I am not really sure where to post this - but it does involve my parents so I guess here...
My father was in the hospital for a month following a stroke and to make a very, very long story short the only option we were left with was to put him in hospice for a few days until we could get together a group home for him to stay in. The hospital staff was fairly clear in wanting him out so they could qualify for their medicare payment; and I get that stance.
(The hospital staff said that sending him home with mom and I would not be safe for any of us as he couldn't walk)
He was in hospice for two days - when we found him horribly ill and were told that they were starving him so he would die in a good way... They said it didn't matter that he was talking and alert when they started this though, ect..
After what seemed like a lifetime trying to get him revoked and out(paramedics don't seem to have an obligation to respond to a dying person in hospice) we got him treatment at a hospital. I've been told by DHS that all procedures were followed correctly in his care.
Hospice's last statement is that the Doctors at the hospital had ordered this for him...
My mother is not doing well since this. She is emotional, reclusive, easily angered... just not herself.
I felt I needed to try to get her more answers so she can heal from what we went through. So I contacted the Doctors/staff at the hospital that recommended and released him to that hospice; telling them very clearly that I was told that they followed procedures but I would like someone to give me more information as to what exactly the procedures are. (I did not bring my mothers need to know into this - I didn't want to make her grief public, so I threw myself under the bus and begged for some of my many needs for help in understanding)..
Today I received an email from a lawyer they retained telling me I am to cease contacting anyone associated with the hospital. Now I have no answers to help my mother - or me, have a lawyer after me and apparently lost the specialist I was referred to because he is classified as affiliated with the hospital.
I just don't understand
My father was in the hospital for a month following a stroke and to make a very, very long story short the only option we were left with was to put him in hospice for a few days until we could get together a group home for him to stay in. The hospital staff was fairly clear in wanting him out so they could qualify for their medicare payment; and I get that stance.
(The hospital staff said that sending him home with mom and I would not be safe for any of us as he couldn't walk)
He was in hospice for two days - when we found him horribly ill and were told that they were starving him so he would die in a good way... They said it didn't matter that he was talking and alert when they started this though, ect..
After what seemed like a lifetime trying to get him revoked and out(paramedics don't seem to have an obligation to respond to a dying person in hospice) we got him treatment at a hospital. I've been told by DHS that all procedures were followed correctly in his care.
Hospice's last statement is that the Doctors at the hospital had ordered this for him...
My mother is not doing well since this. She is emotional, reclusive, easily angered... just not herself.
I felt I needed to try to get her more answers so she can heal from what we went through. So I contacted the Doctors/staff at the hospital that recommended and released him to that hospice; telling them very clearly that I was told that they followed procedures but I would like someone to give me more information as to what exactly the procedures are. (I did not bring my mothers need to know into this - I didn't want to make her grief public, so I threw myself under the bus and begged for some of my many needs for help in understanding)..
Today I received an email from a lawyer they retained telling me I am to cease contacting anyone associated with the hospital. Now I have no answers to help my mother - or me, have a lawyer after me and apparently lost the specialist I was referred to because he is classified as affiliated with the hospital.
I just don't understand
