Why do some people ask you your first AND LAST name immediately upon meeting you? Does it bother you if they do? Do you do that with people?

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Without going into extreme detail, I've met 3 people recently who I had never seen before, ask me not only my first name, which seems normal enough, but their next question is "What's your last name?" I was talking about this with someone at church and no sooner did we finish talking about it, that the 3rd person to do it sat down next to me at dinner and those were the first two questions out of their mouth. The timing was an uncanny coincidence. Does this seem strange to you that people do that? If so, why? Does it bother you? Why or why not? To me, it's strange, and I'm tempted to ask, "Are you a private investigator? Police detective? Are you a designated church person whose job it is to run back ground checks on everybody that shows up at this church, behind their backs, so that you know if they are a convicted felon? (All three instances for me were at a church). It doesn't upset me as much as it's baffling to me. I know that some people voluntarily offer their first and last names upon first meeting, like two men shaking hands and one says, "Bob Jones." That's not the same thing cause it's voluntary, and that's not odd to me.

Are you in the small minority of people who care enough immediately up meeting someone the first time to ask their last name? Why do you do it? What are you going to do with that information? It's difficult enough for me to remember first names at church, so I don't clutter up my brain with their last name. I'll learn it eventually anyway if I attend long enough, through church directories, general discussion amongst attendees, prayer requests, class emails, class rolls, or printed on paper such as bulletins, committee lists, church newsletters, etc.

In a similar fashion, I've had people I just met ask me my name and phone number and watched them enter it into their cell phone, when I never have seen them before or since. Both times it was males in their 20s. I happen to be male and they didn't seem gay or hitting on me. Once was in a church singles group, and another was just a guy walking around near a campus when I was practicing guitar on the sidewalk and he stopped briefly and talked for less than 5 minutes about a certain presidential candidate. I could only imagine that one day they'd be delving into network marketing and in order to build their downline, they contact everyone they've ever met to try and talk them into selling Amway, or whatever. Why would anyone do that? It's just bizarre.
I would avoid those people. They are up to no good and probably know each other. It seems like they are scoping you out and/or other people out; it could be leading to identity theft, looking for vulnerable people who they can use in some way! Not sure but that’s a lot of nerves!

However, once they see that you are uncomfortable, they might follow you to fake being nice! If they realize you would rather not be around them, to quickly cover their intrusive behavior, people like that are capable of spreading lies. So those type of people are to be treated with caution. Check with others you are only very close to and see how they feel.

There is something strange going on!

Think about your possessions and have you recently discussed any assets with anyone: Insurance, retirement, inheritance, etc.
 
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So how would you answer them? I've toyed with the idea of saying, "Ask me next time you see me." They may not get the hint, or they might think I have something to hide. I figure that 2 things are likely to happen, 1) They don't remember to ask me again the next time they see me, just cause they forgot, or take the hint and don't bother to ask. 2) Or, I never see them again.
Ask them straight out why are they asking for your last name. Then look them straight in the eye while they try and find a reasonable answer. After they struggle to answer you, say, ok, I’ll see you later. And leave them standing where they are, if that’s possible!
 
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Personally, I prefer that the person asks for my first and last name. It can sometimes be hard to spell, pronounce. Plus it shows me the individual is interested in me.
 
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Ask them straight out why are they asking for your last name. Then look them straight in the eye while they try and find a reasonable answer.
There's a car accident with life-threatening injuries. The man's name is James McLean. Is it the single James or the married James with 4 kids and a wife who will need financial support as well as prayers?
Single James name is Morris and married James is McLean.
There are many good and honest reasons to know someone's full name such as being helpful to that person if they need you.

When I moved to this small town 40 some yrs. ago almost everyone I met on the street, in a store, or in the church wanted to know my full name. I wasn't offended nor was I paranoid that they were up to no good.
 
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There's a car accident with life-threatening injuries. The man's name is James McLean. Is it the single James or the married James with 4 kids and a wife who will need financial support as well as prayers?
Single James name is Morris and married James is McLean.
There are many good and honest reasons to know someone's full name such as being helpful to that person if they need you.

