I just need to share and talk with others who may have gone through the same thing I am.
My husband is bi-polar and refuses to get help. He is a self medicator. We almost separated last year. He was staying out all the time, was down right mean to me and who knows what else. He decided he didn't love me any more, said some really really hurtful things.I had found my peace with God on the situtation and was ready to let him go as he wanted. I was so afraid of being alone but God took over and gave me strength. It was an aweful time but as I said I found my peace. Well, he decided he didn't want to leave and wanted to work things out. We had a long talk and some changes were made. He no longer went out every night, he started going back to church, he found a new job and we began repairing our relationship. The months that followed were some of the best we had.
I thought things were going well but the lies have started back up. He expects so much of me and my kids...we feel like we can't live up to his standards. It would take days to write everything. I don't know what to do. I feel so broken right now. I know with out meds he won't ever change. He is such a maniuplator...even whe I know he is in the wrong he turns it around on me and succeeds in making me feel guilty and apologizing. I am struggling with being mad at myself for being so weak....
Please does anyone have any advice??? And most of all prayers please pray
My husband is bi-polar and refuses to get help. He is a self medicator. We almost separated last year. He was staying out all the time, was down right mean to me and who knows what else. He decided he didn't love me any more, said some really really hurtful things.I had found my peace with God on the situtation and was ready to let him go as he wanted. I was so afraid of being alone but God took over and gave me strength. It was an aweful time but as I said I found my peace. Well, he decided he didn't want to leave and wanted to work things out. We had a long talk and some changes were made. He no longer went out every night, he started going back to church, he found a new job and we began repairing our relationship. The months that followed were some of the best we had.
I thought things were going well but the lies have started back up. He expects so much of me and my kids...we feel like we can't live up to his standards. It would take days to write everything. I don't know what to do. I feel so broken right now. I know with out meds he won't ever change. He is such a maniuplator...even whe I know he is in the wrong he turns it around on me and succeeds in making me feel guilty and apologizing. I am struggling with being mad at myself for being so weak....
Please does anyone have any advice??? And most of all prayers please pray