- Jul 5, 2005
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A few years ago, I was seeing a psychologist for about a year and undergoing some counseling. I've lived a hellish life full of neglect, sexual/physical/mental abuse, poverty, trauma from losing two close loved ones, etc, and I've had a difficult time dealing with it at times.
My relationship with people has been often strained. I have maybe 2-3 really good best friends who understand me and love me anyway, and a handful of other friends who enjoy my company most of the time, but we have our shares of spats and issues.
It frustrates me to no end because I have these triggers. Someone will say something to me a certain way and I'll just instantly trigger. I can't control it, no matter how hard I've tried.
Now, I'm not violent. I don't scream at people. But I'll have a triggering episode and suddenly I'm reacting 100% out of pure hurt, anxiety, etc. I can be in the greatest of moods and then one small thing will put me in full trigger mode. My #1 reaction is to hide and deal with the hurt internally, but usually before that happens, I react out of pure self defense because i feel as if I've been hurt, when really it shouldn't have hurt me.
The thing is, I don't want to be bipolar. When I was diagnosed as bipolar with manic depression 1, I was instantly distressed about it and went into denial. A few of my friends said, "no, I've known you for a long time and you're not bipolar."
But then yesterday, my mom sat me down and said she thinks I have it because of my triggers. I want the triggers to stop. I don't want to lose anymore friends because I can't control when I trigger. And most people I talk to about this just say to take responsibility for my actions and words, and I try so hard! I work really hard to be the best version of myself I can be.
I don't know what to do. I'm tired of losing friends and having people look down on me for this reason and that reason. Sometimes I try to explain things, but it comes out the wrong way or I can't articulate what I'm feeling. And no one seems to understand, even when I try to explain it.
Any advice?
My relationship with people has been often strained. I have maybe 2-3 really good best friends who understand me and love me anyway, and a handful of other friends who enjoy my company most of the time, but we have our shares of spats and issues.
It frustrates me to no end because I have these triggers. Someone will say something to me a certain way and I'll just instantly trigger. I can't control it, no matter how hard I've tried.
Now, I'm not violent. I don't scream at people. But I'll have a triggering episode and suddenly I'm reacting 100% out of pure hurt, anxiety, etc. I can be in the greatest of moods and then one small thing will put me in full trigger mode. My #1 reaction is to hide and deal with the hurt internally, but usually before that happens, I react out of pure self defense because i feel as if I've been hurt, when really it shouldn't have hurt me.
The thing is, I don't want to be bipolar. When I was diagnosed as bipolar with manic depression 1, I was instantly distressed about it and went into denial. A few of my friends said, "no, I've known you for a long time and you're not bipolar."
But then yesterday, my mom sat me down and said she thinks I have it because of my triggers. I want the triggers to stop. I don't want to lose anymore friends because I can't control when I trigger. And most people I talk to about this just say to take responsibility for my actions and words, and I try so hard! I work really hard to be the best version of myself I can be.
I don't know what to do. I'm tired of losing friends and having people look down on me for this reason and that reason. Sometimes I try to explain things, but it comes out the wrong way or I can't articulate what I'm feeling. And no one seems to understand, even when I try to explain it.
Any advice?