It seems like one of the toughest things on marriage is when one partner goes through some sort of change or another. The other partner often feels like "Oh, this isn't the same person I married!" And there is this feeling of disspointment, betrayal or feeling ripped off. KWIM?
So lately I've been noticing so many comments that communicate this sense of let down -- like,
"This just isn't like you."
"You are not the man I married."
And, incidentally, toward our children too:
"What happened to my sweet boy?"
I'm realizing lately that people *do* change and you can't really do anything about it. It is part of our nature to grow, and change, and mature -- and the loving gracious thing to do is to accept your partner for who they are and support what they are going through, even if you don't understand it. It is too much to expect someone to always be the same person.
I wish that we could have realized these sorts of things BEFORE we got married, KWIM? It would have helped to define the enormity of the commitment.
Just my meandering thought of the day!
So lately I've been noticing so many comments that communicate this sense of let down -- like,
"This just isn't like you."
"You are not the man I married."
And, incidentally, toward our children too:
"What happened to my sweet boy?"
I'm realizing lately that people *do* change and you can't really do anything about it. It is part of our nature to grow, and change, and mature -- and the loving gracious thing to do is to accept your partner for who they are and support what they are going through, even if you don't understand it. It is too much to expect someone to always be the same person.
I wish that we could have realized these sorts of things BEFORE we got married, KWIM? It would have helped to define the enormity of the commitment.
Just my meandering thought of the day!