Can't practice faith, and of all days, today.

[Lady Bug]

Hi, I had one of the worst days ever. My dad woke me up after only one hour sleep just to bark about nothing. He would not let me sleep for literally 5 hours later, and I don't even know if I fell asleep after that. My head is off. My brother used religion against me by saying "You're religious right? In the New Testament Jesus said we could worship him any day of the week" and "You can always go tomorrow instead" and I hung up on him. My dad has been refusing to get out of bed and drink or eat anything and it's been 9 hours since he woke me up. I'm tempted to leave him home and let him deal with it. My brother is trying to make counseling appointments for my dad directly in conflict with Holy Week when we have the physical/occupational therapists coming over already, plus we are trying to get a hold of the heart doctor (hard to get a hold of) to adjust his statin dosage, and my brother won't wait one more week for the dust to settle. He believes that my "religious days" can always be replaced. I may miss Palm Sunday and I *never ever* wanted to do that, EVER. By the looks of it, I can't go to Holy Thursday or Good Friday, and while the latter two are "optional," it still breaks my heart and I can easily see Easter being sabotaged too. AND NO ONE AROUND ME IS GIVING A RATS AZZ ABOUT IT! I am AFRAID TO TELL ANYONE AT CHURCH because I'm worried they may think I'm not doing enough to choose Jesus over all other obstacles.

 

[Susie~Q]

I am so sorry that you are having to endure all this crap. Satan is really on the rampage and he is using your dad and brother to get to you. Your brother is being a first class jerk, he has no consideration for your feelings, it is all about him Your dad is obviously trying his best as well to keep you from going as well, like I said, satan is using them as tools to prevent you from going to the most important week in the Christian faith.

I honestly think that if you DID share with the folks at church that they would believe you and try to help, I doubt if they would think you were choosing obstacles over Jesus, anyone with any sense would realize you are going through extreme difficulties once they hear the entire situation.

I care and so does the Lord. Hugs my friend.

 

[Michie]

Hi, I had one of the worst days ever. My dad woke me up after only one hour sleep just to bark about nothing. He would not let me sleep for literally 5 hours later, and I don't even know if I fell asleep after that. My head is off. My brother used religion against me by saying "You're religious right? In the New Testament Jesus said we could worship him any day of the week" and "You can always go tomorrow instead" and I hung up on him. My dad has been refusing to get out of bed and drink or eat anything and it's been 9 hours since he woke me up. I'm tempted to leave him home and let him deal with it. My brother is trying to make counseling appointments for my dad directly in conflict with Holy Week when we have the physical/occupational therapists coming over already, plus we are trying to get a hold of the heart doctor (hard to get a hold of) to adjust his statin dosage, and my brother won't wait one more week for the dust to settle. He believes that my "religious days" can always be replaced. I may miss Palm Sunday and I *never ever* wanted to do that, EVER. By the looks of it, I can't go to Holy Thursday or Good Friday, and while the latter two are "optional," it still breaks my heart and I can easily see Easter being sabotaged too. AND NO ONE AROUND ME IS GIVING A RATS AZZ ABOUT IT! I am AFRAID TO TELL ANYONE AT CHURCH because I'm worried they may think I'm not doing enough to choose Jesus over all other obstacles.

You know LB, if he is not cooperating and letting you get the rest you need with your brother piling on… you may need to talk to either the caretakers coming into your home or someone else in the industry. He may need other arrangements.

 

[Susie~Q]

You know LB, if he is not cooperating and letting you get the rest you need with your brother piling on… you may need to talk to either the caretakers coming into your home or someone else in the industry. He may need other arrangements.

Sadly, I just do not think that is possible. Her situation is far worse than she even lets on here. I am a personal friend of hers, the way that brother treats her and the actions of her dad are deplorable, I honestly do not think that there is a thing that can be done short of putting him in a nursing home, and even then, that despicable brother would be a horrid source of torment. At this point only the Holy Spirit and Jesus can do anything as it is going to take a miracle to change the situation.

 

[Michie]

Sadly, I just do not think that is possible. Her situation is far worse than she even lets on here. I am a personal friend of hers, the way that brother treats her and the actions of her dad are deplorable, I honestly do not think that there is a thing that can be done short of putting him in a nursing home, and even then, that despicable brother would be a horrid source of torment. At this point only the Holy Spirit and Jesus can do anything as it is going to take a miracle to change the situation.

