Im sorry Lord I fell again...can anyone help me?

[Harley.]

I gave my life to Christ about 2 months back. And BOY is there alot of fixing up to do, obviously as I was SWIMMING in sin. I dont commit blasphemy anymore (saying things like "oh my God") and my swearing is pretty much gone besides the occasional slip up here and there. Overall I see Christ working through me! Even just after two months!

However there is one sin I cant beat, sexual sin.

I fall, repent, tell God im sorry, say I wont do it again. And what do I do a few days later? I do it again.

Idek if my repentance is true at this point? Cause if it was, why would I still be doing it?!!

I hate myself for it, I tell myself I wont do it again, that I will stay strong, but then I do it again. idk what to do.

I dont plan on stopping the fight, or giving in. But it is hard to continue fighting if you never win yknow? How do I stop this?!

 

[Guy fromNB]

It's important to remember that we will never be perfect on this earth (Philippians3:12) no matter the progress we can make. We will only be when Jesus will take us with Him. We all fail or fall from time to time, though it's not an excuse to let ourselves go. But I think you are doing the right thing, praying to God to help you. That's what David was doing in his Psalms.

 

[Tranquil Bondservant]

Separate yourself from things that lead to sin, including being around people who live blatantly in sexual immorality that drag you down with them. If you struggle with Porn on your phone buy a dumb phone that doesn't have a browser but can still call and text, if it's on your PC turn it off and do literally anything else until you HAVE to use it for work. Don't browse, don't do anything but what you have to. Fast from the internet, PC, your phone or w/e you're using for a few days and do other things instead like reading or listening to The Bible, reading or listening to Christian books, watching sermons, watching Christian youtubers (like The Bible Project or Ten Minute Bible Hour) & etc. These are all acts of faith in keeping with repentance, they don't merit you anything but they are harmonious with the life that has been given you. It's really hard & inconvenient sometimes to give stuff up but like Lord Christ said "If your right hand makes you stumble, cut it off and throw it from you; for it is better for you to lose one of the parts of your body than for your whole body to go into Gehenna".

There's a quote from a church father that I have found helpful, though it's not The Bible so it's not true all the time but it still can be profitable to keep in mind.
"He who does not voluntarily withdraw himself from the causes of the passions is involuntarily drawn away by sin." -St. Isaac the Syrian
Now this isn't always the case, there have been times in my life where I've felt drawn away by sin already but have prayed and God has helped me and delivered me from temptation but it is a good general rule for removing strongholds in your life.

God's with you and He will never forsake you but always keep in mind that it's not a license to sin. In fact it's the opposite.

Also pray. Talk to your Creator, He loves you. Ask Him to help in your sanctification, to reveal the right paths that will lead to success and strength, to help you walk on those paths and to deliver you from all temptation & evil. Do everything in & with prayer.

God bless mate

 

[Sabertooth]

However there is one sin I cant beat, sexual sin.

Sexual sin is only on-topic at the following sub-forums (whichever applies),

• Struggles with Sexuality
• Men's Corner
• I thought that there was a Women's sub-forum, too, but I cannot find it.

 

[Jonaitis]

I gave my life to Christ about 2 months back. And BOY is there alot of fixing up to do, obviously as I was SWIMMING in sin. I dont commit blasphemy anymore (saying things like "oh my God") and my swearing is pretty much gone besides the occasional slip up here and there. Overall I see Christ working through me! Even just after two months!

However there is one sin I cant beat, sexual sin.

I fall, repent, tell God im sorry, say I wont do it again. And what do I do a few days later? I do it again.

Idek if my repentance is true at this point? Cause if it was, why would I still be doing it?!!

I hate myself for it, I tell myself I wont do it again, that I will stay strong, but then I do it again. idk what to do.

I dont plan on stopping the fight, or giving in. But it is hard to continue fighting if you never win yknow? How do I stop this?!

In our religiosity, we forget that we are intelligent animals. We may have evolved intelligently to better adapt with our environment, but we are still prone to sexual arousal and natural urges. It is a part of us that is more physiological than psychological. This is not to say that we can't overcome these feelings, but that we should remember it is a normal body response to sexual stimuli, so it is rather how we use it that should be reformed. Sin begins when your mind follows your sexual stress toward inappropriate behaviors as a response to it.

