- May 22, 2004
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I’m in a serious relationship, and the topic of my girlfriend’s past has really been bothering me lately. She says her faith is very important to her, and has been since she was in high school. She mentioned that she had a threesome in college (2 girls - 1 guy) and didn’t seem repentant or regretful at all (although I didn’t ask her directly if she regretted it). She also was a bit confused as to why I was bothered by this. I certainly have a sexual past that I’m not proud of (I slept around a lot, but never participated in group sex), but much of it was during an agnostic period of my life. I’ve been really disgusted for the past couple months and can’t stop thinking about it. I can certainly understand a Christian having sex before marriage, as we are all humans with human desires. But having a threesome seems completely unnecessary and degenerate, especially given that she was a Christian when this happened.
Is this a red flag or am I over reacting? I love her, but I don’t know if I can continue this relationship due to this. The mental movies are becoming too much to bear, and I have serious concerns that our values are not aligned. What would you’ll advise I do?
She's gotten past it and moved on with her life. You need to do the same.
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