I tend to think that there are things that can be done with professional help I don’t think it will be easy but it can be done. Things can’t go on as they are but this has been a long standing family dynamic unfortunately.

 

[Lady Bug]

Sadly, I just do not think that is possible. Her situation is far worse than she even lets on here. I am a personal friend of hers, the way that brother treats her and the actions of her dad are deplorable, I honestly do not think that there is a thing that can be done short of putting him in a nursing home, and even then, that despicable brother would be a horrid source of torment. At this point only the Holy Spirit and Jesus can do anything as it is going to take a miracle to change the situation.

A nursing home is technically the "only" way this situation can be mitigated but I don't know how to achieve it.

I can't decide how much I want to write about it as to why this situation feels so insurmountable. I've never seen such a negative piece of hellhole in my entire darned life (I hate talking about my dad like that). I beg and beg and beg my dad to stop acting the way he is but he doesn't stop. It isn't exactly dementia either. He knows how to do things, technically. His memory isn't that bad but does have senior moments. He is just relentlessly obstinate and won't listen to anything I say.

 

[Michie]

Consult an attorney that practices family law. A consultation should not cost much if anything.

 

[Lady Bug]

Consult an attorney that practices family law. A consultation should not cost much if anything.

I do think I found a potentially good one. I just don't have the courage to ask them because I'm afraid of the answer.

 

[Susie~Q]

A nursing home is technically the "only" way this situation can be mitigated but I don't know how to achieve it.

I can't decide how much I want to write about it as to why this situation feels so insurmountable. I've never seen such a negative piece of hellhole in my entire darned life (I hate talking about my dad like that). I beg and beg and beg my dad to stop acting the way he is but he doesn't stop. It isn't exactly dementia either. He knows how to do things, technically. His memory isn't that bad but does have senior moments. He is just relentlessly obstinate and won't listen to anything I say.

I honestly don't think that he wants to listen or understand. He's so darned set on getting you to leave the church, hell do anything and act anyway that he feels will work. It's horrible, your dad is very stubborn and can easy target for the "enemy" to use as a tool to discourage you in your faith. Hugs

 

[Susie~Q]

I do think I found a potentially good one. I just don't have the courage to ask them because I'm afraid of the answer.

I do think I found a potentially good one. I just don't have the courage to ask them because I'm afraid of the answer.

That could very well open an entire new can of worms. In theory, it seems like a good idea, but in reality, it may back-fire in you big-time. Hugs.

 

[Lady Bug]

I honestly don't think that he wants to listen or understand. He's so darned set on getting you to leave the church, hell do anything and act anyway that he feels will work. It's horrible, your dad is very stubborn and can easy target for the "enemy" to use as a tool to discourage you in your faith. Hugs

I had never told him yesterday about Palm Sunday. The sad thing is that even though he is hell bent on getting me to leave the church, his condition seems real (difficulty standing, walking, dizzy, fall risk).

Why do you think the lawyer thing would open up a can of worms? You can email me instead, but I'm getting tired and may not be able to answer to the best of my ability.

 

[Michie]

I had never told him yesterday about Palm Sunday. The sad thing is that even though he is hell bent on getting me to leave the church, his condition seems real (difficulty standing, walking, dizzy, fall risk).

Why do you think the lawyer thing would open up a can of worms? You can email me instead, but I'm getting tired and may not be able to answer to the best of my ability.

It’s not going to open a can of worms. You are the caretaker and handle his medical decisions. Consultations are not discussed with anyone else. You need to cover your bases and make a decision from there as to how you want to handle things. Family law is the way to go and it helps you avoid further bullying and fear tactics. It protects the whole family and any assets.

 

[mourningdove~]

I can't decide how much I want to write about it as to why this situation feels so insurmountable.

You don't have to say anymore.
I think some of us can read between the lines, and we know and believe this situation is very difficult.

I have been so proud of you, Lady Bug, that you have not lost your faith in Christ throughout all of this.
I do think that would please our enemy very much, to see that happen.
Yet, you have endured.