If you recognise this, then you can appropriately learn to control what needs to be controlled. It is not wrong to be sexually aroused in and of itself, but it is what you take away from it. Do you run to pornography, or sleep around, or fantasize? Or do you find ways to release that stress into other activities? Your mind is not tempted, but you keep thinking that. It is your body, the mind is creating scenarios to satisfy those urges. You have the power to direct those physical urges. I know people who can release that kind of stress at the gym when they push themselves. It is a good way to make use of that sky rocketing levels of testosterones in your body.

In Romans, Paul said that renewal begins with the mind, and I found this principle true.

 

[Maria Billingsley]

I gave my life to Christ about 2 months back. And BOY is there alot of fixing up to do, obviously as I was SWIMMING in sin. I dont commit blasphemy anymore (saying things like "oh my God") and my swearing is pretty much gone besides the occasional slip up here and there. Overall I see Christ working through me! Even just after two months!

However there is one sin I cant beat, sexual sin.

I fall, repent, tell God im sorry, say I wont do it again. And what do I do a few days later? I do it again.

Idek if my repentance is true at this point? Cause if it was, why would I still be doing it?!!

I hate myself for it, I tell myself I wont do it again, that I will stay strong, but then I do it again. idk what to do.

I dont plan on stopping the fight, or giving in. But it is hard to continue fighting if you never win yknow? How do I stop this?!

I dont know what type of sexual sin you are encountering. There are two common types, fornication and adultry. Then there are sexual acts that are unthinkable to the normal person. You are obviously burdened deeply by your particular sin . As a Christian His Holy Spirit dwells in us. It is up to us not to quench His work while He conforms us to His image. Repentance is changing your mind. There will be an " a ha" moment when you truly repent then your burden will disappear. Have patience and walk in His Holy Spirt daily. Blessings.

 

[St_Worm2]

I gave my life to Christ about 2 months back. And BOY is there alot of fixing up to do, obviously as I was SWIMMING in sin. I dont commit blasphemy anymore (saying things like "oh my God") and my swearing is pretty much gone besides the occasional slip up here and there. Overall I see Christ working through me! Even just after two months! However there is one sin I cant beat, sexual sin. I fall, repent, tell God im sorry, say I wont do it again. And what do I do a few days later? I do it again. Idek if my repentance is true at this point? Cause if it was, why would I still be doing it?!! I hate myself for it, I tell myself I wont do it again, that I will stay strong, but then I do it again. idk what to do. I dont plan on stopping the fight, or giving in. But it is hard to continue fighting if you never win yknow? How do I stop this?!

Hello Ggz, I'm sorry to hear about your struggle with sexual sin! It's a particularly tough one for us all, so know that you are hardly alone in this struggle. Unfortunately, this fact is not lost on our common enemy, and as such, it is a sin that he tempts us with regularly

This is why it is so important (particularly as a new believer) to stay in/dig deep into God's word, because the truth that is found there is His principal means of sanctifying us (of making us more and more Christlike/less and less sinful) .. e.g. John 17:17 cf Joshua 1:8; Psalm 1:1-3, 119:9,11,105; Romans 12:2; 2 Timothy 3:16-17. In fact, the better that you come to know and understand God's word, the better and more quickly you will be able to recognize Satan's lies/half-truths/deceptions for what they truly are, and by doing so, be able to immediately REFUSE them/take them "captive" (as the Bible instructs us to do) .. 2 Corinthians 10:5.

What is important for us to do after that is to choose to take God at His word (always choosing to believe/trust Him/trust that what He tells you is true), no matter what Satan and your feelings are telling you to the contrary in the moment. This can be very hard to do at times, especially at first (to trust/believe God ~in spite~ of what your feelings are telling you), but it is, nevertheless, something that we must learn to do (it becomes easier to do with application and time ).

That said, perhaps the most important thing for you to always remember is how much God loves you, so much so that He chose to die to save you (so that you would not have to live out eternity apart from Him, nor He apart from you).

