"I know you're a bit pernickety with your food." This was said to me when I was really ill and still going to work, and could only eat certain, very limited foods otherwise I was in agony. Hmmm!
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"I know you're a bit pernickety with your food." This was said to me when I was really ill and still going to work, and could only eat certain, very limited foods otherwise I was in agony. Hmmm!
I've given up listening any more to the unhelpful comments, but it can hurt if you are not wise to them.
I used to get very hurt by some of these things but now I am older and wiser (I THINK !) I have learnt not to care too much what others say to me, and that truly has come with age. I feel for those who still get hurt by these things though. I just wish that people were more understanding to those who are sick.
Agree with you Colleen and Dr. Jean. I feel sad because so often it is the people in the Church, on whom we should be able to rely for compassion and understanding, who say the worst things. It is so hard to find a Church where you can be, where you are understood. That is my biggest problem at the moment. Sometimes, whatever you say, and however you say it, you know that you are not being heard. Church is one of the hardest places to be in my experience. Sad.
There are a lot of churches that teach all illness is a result of personal sin, and particularly lack of faith. This is false doctrine and extremely harmful. I highly recommend avoiding such places as they do not glorify God and can do tremendous damage, often to a degree of being spiritual abuse.
Having said that, I think it's also important to remember that Christians are just as fallen as everyone else, just forgiven by the grace of God. So people in church don't always respond as they should when faced with a person who is ill or disabled. It can be a situation that God uses to teach us patience and even maybe to help disciple them so they understand how to have mercy on those who are not well.
Agree with you Colleen and Dr. Jean. I feel sad because so often it is the people in the Church, on whom we should be able to rely for compassion and understanding, who say the worst things. It is so hard to find a Church where you can be, where you are understood. That is my biggest problem at the moment. Sometimes, whatever you say, and however you say it, you know that you are not being heard. Church is one of the hardest places to be in my experience. Sad.
pink kitty, thankyou for your prayers. God bless you.
Thankyou Colleen. You are very kind. I do feel at home here. You have made me welcome.