Advice FROM prior "sex workers"

[Tankboi]

Hello,
so I am looking to gather some advice FROM people who have been involved in the "Porn industry". My wife is working towards a divorce right now, but is working on pursuing a part time career as a fetish model. Now she (for now) only wants to do pretty "soft core" stuff, but regardless of whether we stay together or not I would hate to see her get caught up in something that could easily bring her life crumbling down, or potentially put her in some pretty harmful situations.
Having no Experience in this area, I would just like some advice to give her on the subject?

 

[BlondieLashes]

I am heading out for the day, but will respond tomorrow....Didn't want you to think we are ignoring you. Just a lot on my plate today.

 

[BlondieLashes]

Hello,
so I am looking to gather some advice FROM people who have been involved in the "Porn industry". My wife is working towards a divorce right now, but is working on pursuing a part time career as a fetish model. Now she (for now) only wants to do pretty "soft core" stuff, but regardless of whether we stay together or not I would hate to see her get caught up in something that could easily bring her life crumbling down, or potentially put her in some pretty harmful situations.
Having no Experience in this area, I would just like some advice to give her on the subject?

Hi Tankboi! Do you know why or what caused her to pursue the sex industry as a career? Many sex workers were raped or abused at some point in their life...this is why I ask. This could be at the core of her pursuing this as a line of work.

There is always an entry point. Usually soft core stuff or working in a strip club, etc. The more a sex worker learns to "turn off" their feelings through these events the easier it becomes to get involved in more hard core stuff. Some are able to turn off their feelings because they are experienced at it through abuse, some use drugs and alcohol...some a mixture of all three.

It goes without saying that the sex industry is a harsh way of life. There are so many risks that I could not even begin to list them all here. Would she be open to looking at a website run by former sex workers (www.iamatreasure.com)? If she could read through the stories and blogs she may be able to relate to the women writing and possibly seek help before she gets in too deep.

I hope this is helpful. Please keep writing and asking questions if you need to. It is my prayer to help women stay out of this harmful industry. It destroyed my life, but God is re-building it.

 

[Elliemare]

I used to think that I could handle being in the sex industry. I even convinced myself that they money was good and it was "empowering" rather than detrimental to my self-esteem. I thought all the talk of it ruining me and making me feel like an object or a piece of trash was all a lot of bull and that I was in control of the situation as well as the men.

I realize that I was wrong. I was numb to my feelings only focusing on the money, thinking that money would solve all of my problems. My numbing started with the two abortions I had a few years prior. I didn't realize that I had disassociated from myself to the point that I didn't care if I was an object or a piece of trash. I didn't care how I treated my body, plus I had already committed the ultimate crime (abortion) so why not be a sex object?

Things snowballed after that. Drugs, abusive relationships, suicide attempts... it all seemed logical to me because once you commit one sin, the next one gets easier and then the next and the next. In reality I was just becoming number and number to each one not realizing what I was doing to myself.

It wasn't until I started experiencing years of chronic wide-spread pain, anxiety, fatigue and depression that I realized that there was an emotional root to the physical pain. The pain has to get out somehow. When I started to do work on myself, confess and repent I became free from my physical pain as well as the emotional pain! I just wish I wouldn't have had to put myself through that unnecessary turmoil in the first place.

 

[angel jazz]

I am forced to do this and wouldn't know how to get out of it I pray everyday for forgiveness a few I know do it by choice and feel guilty for it and its hard to stop