When I moved to this small town 40 some yrs. ago almost everyone I met on the street, in a store, or in the church wanted to know my full name. I wasn't offended nor was I paranoid that they were up to no good.
Your example is not the case at all. No one injured will refuse their first and last name for medical reasons. Please be reasonable with wise examples. It doesn’t matter about your small town, it’s obvious this is not the case in the OP.

It is not a normal practice in the US for people to ask for your first and last name. So there should be suspicion and caution considering all of the fraudulent schemes going on today. Do I need to name the many hundred of identity thefts going, the many elderly being schemed out of their money, the many foreigners stealing people’s social security numbers, the many fraud phone calls scamming people out of their Medicare, etc., etc., the many home buyers whose never received their home after paying large down payments, the many home remodeling scams, etc., etc.
 
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It is not a normal practice in the US for people to ask for your first and last name.
I think it depends on where you live and the environment, such as church or your kid's school, where you are meeting people.
That's why I gave the example of a small town.

There are three questions in the OP headline and I tried to give somewhat of an answer to two of those questions.

If someone wants name, address, and age all they have to do is grab that information from several websites online. All the victims a criminal wants are readily available.
 
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Personally, I prefer that the person asks for my first and last name. It can sometimes be hard to spell, pronounce. Plus it shows me the individual is interested in me.
Same here.
 
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Without going into extreme detail, I've met 3 people recently who I had never seen before, ask me not only my first name, which seems normal enough, but their next question is "What's your last name?" I was talking about this with someone at church and no sooner did we finish talking about it, that the 3rd person to do it sat down next to me at dinner and those were the first two questions out of their mouth. The timing was an uncanny coincidence. Does this seem strange to you that people do that? If so, why? Does it bother you? Why or why not? To me, it's strange, and I'm tempted to ask, "Are you a private investigator? Police detective? Are you a designated church person whose job it is to run back ground checks on everybody that shows up at this church, behind their backs, so that you know if they are a convicted felon? (All three instances for me were at a church). It doesn't upset me as much as it's baffling to me. I know that some people voluntarily offer their first and last names upon first meeting, like two men shaking hands and one says, "Bob Jones." That's not the same thing cause it's voluntary, and that's not odd to me.

Are you in the small minority of people who care enough immediately up meeting someone the first time to ask their last name? Why do you do it? What are you going to do with that information? It's difficult enough for me to remember first names at church, so I don't clutter up my brain with their last name. I'll learn it eventually anyway if I attend long enough, through church directories, general discussion amongst attendees, prayer requests, class emails, class rolls, or printed on paper such as bulletins, committee lists, church newsletters, etc.

In a similar fashion, I've had people I just met ask me my name and phone number and watched them enter it into their cell phone, when I never have seen them before or since. Both times it was males in their 20s. I happen to be male and they didn't seem gay or hitting on me. Once was in a church singles group, and another was just a guy walking around near a campus when I was practicing guitar on the sidewalk and he stopped briefly and talked for less than 5 minutes about a certain presidential candidate. I could only imagine that one day they'd be delving into network marketing and in order to build their downline, they contact everyone they've ever met to try and talk them into selling Amway, or whatever. Why would anyone do that? It's just bizarre.
I find it strange, people who ask personal details sometimes have some weird hidden agenda. When people ask too much info of me idk what they're doing with that info, sometimes i wonder if it's some odd occultic thing where they want as much info about me as possible to do something sinister. I don't give my info away. I don't recommend you do so either.
 
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I know the only reason I would ever want to know someone's last name is so I can know their ethnicity. I want know if they're German, Norwegian, English or whatever... Kind of a background check, though I never have the audacity to Google people and delve into their personal lives. I don't like those types of people, in fact, I consider them nosey and generally horrible individuals... Kind of like the weird type who would snoop through your dresser drawers or bathroom cabinets when you're not looking... Maybe even smell your clothes.
 
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