Is it wrong for a Dad to be a stay-at-home dad and have his wife work ?

[QuestionQuest74]

Is it wrong to be a homemaker as a Christian Dad and stay home and watch the kids and have the wife work.

 

[BobRyan]

what do you mean by "Have the wife work"?

Do you mean the father chooses not to work and tells his wife she must be the one to support the family?

 

[QuestionQuest74]

what do you mean by "Have the wife work"?

Do you mean the father chooses not to work and tells his wife she must be the one to support the family?

Yes and he takes care of the kid

 

[com7fy8]

He can be supporting the family by spending time with the children and bringing them up and teaching them.

It can be a full-time occupation, including caring for the children . . . not only "watching" them while he watches TV and watches things on the Net.

There can be house cleaning and cleaning dishes and preparing meals, right while including the children in doing such things with him so they learn living in a family and a house.

If you know a man who stays home, maybe you can talk to with him and ask him what he does. Each unique person will give you a different answer.

Therefore, I should not evaluate all men at home the same way.

 

[Lukaris]

I’m single but I would think either parent doing what is right for faithful family living should be a holy life ( like what St. Paul says in Ephesians 6:1-4).

 

[BobRyan]

Yes and he takes care of the kid

sounds like he is not following the Bible.

But also - is it true that when he married his wife this is what he proposed to her??

 

[Reluctant Theologian]

Is it wrong to be a homemaker as a Christian Dad and stay home and watch the kids and have the wife work.

Maybe not wrong or sinful, but far from optimal; it's role reversal on both sides and very atypical. Maybe for some couples it could work but I'd never recommend it.

 

[Diamond7]

Is it wrong to be a homemaker as a Christian Dad and stay home and watch the kids and have the wife work.

There is nothing wrong with the man being the care giver. I was a single parent for 12 years. But if they get a divorce then she has to pay him alimony. Also he would get the kids because the court will not change the caregiver. A caregiver would have to be unfit before they will take the kids away and give them to someone else.

 

[AV1611VET]

Is it wrong to be a homemaker as a Christian Dad and stay home and watch the kids and have the wife work.

Yes

 

[Paidiske]

There is no one right way to split up the responsibilities of parenting, income earning, and house/yard/life admin/wahtever work.

I would encourage any couple to consider that over a lifetime together, the balance is likely to shift several times, and to be willing to be flexible, communicate well, and work together as a team. For example, at this point in time, I work full time, my husband works school hours (ish), and looks after the bulk of kid-related stuff. Before she went to school, we had a phase of each working three days a week and sharing the kid-wrangling. No doubt it will change again as she gets older and becomes more independent.

But no, there's nothing inherently wrong with the wife working and the dad looking after the kids, provided that arrangement suits them both.

 

[QuestionQuest74]

Yes

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sounds like he is not following the Bible.

But also - is it true that when he married his wife this is what he proposed to her?

sounds like he is not following the Bible.

But also - is it true that when he married his wife this is what he proposed to her??

Yes and how is this against the Bible

 

[Daniel Marsh]

It is ok to take turns working outside the home. Most of my work is at home on the Computer.

 

[BobRyan]

Yes and how is this against the Bible

If the woman is chasing a business career and needs a husband to function as the "logical wife" that is one thing. But if this was something put upon the woman it is not right. The husband is head of the household and is set there as the one who provides for the family.

1 Tim 5:8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

 

[BobRyan]

It is ok to take turns working outside the home. Most of my work is at home on the Computer.

I don't think there is a requirement "to work outside the home" -- but rather 'to work' . To provide for the family.

That is different from the question for this thread --

QuestionQuest74 said:
Is it wrong to be a homemaker as a Christian Dad and stay home and watch the kids and have the wife work.

 

[QuestionQuest74]

If the woman is chasing a business career and needs a husband to function as the "logical wife" that is one thing. But if this was something put upon the woman it is not right. The husband is head of the household and is set there as the one who provides for the family.

1 Tim 5:8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

Where does the Bible describe says providing is financial he can provide by cooking and disciplining and caring for his children.