I guess I did not well express myself well, I'm sorry for that
Being Roman Catholic has nothing to do with it!
All I meant is that for me, fixing on getting a girlfriend, like it would be a way to feel way happier or healthier is not the best thing to do : in my mind, but I can be wrong, there is a time for friendships which is needy for someone's personal growth and then only after that, when someone is finally grown up and more stable, a person can more easily have a successful relationship - because he won't see the other has a remedy. To sum up, a girlfriend sure can help to feel more confident, but if getting a girlfriend mostly is a way to feel better, rather than building something else and learning more about life, then, for me, it is not good to get one. A person as much involved as a girlfriend is not an healthy way to feel better and should not be to me - this is rather friends' role to me as they more easily can take distance. Yet I do know some people are rescued by feeling loved in a relationship, but there lies the danger: it is hard to know if, sometimes, this person really loves his/her girl/boyfriend or if he/she likes better the feeling of being loved. You can disagree, and true everyone has different needs or ways to love, but I guess there is a kind of moral prohibition to me.
But having both males or females friends helps so much to feel more confident, for what I noticed by looking at people. And at the end of the day, only God can bring us the love we're looking with so much thirst and despair.