Hi. This is my first time posting on here. Thank you for taking the time to read this and hopefully reply with biblical guidance/advice.
I was saved in July of 2021. Before that I was deeply into the new age/occult. I was incredibly selfish and I abruptly ended my friendships with three of my best friends (about 3 years ago) during that period of my life. I had been wanting to end the friendships but I went about ending them in the wrong way. I emailed my closest best friend and told her our friendship was over (I was a coward). And the other two I just completely ghosted them and stopped talking to them. Again, I was a coward. I was dishonest with them because they never knew I was unhappy with our friendship. I did not communicate any of my feelings with them. I would always pretend to be happy when I was with them. I was a liar. So I basically blindsided them when I stopped talking to them/ended the friendship.
I am just so conflicted over what to do. I know I need to apologize for what I did. I have been feeling very convicted. I just can’t tell if it’s the Holy Spirit convicting me to apologize or if it’s just my own selfishness/guilty conscience that is goading me to apologize. I worry that I’m not actually being sincere in my apology and that I simply just want to ask for forgiveness so that I can have peace of mind (selfish). I also don’t know if I need to offer friendship to each friend again? I don’t really want to be friends again. I ended things for a reason. Do I have to be friends with them again or can I just apologize?
I am just feeling so conflicted over what to do. I know that apologizing is the right thing to do. But am I simply apologizing so I can feel better and clear my guilty conscience? Or am I apologizing because I’m truly sorry and I want to offer a sincere apology? Do I have to offer friendship again?
I also don’t want to reopen old wounds and make things worse. I want to offer a sincere apology that hopefully allows each friend to heal and also allows me to heal. Am I being selfish in sending apologies now after 3 years?
I keep praying to God to guide me in what to do. This whole situation is eating at me. It keeps popping up in my dreams too. I’ve written one apology so far to the person who was my closest best friend, I just keep hesitating when I think about sending it. I’m just so conflicted. I would greatly appreciate your guidance and advice. Thank you so much!
I was saved in July of 2021. Before that I was deeply into the new age/occult. I was incredibly selfish and I abruptly ended my friendships with three of my best friends (about 3 years ago) during that period of my life. I had been wanting to end the friendships but I went about ending them in the wrong way. I emailed my closest best friend and told her our friendship was over (I was a coward). And the other two I just completely ghosted them and stopped talking to them. Again, I was a coward. I was dishonest with them because they never knew I was unhappy with our friendship. I did not communicate any of my feelings with them. I would always pretend to be happy when I was with them. I was a liar. So I basically blindsided them when I stopped talking to them/ended the friendship.
I am just so conflicted over what to do. I know I need to apologize for what I did. I have been feeling very convicted. I just can’t tell if it’s the Holy Spirit convicting me to apologize or if it’s just my own selfishness/guilty conscience that is goading me to apologize. I worry that I’m not actually being sincere in my apology and that I simply just want to ask for forgiveness so that I can have peace of mind (selfish). I also don’t know if I need to offer friendship to each friend again? I don’t really want to be friends again. I ended things for a reason. Do I have to be friends with them again or can I just apologize?
I am just feeling so conflicted over what to do. I know that apologizing is the right thing to do. But am I simply apologizing so I can feel better and clear my guilty conscience? Or am I apologizing because I’m truly sorry and I want to offer a sincere apology? Do I have to offer friendship again?
I also don’t want to reopen old wounds and make things worse. I want to offer a sincere apology that hopefully allows each friend to heal and also allows me to heal. Am I being selfish in sending apologies now after 3 years?
I keep praying to God to guide me in what to do. This whole situation is eating at me. It keeps popping up in my dreams too. I’ve written one apology so far to the person who was my closest best friend, I just keep hesitating when I think about sending it. I’m just so conflicted. I would greatly appreciate your guidance and advice. Thank you so much!