I am used to having a ministry of support. I recently volunteered to lead worship as part of our evening bible study.
As a one-off I understood that the Study leader would play a CD, as it fitted in with the theme.
Then we were on holiday for a week.
The use of a CD continued for 2 weeks, until I asked whether the leader thought what I was doing wasn't "good enough". I didn't say this aggressively but I suppose it was rather pointed.
Although there was a soft explanation given (as before), it was clear that the leader was very hurt. He is now trying to over-compensate by inviting me to actually do the Bible Study itself (when he is away though)
I now feel wretched, as if he feels I have attacked him and his ministry.
As my wife says, it's all about communication isn't it?
Isn't the member's guilt the way leaders exercise control?
As a one-off I understood that the Study leader would play a CD, as it fitted in with the theme.
Then we were on holiday for a week.
The use of a CD continued for 2 weeks, until I asked whether the leader thought what I was doing wasn't "good enough". I didn't say this aggressively but I suppose it was rather pointed.
Although there was a soft explanation given (as before), it was clear that the leader was very hurt. He is now trying to over-compensate by inviting me to actually do the Bible Study itself (when he is away though)
I now feel wretched, as if he feels I have attacked him and his ministry.
As my wife says, it's all about communication isn't it?
Isn't the member's guilt the way leaders exercise control?