Good call, that is very true!!
I agree the father/parents should teach, but i don't see many that do, so is youth group ok to start taking that place for them?? Many of the parents of the guys in my group are split families, some alcoholic parents, and general terrible role models let alone spiritual coaches.
I totally agree it's the way it should happen, but it just doesn't for most. I think as the kingdom grows, tradition will have to take a back seat.
My kids (as in my youth grouop kids, lol) will get no help from their parents, so if they want to grow at all something's going to need to help....
What are your thoughts?
You raise a good point. Indeed, what I proposed was the way it
should happen, like you mentioned. And so we must always strive after that, first and foremost.
However, because not everything is ideal, as we know, it won't always work. And in the cases that you mentioned (broken families, parents that simply will not take a spiritual leadership role in teaching/discipling their children, or if they are even unbelievers) the church can be a big help to them.
In those situations, I would say as a youth leader it would be ideal, to encourage the parents to take an active role in discipling their kids, and to work with them if they really don't know where to start. But, if even then the parents want nothing to do with it, then it can be a powerfully impactful blessing for that kid to have a godly youth group and youth leaders in the church.
So in short I would say, always encourage and strive after the biblical model that we have, but certainly be there as a godly group and leadership for the kid if that biblical model just isn't there for him in his family.
Ideally youth group should be something to help foster the biblical model for the family, and certainly for the youth's role in the family (Ephesians 6:1 "obey your parents in the Lord"), and to really help the youth grow in godliness.
God bless you brother, and I pray that God would give you grace in your work with youth, it is quite an impactful place to be, and I pray He would bless your work
--Ben