I'm not really so much a christian, although more recently I have come to believe in God. I've never gone to church, I've never read the whole of the Bible (although I tried when I was younger and didn't finish), or anything like that. Sometimes I talk. I don't really like going to sleep that much, and sometimes I just talk. I don't pray or anything in the normal sense... I just talk. If He is all-knowing and all-seeing, he can understand me no matter what format I use.
But this is just an introduction to shed light as to why I even bothered to come here. This is my question, my 'struggle' that I want some sort of commentary on.
I hesistate to call her a 'girlfriend', for she is much more than that. I am 17, a senior in high school, and she is 16, a junior. After a very long time of getting to know each other, becoming friends, and getting close, we have come to love each other very much.
High school love - as if such a thing could exist. Certainly one's teenage years are not well known for spawning meaningful relationships. Most couples you see in schools are together for weeks, maybe a month or two if they are committed. And even then there is no deep feeling between them.
As for me and her... we are much different. I want to marry her, and she wants to marry me. We honestly love each other, and could love no others. I can say that for both of us - although not very well, because I could never express how honestly I mean this. This is my conundrum, which me and her alike can't be sure on, as she is the traditional church-going christian....
...we're not virgins.
It's hard because I understand the whole idea that the whole 'temptation' thing is there just to be some sort of test to see if you can win - if you're worthy enough or something to resist and be strong until you are married. Cheating is cheating is cheating!
But that cant be. I can't believe that cheating is cheating is cheating here, because we love each other. We really do. The moral wrongness in making love before marriage is that there is no love to back it up. Making love without love - that is why it is wrong. But it's not like that here. How can it be so wrong if it's so honest and so meaningful to both of us? How can it be a true sin if we differ only from married couples by title alone?
I haven't gone to sunday school, and I've never been to a church during any sort of service. But what I do know is that God is great, and supposedly understands everything. He should be able to understand how I feel with her - able to understand the honesty in it - able to understand the way I think, and empathize... know and understand why... right?
But this is just an introduction to shed light as to why I even bothered to come here. This is my question, my 'struggle' that I want some sort of commentary on.
I hesistate to call her a 'girlfriend', for she is much more than that. I am 17, a senior in high school, and she is 16, a junior. After a very long time of getting to know each other, becoming friends, and getting close, we have come to love each other very much.
High school love - as if such a thing could exist. Certainly one's teenage years are not well known for spawning meaningful relationships. Most couples you see in schools are together for weeks, maybe a month or two if they are committed. And even then there is no deep feeling between them.
As for me and her... we are much different. I want to marry her, and she wants to marry me. We honestly love each other, and could love no others. I can say that for both of us - although not very well, because I could never express how honestly I mean this. This is my conundrum, which me and her alike can't be sure on, as she is the traditional church-going christian....
...we're not virgins.
It's hard because I understand the whole idea that the whole 'temptation' thing is there just to be some sort of test to see if you can win - if you're worthy enough or something to resist and be strong until you are married. Cheating is cheating is cheating!
But that cant be. I can't believe that cheating is cheating is cheating here, because we love each other. We really do. The moral wrongness in making love before marriage is that there is no love to back it up. Making love without love - that is why it is wrong. But it's not like that here. How can it be so wrong if it's so honest and so meaningful to both of us? How can it be a true sin if we differ only from married couples by title alone?
I haven't gone to sunday school, and I've never been to a church during any sort of service. But what I do know is that God is great, and supposedly understands everything. He should be able to understand how I feel with her - able to understand the honesty in it - able to understand the way I think, and empathize... know and understand why... right?