I have been wrestling with my terrible marriage, I feel for our discussion the details of our situation are not that important. There is no infidelity as far as I can tell, so divorce isn't "allowed." I frequently have thoughts of killing myself rather than live in this hell of a marriage. The only reasons I haven't killed myself is because of how much it would crush my parents and for our baby.
Some notes: I am emotionally abused like no other in this marriage, we're already going through marriage counseling with a Christian therapist but my wife thinks she's doing me a huge favor since she thinks I'm the one with all the problems and doesn't hesitate to let the therapist know. Therapy will sometimes end up with us yelling at each other, sometimes it calms things down for a few days or a week and I'm not sure is a long term solution.
If I wasn't a Christian, I would have gotten divorced within the first few months, I've kept trying over and over because I felt that God wanted me to keep trying and that He is working in me through the marriage but I really can't take it anymore.
So the big question I am wrestling is whether I can get a divorce, then ask for God's forgiveness afterwards. My pastor thinks my wife has some mental condition and he didn't give a clear answer as to whether I can get a divorce but suggested to try to get her a psychiatric evaluation. Fat chance that will happen though as one of her issues is she can't admit any fault.
sigh...
Some notes: I am emotionally abused like no other in this marriage, we're already going through marriage counseling with a Christian therapist but my wife thinks she's doing me a huge favor since she thinks I'm the one with all the problems and doesn't hesitate to let the therapist know. Therapy will sometimes end up with us yelling at each other, sometimes it calms things down for a few days or a week and I'm not sure is a long term solution.
If I wasn't a Christian, I would have gotten divorced within the first few months, I've kept trying over and over because I felt that God wanted me to keep trying and that He is working in me through the marriage but I really can't take it anymore.
So the big question I am wrestling is whether I can get a divorce, then ask for God's forgiveness afterwards. My pastor thinks my wife has some mental condition and he didn't give a clear answer as to whether I can get a divorce but suggested to try to get her a psychiatric evaluation. Fat chance that will happen though as one of her issues is she can't admit any fault.
sigh...
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