I don't drink wine Holly, and if I am led to take Communion by the Holy Spirit, I generally just have a little piece of bread. As far as drink goes, water is as good as any.
Ad it is true, the main focus is to remember what He did for us. To always Remember Him and His amazing Sacrifice.
But, I am very rarely led by the Holy Spirit to take Communion. If I do, I spend the time before in reflection on my Spiritual self and whatever sins I have inadvertently committed.
Walking with the Holy Spirit is an amazing walk! We are not bound by tradition in any way, manner or form. He soon lets us know what has displeased Our Father in Heaven.
The taking of Communion is no light matter. Paul outlined the taking of Communion in 1 Corinthians 27-30.
Too many today just go along with the tradition of taking Communion . That is why I always allow the Holy Spirit to lead me to taking it.
We are constantly in Communion with Jesus, so I don't believe it really matters a great deal unless we are directly led to do so.