- Jul 10, 2016
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So it will be 4 years in December.
My partner died at home the day before his 27th birthday (cancer).
I have been dreaming every few weeks that he is alive and in those dreams I am surprised. In each dream I've been carrying on with life thinking he was dead, then I either see him or find out about him. One dream I bumped into him in hospital because I was ill too. Sometimes he wants to spend time with me, once he was angry but normally he say he doesn't want an apology because he doesn't want me burdened. So he'd rather me go on with life than look after him.
I like these dreams because they are comforting in some strange way.
However, I think I might be about to cause myself problems. I wrote a poem last week about how grief changes you. I'd came across a photo the week before of the two of us. As I looked at it I remembered who I used to be and how much more carefree I was. How different etc but surprisingly how secure I felt.
Well, last night I went to sleep remembering what it was like to have a cuddle, or just relaxing with him. That meant I had dreams of him two nights in a row. I don't remember last night's dream but I don't think he was dying in it. I tend to prefer the fact that in my dreams there is little hope because it doesn't seem like those are dangerous dreams.
It was also the 2nd birthday of my brothers since he passed yesterday. My nan died the year before. Well, today at college I heard someone who had the same accent as my gran. I wandered back to class thinking of how each of them made me feel that little bit of security. (Yh I know the Lord is my security) so felt a bit sad.
I ought to stop indulging in the recollection of how each of these people made me feel eh? I'm worried that I'm going to cause myself problems if I persist. But it is so tempting right now.
My partner died at home the day before his 27th birthday (cancer).
I have been dreaming every few weeks that he is alive and in those dreams I am surprised. In each dream I've been carrying on with life thinking he was dead, then I either see him or find out about him. One dream I bumped into him in hospital because I was ill too. Sometimes he wants to spend time with me, once he was angry but normally he say he doesn't want an apology because he doesn't want me burdened. So he'd rather me go on with life than look after him.
I like these dreams because they are comforting in some strange way.
However, I think I might be about to cause myself problems. I wrote a poem last week about how grief changes you. I'd came across a photo the week before of the two of us. As I looked at it I remembered who I used to be and how much more carefree I was. How different etc but surprisingly how secure I felt.
Well, last night I went to sleep remembering what it was like to have a cuddle, or just relaxing with him. That meant I had dreams of him two nights in a row. I don't remember last night's dream but I don't think he was dying in it. I tend to prefer the fact that in my dreams there is little hope because it doesn't seem like those are dangerous dreams.
It was also the 2nd birthday of my brothers since he passed yesterday. My nan died the year before. Well, today at college I heard someone who had the same accent as my gran. I wandered back to class thinking of how each of them made me feel that little bit of security. (Yh I know the Lord is my security) so felt a bit sad.
I ought to stop indulging in the recollection of how each of these people made me feel eh? I'm worried that I'm going to cause myself problems if I persist. But it is so tempting right now.