I've heard SO many different opinions on what should be said, what shouldn't, how much to talk about it, to not talk about it before the wedding - everyone seems to have an opinion!
So, how do you guys talk about it? Do you find it difficult? What is appropriate? What isn't? Do you feel you know enough about you and your FH/FW sexual beliefs and wants? What recommendations would you give someone in a relationship about talking about sex pre-marriage?
Me and my bf don't have any hassles, really, in talking about sex. We don't actively pursue conversation about it, but if one of us reads something, or sees something on television, we will talk to each other about how we'd feel about that in our relationship, whether we'd have problems with certain behaviours, how we'd feel introducing something in particular into our relationship etc etc.
So, how have you addressed it in your relationships? Do you have certain guidelines in how you talk about it?
I'm not a virgin, either is my boyfriend, so we want to talk about some stuff, without it becoming a major temptation. Although not engaged, we are seriously considering marriage in our future, so we feel that some talk about issues like these (and finances, children, beliefs, family culture, etc) IS important to talk about - that way a long engagement, when it comes, will not be as much of a necessity as it would be if we hadn't had conversations like this (and been partaking in relationship counselling classes). Any advice from those who AREN'T virgins, and are slightly more knowledgable about sex, on how to healthily address these issues, without it becoming a temptation to sin?
Sasch
So, how do you guys talk about it? Do you find it difficult? What is appropriate? What isn't? Do you feel you know enough about you and your FH/FW sexual beliefs and wants? What recommendations would you give someone in a relationship about talking about sex pre-marriage?
Me and my bf don't have any hassles, really, in talking about sex. We don't actively pursue conversation about it, but if one of us reads something, or sees something on television, we will talk to each other about how we'd feel about that in our relationship, whether we'd have problems with certain behaviours, how we'd feel introducing something in particular into our relationship etc etc.
So, how have you addressed it in your relationships? Do you have certain guidelines in how you talk about it?
I'm not a virgin, either is my boyfriend, so we want to talk about some stuff, without it becoming a major temptation. Although not engaged, we are seriously considering marriage in our future, so we feel that some talk about issues like these (and finances, children, beliefs, family culture, etc) IS important to talk about - that way a long engagement, when it comes, will not be as much of a necessity as it would be if we hadn't had conversations like this (and been partaking in relationship counselling classes). Any advice from those who AREN'T virgins, and are slightly more knowledgable about sex, on how to healthily address these issues, without it becoming a temptation to sin?
Sasch
) instead of (ie. when we're married we do you want to do this <sexual act> .. because I think that would be awesome). Because, flirting about having sex as a married couple on occasion (example 1) is okay, but discussing HOW your going to do it is going to lead straight to temptation.