I hope you can get some rest tonite.
And maybe things will look alittle better, or at least alittle clearer, in the morning.
My prayers are with you.

 

[Lady Bug]

I have been so proud of you, Lady Bug, that you have not lost your faith in Christ throughout all of this.

I hate to tell you this but even though it hasn't happened yet, I'm quite concerned that it will, because I can't see God not giving up on me if I keep forsaking Mass and whatever else.

 

[mourningdove~]

I hate to tell you this but even though it hasn't happened yet, I'm quite concerned that it will, because I can't see God not giving up on me if I keep forsaking Mass and whatever else.

Dear sister, God sees and understands the severity of this situation better than any of us.
I know you are wanting to do everything 'righteously', but the situation you are in is extreme.
And God knows this.

... God also knows your heart.
And He knows you are suffering.

Keep doing the best you can, as you can do it.
Keep asking God for help, when you need it.
And trust Him to be there for you, because He is.
God will not abandon you in your suffering.
He just isn't that way.

 

[Susie~Q]

I had never told him yesterday about Palm Sunday. The sad thing is that even though he is hell bent on getting me to leave the church, his condition seems real (difficulty standing, walking, dizzy, fall risk).

Why do you think the lawyer thing would open up a can of worms? You can email me instead, but I'm getting tired and may not be able to answer to the best of my ability.

The reason I say that is because if things didn't work, your dad and brother could get angry at your going behind their backs contacting a lawyer, they could then make your life even more miserable.

 

[Lady Bug]

Dear sister, God sees and understands the severity of this situation better than any of us.
I know you are wanting to do everything 'righteously', but the situation you are in is extreme.
And God knows this.

... God also knows your heart.
And He knows you are suffering.

Keep doing the best you can, as you can do it.
Keep asking God for help, when you need it.
And trust Him to be there for you, because He is.
God will not abandon you in your suffering.
He just isn't that way.

I hate to say this but some people do suffer dearly under pressure, and suffer with their life. People can get heart attacks, aneurysms, dementia, and whatever, under this kind of extreme stress. I don't want this to happen to me.

 

[mourningdove~]

I hate to say this but some people do suffer dearly under pressure, and suffer with their life. People can get heart attacks, aneurysms, dementia, and whatever, under this kind of extreme stress. I don't want this to happen to me.

I don't want that to happen to you either. {hugg}

If you ever think you are reaching that point ...
where your health is being severely pushed to the limits ...
I hope you will reach out for some help.

A counselor? Social worker? Your priest? (A lawyer?)
Maybe if someone knows your story, they can help you.

If your priest knows your story, that might help alot in alleviating some of the guilt you are feeling over your faith struggles. I personally do think your confessor should know the truth, so he can know how to best counsel you.

 

[Lady Bug]

I don't want that to happen to you either. {hugg}

If you ever think you are reaching that point ...
where your health is being severely pushed to the limits ...
I hope you will reach out for some help.

A counselor? Social worker? Your priest? (A lawyer?)
Maybe if someone knows your story, they can help you.

If your priest knows your story, that might help alot in alleviating some of the guilt you are feeling over your faith struggles. I personally do think your confessor should know the truth, so he can know how to best counsel you.

The situation here makes it hard to find a good day where I can sort of drive. I want to talk about things like this in person, not on the phone if I can help it. Since I've been hopping from parish to parish for Mass attendance, I feel that I don't have a "home priest" to talk to, which makes me sad.

I have to admit, I'm scared to reach out for help. I know one lady who might be excellent, but I'm worried she'll think that I'm only contacting her when I need something.

 

[Susie~Q]

It’s not going to open a can of worms. You are the caretaker and handle his medical decisions. Consultations are not discussed with anyone else. You need to cover your bases and make a decision from there as to how you want to handle things. Family law is the way to go and it helps you avoid further bullying and fear tactics. It protects the whole family and any assets.

I know what you are saying, but even though this is LB's right, the family could make it extremely difficult for her, I don't think her brother has any fear of any law, he thinks he is "Mr Perfect" and this could very well through her dad in more of a rage. I am telling you, I have been corresponding for over a year, I think I am on to how that family of hers thinks, it isn't a normal situation and I fear for her.