Hello Friends,
First I want to thank you all for taking the time to read this. I really appreciate your time.
Long story short, my fiancée and I split up a couple years ago and had two boys together. They was both super young between the ages of 1-4. It was very shocking to me when this all came about and basically never seen it coming. It had left me devastated, scared, and hundred emotions all at once. I can literally say it was the hardest thing I’ve dealt with.
My ex and I share joint custody and have our boys each the same amount of time every week. I grew way closer than ever with my boys during this time because now it was just them and I at home. We also was going through the same thing of adjustment and has built a great bond between us.
Ever since this all happened the boys kind of always have enjoyed spending time at my house more rather than going with my ex. I don’t think it was anything personal, I just believe they had more fun with me. We are always doing stuff together and going 90 to nothing on playing or activities of some sort.
Anyhow, my oldest is in school now and learning a lot and I’m super proud of him. He really doesn’t seem like his same self anymore. It’s hard to describe but he doesn’t seem like he really wants to talk to me about anything anymore. He gets angry if you ask him questions about school or about the time he had with mommy. Just seems like he doesn’t want to talk about it and I generally try and respect that. He used to randomly tell me he loves me and other sweet things and again he doesn’t really do that anymore. I don’t know if he is just getting older and feels the need not to do it anymore. It made me feel great and I loved that feeling. Made me feel rewarded as I’m doing a good job.
My youngest recently informed me that he has more fun at mommies now and enjoys staying there more than my house. Somehow we randomly got on that topic. He is around 4 years of age. He has said multiple times in the past over the stretch of time he liked my house better. I know this isn’t a competition and nor do I want it to be. But, that really broke my heart and I know I should be happy he is having a good time there by all means. But it did make me sad. I didn’t let him know that of course. How should I stop worrying about if he is having fun with me or her? I would love to have that connection like we used to where they was so happy to be with me. They aren’t not happy by any means but just feel like they are both not the same as they used to be. I suppose it also could be me as well maybe I’m different than I was before.
I just try and be a great dad at the end of the day. I love them unconditionally. I have so much anxiety/fears of what the future holds with them and our relationship. Moving away and other random fears. Any advice would be greatly appreciated
First I want to thank you all for taking the time to read this. I really appreciate your time.
Long story short, my fiancée and I split up a couple years ago and had two boys together. They was both super young between the ages of 1-4. It was very shocking to me when this all came about and basically never seen it coming. It had left me devastated, scared, and hundred emotions all at once. I can literally say it was the hardest thing I’ve dealt with.
My ex and I share joint custody and have our boys each the same amount of time every week. I grew way closer than ever with my boys during this time because now it was just them and I at home. We also was going through the same thing of adjustment and has built a great bond between us.
Ever since this all happened the boys kind of always have enjoyed spending time at my house more rather than going with my ex. I don’t think it was anything personal, I just believe they had more fun with me. We are always doing stuff together and going 90 to nothing on playing or activities of some sort.
Anyhow, my oldest is in school now and learning a lot and I’m super proud of him. He really doesn’t seem like his same self anymore. It’s hard to describe but he doesn’t seem like he really wants to talk to me about anything anymore. He gets angry if you ask him questions about school or about the time he had with mommy. Just seems like he doesn’t want to talk about it and I generally try and respect that. He used to randomly tell me he loves me and other sweet things and again he doesn’t really do that anymore. I don’t know if he is just getting older and feels the need not to do it anymore. It made me feel great and I loved that feeling. Made me feel rewarded as I’m doing a good job.
My youngest recently informed me that he has more fun at mommies now and enjoys staying there more than my house. Somehow we randomly got on that topic. He is around 4 years of age. He has said multiple times in the past over the stretch of time he liked my house better. I know this isn’t a competition and nor do I want it to be. But, that really broke my heart and I know I should be happy he is having a good time there by all means. But it did make me sad. I didn’t let him know that of course. How should I stop worrying about if he is having fun with me or her? I would love to have that connection like we used to where they was so happy to be with me. They aren’t not happy by any means but just feel like they are both not the same as they used to be. I suppose it also could be me as well maybe I’m different than I was before.
I just try and be a great dad at the end of the day. I love them unconditionally. I have so much anxiety/fears of what the future holds with them and our relationship. Moving away and other random fears. Any advice would be greatly appreciated