It's also important to realize/remember that God knew EVERYTHING about you (every sin that you committed in the past, and every sin that you're committing now, or will commit in the future) and He chose to save you anyway In fact, God's love for you is just like He is, "from everlasting" .. Jeremiah 31:3. So, there was never a time in eternity past (IOW, LONG before you existed) when He did not know you and love you (as His future adopted child .. Ephesians 1:4-6), nor will there ever be such a time, now, or forevermore

This is why Pastor/Theologian Charles Spurgeon once wrote (at the end of one of his daily devotionals),

"Everlasting love shall be the pillow for my head this night" .. Morning & Evening, Feb 27th, Evening.
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This is also why missionary/author Elisabeth Elliot began most of her radio broadcasts with this message to her listeners,

"You are loved with an everlasting love, that's what the Bible says, and underneath are the everlasting arms."
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So, continue to grow in His word, and be steadfast in your faith and in your battle against sin, resisting the devil and your feelings on the one hand, while choosing to believe/trust/take God at His word on the other (no matter what), and things will (eventually) become very much better for you (BTW, I believe that our choosing to take EVERY thought that is opposed to the truth "captive" .. 2 Corinthians 10:5, is the principal way that we keep our temptations from turning into sins, as well the way that we obey another command, one that comes with a wonderful promise attached to it, "resist the devil ... and he will flee from you" .. James 4:7).

Praying for you!

God bless you!! (e.g. 1 Thessalonians 5:23-24; cf Hebrews 7:25; Jude 24-25)

--David
p.s. - God has given us an ongoing remedy for our sins (as believers), and has promised us what He will do whenever we choose to use it (His remedy, that is). See 1 John 1:9. So if you fall for future temptations and sin (and sadly, you will), continue to use the remedy He's provided you with, choose to believe/trust Him at His word (that you have truly been forgiven and cleansed), and then get up and get back into the battle

Finally, here's an important thought for you to consider and remember, and hopefully, be encouraged by too (from theologian/pastor A. W. Pink).

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[St_Worm2]

Hello again @Ggz, one last thing, consider all that is said about temptation and sin (and particularly, about God) in this verse (as what it says, and what He promises us here, is both important and wonderful for us to know, understand, and remember ).

1 Corinthians 10
13 No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, that you may be able to endure it.
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God bless you!!

--David

 

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[.Mikha'el.]

Sexual sin is only on-topic at the following sub-forums (whichever applies),

• Struggles with Sexuality
• Men's Corner
• I thought that there was a Women's sub-forum, too, but I cannot find it.

There is a women's forum, but the way the site is set up, men can never see into the women's section, and vice-versa, regardless of how high up the chain of command one is.

 

[Sabertooth]

There is a women's forum, but the way the site is set up, men can never see into the women's section, and vice-versa, regardless of how high up the chain of command one is.

So, do ?s see both or neither...?

 

[.Mikha'el.]

Having an "?" only means that one's gender is hidden from public viewing. Admins will still have access to that info, so unless that person has asked for access to the corresponding section, such members would see neither.

 

[Lucy Lou]

I gave my life to Christ about 2 months back. And BOY is there alot of fixing up to do, obviously as I was SWIMMING in sin. I dont commit blasphemy anymore (saying things like "oh my God") and my swearing is pretty much gone besides the occasional slip up here and there. Overall I see Christ working through me! Even just after two months!

However there is one sin I cant beat, sexual sin.

I fall, repent, tell God im sorry, say I wont do it again. And what do I do a few days later? I do it again.

Idek if my repentance is true at this point? Cause if it was, why would I still be doing it?!!

I hate myself for it, I tell myself I wont do it again, that I will stay strong, but then I do it again. idk what to do.

I dont plan on stopping the fight, or giving in. But it is hard to continue fighting if you never win yknow? How do I stop this?!

Perhaps you haven't asked God in earnest to help you...I have been taught, he wants to hear from you...and this is a saying I have heard at my church so many times, "If you fall down, get up and brush the dirt off your knees and try again...this site may help.

 

[Sabertooth]

@Ggz, learn to deal with your sex drive in non-sinful ways.

Teens and Masturbation - The Marriage Bed

Guest author Dale Kaufman, a youth minister of many years, explains his view on how masturbation can be a God-honoring way to deal with sexual temptation.

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Why Didn't God Call It Sin? - The Marriage Bed

A simple step-by-step exploration of why God didn't clearly say that masturbation is a sin.

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