Let me give you an example for clarity. This is the tale of two men.
Person A: We met on a forum. He asked a question and a dialogue ensued. Although he wasn't expressing interest. We realized we had the qualities the other sought. After a week of numerous messages we spoke on the phone. Our conversations continued by phone, text, and Skype. We never spoke on the forum again.
He was very adamant that a long distance connection wouldn't stretch out. Within a month he discussed meeting and flight plans. And he gave me a time frame for moving. He laid everything out. Work, resources, goals, challenges, etc. He was ready to step into the relationship he desired. His actions matched his words.
Person B: We met on a forum. He shared his hopes and dreams too. He acknowledged his desire to marry and discussed his career, interests, and plans. Our conversations never moved beyond that point. Although he want the same, he didn't the steps to bring it to fruition beyond discussion.
Person A initiated everything. He set the tone and pace. He provided clear parameters and an end goal. There was no ambiguity or uncertainty. I knew where I stood. He's not worried about a chance. He's looking for a woman who fits and he knows what that is. He isn't taking all comers.
Readiness and action go hand in hand. You can't mistake desire for readiness. Pulling the trigger is the difference. You need to know where you fall on the readiness scale. So your conversation and actions are well-aligned. When you're afraid to take steps towards your desires; you're not ready. You're getting there. That's okay.
Person A didn't talk about marriage. He popped the question. See the difference?
Yours in His Service,
~bella