Trigger ( overlap with another section ) nasty tricks

[OldAbramBrown]

TRIGGER

Normalising bad boundaries by telling us we should have been having sex with somebody

And, before that, after babysitting duty, they slip a selfie into the slide show when w e go to visit. To see whether it gets a reaction

no. 1 were statutory authority
no. 2 were from a religious movement and liable to informally volunteer among those already their acquaintances in the neighbourhood

 

[linux.poet]

I am sorry, good sir, but I do not know what you are saying exactly. Perhaps you are describing what is triggering your trauma?

No. 1 sounds like a terrible person. I think most Christians would be angry about being told we should be having sex with someone when we don't want to. We want to choose our partners and marry them, and have the freedom to do so without being insulted.

No. 2 I honestly don't understand. Did the selfie have clothes on? Seems like these people are sexually harassing you for no good reason.

 

[OldAbramBrown]

I was overly succinct. No. 1 came from both secular (school) and church sources. The couple in no. 2 whom I knew during my childhood, didn't have clothes on in that shot. I now realise they belonged to a religious movement. I've been trying to assess the combined effect of several disjointed but similar phenomena over the years. Most people have been on the receiving end of this but take it for granted / are carelessly stoical / think it goes hand in hand with "wholesomely conservative" politics. It has led to fear and loneliness among billions of people.

In an unrelated development in recent weeks, a couple who don't have to, seem to find me (as single) interesting to hold unconventional, light heartedly serious and tangential conversations with me about matters I always wanted to talk about and no-one did in my churches / fellowships / movements / groups till now (many christians are intellectually dull and that's not a matter of formal schooling or not). I have started to have an inkling of hope I may survive as a relatable being somehow. Sometimes, life proceeds nicely when it proceeds indirectly.