I've been divorced for 3 years after a 20 year marriage to a "Christian" woman. She dumped me for her ex high school boyfriend who is an alcoholic sports fanatic. Never a dull moment with him... They deserve each other.
I've seen dozens of long-term marriages fail over the past decade or so. Most of those have been in the church.
In nearly every single case, it was the woman who initiated the split. And in nearly every single case, she left the man for a "bad boy"...
The girl I'm dating now has been married twice. The first one was a physically and emotionally abusive narcissist cop who left her. The second one was an end times survivalist nut job who ended up robbing a bank.
She's done with bad boys and is just blown away by someone who is polite, respectful, thoughtful, and opens doors for her.
One thing she told me last week really stuck with me. She said that even though she found me attractive, she wouldn't have agreed to go out with me because I exuded confidence and cockiness that didn't appeal to her. She thought my swagger and machismo (her terms) meant that I didn't respect women. She only went out with me because a mutual friend said I was super nice.
She told me that within fifteen minutes of us talking, she knew I was a genuine person and was interested in dating me. After talking for 3 hours, she knew we would end up in a serious relationship if I wanted one.