Why are You Angry?

[Christsfreeservant]

When misunderstandings happen

Why are you angry?
How did I offend?
I meant only good
To encourage a friend.

I’ve been where you were,
Not exact, but close by,
So why did my words
With your actions deny?

Why did you not talk
With me, let me know why
You didn’t like what I said?
You just said “Goodbye!”

Thought I was helping
Explain what you shared.
Empathized with you,
I felt every care.

I meant no offense,
Not to hurt, but to help.
I love you in Christ,
Am not thinking of self.

I wish there’s a way
We could talk this all through.
Our friendship I hope
We can surely renew.

Will you give me a chance
To explain where I am?
Will you hear from my heart
What I truly meant?

It saddens me so
That you walked away,
Not a word from your lips
So I’d know how to pray.

An Original Work / July 23, 2022

 

[linux.poet]

It had nothing to do with you, dear friend.

(okay that was a lame attempt at a joke)

I don't think this poem was written about me, but it describes the empathetic view of anger very well, so I'm glad that it exists. However, some of us seem to have a genetic propensity for anger that's higher than most. This turns into a background of rage that's always on all of the time. So then we have to be careful about how we communicate with the empathetic among us because we are angry and thus we are wrong.

It's not You, it's me

The sun rises, and I am angry
it's not you, it's me
and the sun sets, and I am angry
it's not your fault, it's me

Even though I wake up with the Holy Spirit in my heart,
I confess my greatest pleasure is ripping things apart,
I said things
I meant things
Talking with you is so hard.

God seemed to place me here
To take evil down
No, not you, the other evil people.

I'm tired
Of
walking on eggshells
don't even want
to talk anymore
I'll just be condemned
goodbye
please let me out of here.

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Probably something like that. There is the simpler possibility that you've also touched on something that they don't want to talk about, but the reason they don't want to talk about it has nothing to do with you. If someone is angry about something that I don't know about, it has nothing to do with me. That axiom has served me well over the years and I've found it to be correct. Saves a lot of worry.

 

[Christsfreeservant]

It had nothing to do with you, dear friend.

(okay that was a lame attempt at a joke)

I don't think this poem was written about me, but it describes the empathetic view of anger very well, so I'm glad that it exists. However, some of us seem to have a genetic propensity for anger that's higher than most. This turns into a background of rage that's always on all of the time. So then we have to be careful about how we communicate with the empathetic among us because we are angry and thus we are wrong.

It's not You, it's me

The sun rises, and I am angry
it's not you, it's me
and the sun sets, and I am angry
it's not your fault, it's me

Even though I wake up with the Holy Spirit in my heart,
I confess my greatest pleasure is ripping things apart,
I said things
I meant things
Talking with you is so hard.

God seemed to place me here
To take evil down
No, not you, the other evil people.

I'm tired
Of
walking on eggshells
don't even want
to talk anymore
I'll just be condemned
goodbye
please let me out of here.

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Probably something like that. There is the simpler possibility that you've also touched on something that they don't want to talk about, but the reason they don't want to talk about it has nothing to do with you. If someone is angry about something that I don't know about, it has nothing to do with me. That axiom has served me well over the years and I've found it to be correct. Saves a lot of worry.

Thank you for reading and for responding. I appreciate that. But why are you angry? Have you ever looked at that issue from the inside out? You don't have to respond, obviously, but I think a lot of anger stems from things that happened in our lives, perhaps over which we had no control, and when something happens that mimics that situation in some way, what is deep down in our hearts is what comes out. My past situation was not anger but fear because of things in my past, and it was some sort of bitterness I was unaware of toward the Lord for not rescuing me from those difficult situations. Once I was doing a prayerful self-examination and the Lord showed me that and so I let go of that bitterness that had turned into unforgiveness towards Jesus, not that he had done any wrong, but that I was hurt that he had not rescued me. And then I had to accept his sovereignty over my life in all circumstances of life and learn that Jesus already conquered the devil for me. I just had to live like I believed it. And then I was at peace. I used to fight Satan with hand over face hoping not to get hit, but knowing that I would, just like I did with my father when I was a child. I had to learn to use offensive weapons of the Spirit to fight the devil, instead, and not just defensive ones. Sue

 

[linux.poet]

But why are you angry? Have you ever looked at that issue from the inside out? You don't have to respond, obviously, but I think a lot of anger stems from things that happened in our lives, perhaps over which we had no control, and when something happens that mimics that situation in some way, what is deep down in our hearts is what comes out.

I've done years of examining myself from the inside out trying to get rid of my anger, and I found a lot of stems for a lot of the plants. I actually was trying to get rid of it because no one likes an angry artist or an angry poet. People are like "wow! intensity!" and kind of run away.

I've also spent a lot of time being scared of myself thinking that my anger would turn me into a hurtful monster. For now I've found that I'm actually happier accepting it and finding non-hurtful ways to channel it rather than trying to examine myself into change. It could be argued that I like being angry because it gives me a better perspective on the world and makes me feel safer because I know I have ways to fight back against evil people.

But I'm old enough now to realize that, the perspective of anger also has downsides. It's unattractive to other people and pushes them away. It makes it hard for me to submit to other people and do what they want. I don't think I chose this fate.

My past situation was not anger but fear because of things in my past, and it was some sort of bitterness I was unaware of toward the Lord for not rescuing me from those difficult situations. Once I was doing a prayerful self-examination and the Lord showed me that and so I let go of that bitterness that had turned into unforgiveness towards Jesus, not that he had done any wrong, but that I was hurt that he had not rescued me. And then I had to accept his sovereignty over my life in all circumstances of life and learn that Jesus already conquered the devil for me. I just had to live like I believed it. And then I was at peace.

I don't think I was ever angry at God for not rescuing me from my situations in the past, I ironically believed that I was responsible for my situations and getting myself out of them myself. I had to be humbled instead.

Basically I've experienced a gradual piecemeal type of divine rescue over the past 12 years. The process has resembled a struggling relationship with a lot of foolishness on my end. I grabbed every weapon of every type I could find and all of them helped, but it was never fully enough. God had to help, and He has.

 

[Christsfreeservant]

I've done years of examining myself from the inside out trying to get rid of my anger, and I found a lot of stems for a lot of the plants. I actually was trying to get rid of it because no one likes an angry artist or an angry poet. People are like "wow! intensity!" and kind of run away.

I've also spent a lot of time being scared of myself thinking that my anger would turn me into a hurtful monster. For now I've found that I'm actually happier accepting it and finding non-hurtful ways to channel it rather than trying to examine myself into change. It could be argued that I like being angry because it gives me a better perspective on the world and makes me feel safer because I know I have ways to fight back against evil people.

But I'm old enough now to realize that, the perspective of anger also has downsides. It's unattractive to other people and pushes them away. It makes it hard for me to submit to other people and do what they want. I don't think I chose this fate.


I don't think I was ever angry at God for not rescuing me from my situations in the past, I ironically believed that I was responsible for my situations and getting myself out of them myself. I had to be humbled instead.

Basically I've experienced a gradual piecemeal type of divine rescue over the past 12 years. The process has resembled a struggling relationship with a lot of foolishness on my end. I grabbed every weapon of every type I could find and all of them helped, but it was never fully enough. God had to help, and He has.

Thank you for your transparency in sharing your experiences. I appreciate the conversation.