Not those en route. That wasn’t directed to you personally but it needed to be said.

Choose a woman who loves God and respects her man. That’s the foundation. Everything flows from that and without it you won’t have peace.

~bella

 

[peaceful-forest]

What is the acceptable requirement of income to get married because I was told by married men from one of my previous churches us single men must make a bare minimum of $75K per year but it should be $100K per year in USA dollars in USA.

This was news to me.

I'm not in a relationship right now, but what would matter to me is that:
- he does have a job
- he makes enough money to at least support himself (I work now and do not have a problem with me working also when we're married)

Every woman is going to be different. There is no one solution fits all. You'll need to talk to her about finances.

 

[LoveDivine]

I'm not sure about that; $75,000-$100,000 seems really high. I think that's more the range for someone who is expecting to be able to live a certain lifestyle as soon as they start their married life. There are a lot of young couples who start off simply and build their life and accumulate possessions, a house, etc over time. I'm sure a lot of married couples have made it work with less than that.

 

[sampa]

75k where I live would be considered a lot. In my agency an income like that would be an engineer or executive level. The lower tiers in the agency make half that if they are lucky. The top paid person might come close to the 100k. But he makes all the decisions for the organization. But some of it has to do with the benefits that we get. Sometimes you'll get a lower pay if you have better insurance.

It all depends where you are living.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

What is the acceptable requirement of income to get married because I was told by married men from one of my previous churches us single men must make a bare minimum of $75K per year but it should be $100K per year in USA dollars in USA.

It's not about the amount you make, but about whether or not you're spending beyond your means. How good are you at money management, etc.

 

[bèlla]

Depending on where you live it isn’t a lot when cost of living is factored. Most people don’t live in small towns and couples head to the suburbs when they’ve had children for better schools. Housing is typically the largest expense and the recommended allocation is 30-35% of your income.

Based on $75K gross at 30% is $1,875 per month.
$100K at 30% is $2,500 per month.

Don’t forget price increases too: food, rent, utilities, gas, etc.

~bella

 

[High Fidelity]

Surely that depends on where you live and the kind of lifestyle you want.

75-100k is far higher than the median salary in the US, so it seems a little unrealistic.

 

[Kettriken]

What is the acceptable requirement of income to get married because I was told by married men from one of my previous churches us single men must make a bare minimum of $75K per year but it should be $100K per year in USA dollars in USA.

These are admirable numbers to support a family, but I wouldn't expect either partner to make this alone or together when just starting off. Obviously it varies, but you can live off much less, even with children.
I can only hope that the married men in your previous church gave you much more pertinent advice for relationships. If not, perhaps there is a good reason why it is not your current church.

 

[VCR-2000]

I wonder if God designed for men to have to earn things to get married or get a GF. If he did, that is depressing.

 

[Occams Barber]

What is the acceptable requirement of income to get married because I was told by married men from one of my previous churches us single men must make a bare minimum of $75K per year but it should be $100K per year in USA dollars in USA.

If you hurry on down to Walmart I understanding they are running a "Buy One Get One Free" sale on wives at never-to-be-repeated ridiculously low prices.

OB

 

[cherishedteddies]

What is the acceptable requirement of income to get married because I was told by married men from one of my previous churches us single men must make a bare minimum of $75K per year but it should be $100K per year in USA dollars in

USA.

When did all this start?

 

[GodBeMercifulToMeASinner]

Someone who wants a spouse fixated on career and obtaining a certain salary, or obtaining them a certain worldly lifestyle, a person with such worldly goals might want to examine their situation. We are to come up out of the world system, deny self, crucify the flesh daily..not to seek to be under more control of the world system and pursuing mammon. Seek ye first the Kingdom of God, your needs will be met. Worrying about things such as salary numbers is putting trust in man or yourself to provide..the members of His Kingdom will have all their needs met. We are to focus on things above, store up treasure for heaven..not worry about salary numbers here in satan’s kingdom.

 

[timewerx]

Someone who wants a spouse fixated on career and obtaining a certain salary, or obtaining them a certain worldly lifestyle, a person with such worldly goals might want to examine their situation. We are to come up out of the world system, deny self, crucify the flesh daily..not to seek to be under more control of the world system and pursuing mammon. Seek ye first the Kingdom of God, your needs will be met. Worrying about things such as salary numbers is putting trust in man or yourself to provide..the members of His Kingdom will have all their needs met. We are to focus on things above, store up treasure for heaven..not worry about salary numbers here in satan’s kingdom.

From a spiritual point of view, less is more! The most magical and breathtaking places on Earth tends to be the barren, lifeless places like the polar/tundra regions or deserts.

And Jesus often withdrew to desolate or remote places devoid of people and civilization to pray or simply spend time there.

On the other hand, in places of abundance, indulgence, complete disregard for abstinence or self control, material prosperity, the soul lives in torment. People have no rest, no love, harsh, cold, unforgiving, and always running after something

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Recently, I was seeing "ambition" is a term used in the context of having a well to do career. Instead of a mediocre job like an accountant or government paper pusher. If you are in jobs like these, you lack "ambition" according to women and that, according to them, live in a life of mediocrity.

Ambition to them means clout and status with a challenging position.

 

[timewerx]

Recently, I was seeing "ambition" is a term used in the context of having a well to do career. Instead of a mediocre job like an accountant or government paper pusher. If you are in jobs like these, you lack "ambition" according to women and that, according to them, live in a life of mediocrity.

Ambition to them means clout and status with a challenging position.

Accountant is actually a well-to-do career. Perhaps boring and maybe anyone who works as an accountant maybe perceived as boring or lacking a sense of adventure. Someone who might be very tight at spending their money and avoids taking risks of any kind including non-financial nature of risks.

There's actually plenty of women who seeks such qualities in a man. They're just not the 'popular' types. They are the ones who puts on very little make up and puts up a very modest appearance ('cheap' is how the brainwashed types would call it). They are the wiser, more mature ones who prefers very long term stability, avoids loans, and willing to sacrifice leisure and other indulgences if they need to save money for anything. Such attitudes are not exclusive to Christianity. Such modesty is present in every beliefs, every conviction. Highly valued in marriage just nobody sees it anymore. Not popular image nowadays.