Giving guidance while also not having a good relationship with god

Aliemikeyj said:

So as you know from my other post I’m very far from god. I feel like I’ve become reprobate because these sins were abominations and I refused to let them go, grieving gods spirit to the point where he left. I wasn’t saved but the Holy Spirit was somewhat pursuing me. I fear I fell away from god as stated in Hebrews 6 and because my sins were so heinous and I refused to let them go and repent of them because of my love of them, god had given me up to then rightfully so. Sometimes I feel that gods giving me signs and sometimes I feel that it could be the devil so I can’t discern it for myself. I haven’t read the Bible in a while so maybe if I read it I’ll definitely be able to discern but even if I do, I don’t think god is calling me back to repentance. He gave me too many chances in the past and I still refused to listen it’s only now when things are getting bad, so I realize that I allowed myself to become a slave to these sins. I feel like no matter what I can’t come back because of my situation personally- if I was able to tell the whole situation a lot of people would tell me that I’m condemned already.




On the flip side I have a friend online who feels the same. He’s felt that Hebrews 6 describes him and he doesn’t know what to do. He’s very scared and I’m not sure how to console him- I’ve sent him a good response someone has given me before but I know he might need more help. I’ve told him to go to a pastor but he hasn’t answered about that yet. In short- he’s been feeling hopeless and restless.

I also have another friend who is a baby Christian but might be somewhat lukewarm I don’t know how to confront her about specific things but at the same time I don’t want her to be lead astray like me. I’m not judging her or anything I just don’t want her to be lead astray and staying silent about it- if she realizes for herself then she might feel betrayed or wonder why I didn’t say anything if that makes sense.

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Mikey, I will try my best to help. I understand that you feel far from God, and you've expressed concerns about being reprobate and unforgivable due to your past sins. It's essential to remember that God's love and mercy are infinite, and He is always ready to forgive and restore those who turn back to Him with repentant hearts. Just the fact that you are asking this question and have concerns for you friends means that you are still actively seeking God, and are still saved.


Firstly, regarding your situation, I'd like to remind you of some verses that illustrate God's boundless mercy and forgiveness:

1. Jeremiah 31:31-32 - "I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel and the house of Judah. It will not be like the old covenant I made with their ancestors when I took them by the hand to lead them out of Egypt, because they broke my covenant, though I was their husband," declares the Lord. "This is the new covenant I will make with the house of Israel after those days," declares the Lord. "I will put my law in their minds and write it on their hearts. I will be their God, and they will be my people."
2. 1 John 1:9 - "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
3. Romans 8:1-4 - "There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death. For God has done what the law, weakened by the flesh, could not do. By sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh and for sin, he condemned sin in the flesh, in order that the righteous requirement of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not according to the flesh but according to the Spirit."

These verses demonstrate that God's mercy and forgiveness are always available to those who repent and turn back to Him. No sin is too great for His love and compassion.

Regarding your friend's situation, it's important to encourage him and assure him that no matter how far he feels from God, He is always ready to welcome him back with open arms. You can share the verses mentioned above or other Scriptures that speak of God's forgiveness and mercy.

As for your lukewarm friend, it's essential to approach her with love, compassion, and understanding. You can share your concerns and encourage her to deepen her relationship with God by reading the Bible, praying regularly, and seeking guidance from a trusted pastor or spiritual mentor. Remember, it's not your role to judge her but to offer support and encouragement in her spiritual growth.

Lastly, regarding the hopelessness and restlessness you and your friend have been experiencing, consider reaching out to a trusted pastor, spiritual mentor, or Christian counselor for additional guidance and support. They can offer you and your friend personalized advice and encouragement based on your unique circumstances.

May the Lord bless and guide you all as you seek to grow in faith and draw closer to Him. Remember, His love and mercy are always available to those who turn back to Him with repentant hearts. Amen.

Aliemikeyj said:

So as you know from my other post I’m very far from god. I feel like I’ve become reprobate because these sins were abominations and I refused to let them go, grieving gods spirit to the point where he left. I wasn’t saved but the Holy Spirit was somewhat pursuing me. I fear I fell away from god as stated in Hebrews 6 and because my sins were so heinous and I refused to let them go and repent of them because of my love of them, god had given me up to then rightfully so. Sometimes I feel that gods giving me signs and sometimes I feel that it could be the devil so I can’t discern it for myself. I haven’t read the Bible in a while so maybe if I read it I’ll definitely be able to discern but even if I do, I don’t think god is calling me back to repentance. He gave me too many chances in the past and I still refused to listen it’s only now when things are getting bad, so I realize that I allowed myself to become a slave to these sins. I feel like no matter what I can’t come back because of my situation personally- if I was able to tell the whole situation a lot of people would tell me that I’m condemned already.




On the flip side I have a friend online who feels the same. He’s felt that Hebrews 6 describes him and he doesn’t know what to do. He’s very scared and I’m not sure how to console him- I’ve sent him a good response someone has given me before but I know he might need more help. I’ve told him to go to a pastor but he hasn’t answered about that yet. In short- he’s been feeling hopeless and restless.

I also have another friend who is a baby Christian but might be somewhat lukewarm I don’t know how to confront her about specific things but at the same time I don’t want her to be lead astray like me. I’m not judging her or anything I just don’t want her to be lead astray and staying silent about it- if she realizes for herself then she might feel betrayed or wonder why I didn’t say anything if that makes sense.

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Do you love your " heinous " sin more than Jesus Christ of Nazareth? " Go back to your first love", do not quench His Holy Spirit.

Be blessed.

1 John 4:18​

18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with torment The one who fears is not made perfect in love.