Hi everyone,
I am in desperate need of some advise. As a PW I literaly dont have anyone to talk to. My situation is a little different from most because I came to El Salvador as an assistant missionary and ended up marring a wonderful pastor here. He is a great pastor however like most pastors he neglects his family 24-7. We have been married 5 almost 6 years and have 3 children. During this time we have had many problems mostly due to personality differences and imposible expectations. I have never been able to feel free to speak to anyone about our problems or his imposible expectations. This is due to the fact that I don´t want any of my family or friends (who have never met him) to dislike him or think bad of him. I feel like I can´t talk to anyone here (El Salvador) because word travels very fast here and in one way or another it will affect the church.
That´s why I am here.
He has not spoken to me for 4 days now because he is mad. I made a mistake of telling a sister to stop making food at a certain point for a leaders dinner without knowing that he said to do a certain amount then I said one word (Yes) in a disrespectful manner and he got mad. This happened in the evening and after the event I had to take the children home and ended up falling asleep before he came home. The next morning upon waking I apologized but since that moment he hasn´t spoken to me except to answer my questions with a yes or no or very short reply. I have made food and he has refused to eat it. In short we have not sat down as a whole family in days and I feel a huge strain. This is going to affect our children. It is such a small issue in my mind that I just don´t understand where this is coming from.
He is always with the youth or on rare occasions that he is home he sleeps during the time the family is awake and watches his action movies when we are asleep or makes us go to another part of the house. The only time he seeks me out is when he is in ¨need¨.
He has never iniciated a celebration such as anniverary or birthday and in the almost six years I have received a total of 4 gifts including flowers.
There are times I just don´t know how much more I can take. I am so tired of being alone.
I am in desperate need of some advise. As a PW I literaly dont have anyone to talk to. My situation is a little different from most because I came to El Salvador as an assistant missionary and ended up marring a wonderful pastor here. He is a great pastor however like most pastors he neglects his family 24-7. We have been married 5 almost 6 years and have 3 children. During this time we have had many problems mostly due to personality differences and imposible expectations. I have never been able to feel free to speak to anyone about our problems or his imposible expectations. This is due to the fact that I don´t want any of my family or friends (who have never met him) to dislike him or think bad of him. I feel like I can´t talk to anyone here (El Salvador) because word travels very fast here and in one way or another it will affect the church.
That´s why I am here.
He has not spoken to me for 4 days now because he is mad. I made a mistake of telling a sister to stop making food at a certain point for a leaders dinner without knowing that he said to do a certain amount then I said one word (Yes) in a disrespectful manner and he got mad. This happened in the evening and after the event I had to take the children home and ended up falling asleep before he came home. The next morning upon waking I apologized but since that moment he hasn´t spoken to me except to answer my questions with a yes or no or very short reply. I have made food and he has refused to eat it. In short we have not sat down as a whole family in days and I feel a huge strain. This is going to affect our children. It is such a small issue in my mind that I just don´t understand where this is coming from.
He is always with the youth or on rare occasions that he is home he sleeps during the time the family is awake and watches his action movies when we are asleep or makes us go to another part of the house. The only time he seeks me out is when he is in ¨need¨.
He has never iniciated a celebration such as anniverary or birthday and in the almost six years I have received a total of 4 gifts including flowers.
There are times I just don´t know how much more I can take. I am so tired of being alone.
