My husband and I owned our own home for years. We raised our children there. Then we sold it and moved back to my hometown. My dad bought four lots in the country and offered to sell us one and my sister and her family one. We took him up on the offer and acquired a two-acre lot, put a garage on it and converted it into a little three bedroom home to serve as a temporary space while we build a house here. We've been making the payments on this land and paying the property taxes for three years now and we still haven't built a house for various reasons. Then dad decided he didn't want to sell it or put in our name (even though mom insists that when/if we build he will). My parents live next door and they are getting on in years. We've been able to help them a lot which is good, but I feel like whatever grace I had to live in this "temporary" home is wearing thin. Things are falling apart as this was NEVER meant to be permanent. We NEED a house and are financially in a better place to buy one. We miss having more independence (all they have to do is look out the window at our driveway to know if we're home or not) but I want to help my parents as they continue to get older. I believe very strongly in honoring your father and mother but I feel equally strong about leaving father and mother and cleaving to your spouse. I feel stuck in this place and I'm miserable. I hate it here. I love this city and don't want go back where we came from but living in this tiny place on this big lot, and basically feeling like I'm renting it, well...I cry a lot. We have some options. Build a house here, which could take a year (I do trust them to put the land in our name first). Or just go buy a house that's already built and hope we can get some of the money we've invested into this property out if and when it ever sells. And we might not be able to get this much land again as rates have gone crazy since we moved here. We also have the option of renting a house while we build here. We've been praying and seeking God for direction and so far have no real leading in any direction. The kids are older and will probably only live with us a few more years. I really wanted that time to be in a real house together, like we had when they were growing up. Sometimes I wish we had never sold it and moved. My sister is paying for her lot but hasn't done a thing with it. We just want to be settled again! Looking for advice and some prayers too. Thanks.