What are good reasons to leave a church?

[NewSong]

The sermons?
The way people are treated?
The pastor?
Too large?
Too Small?
Does anyone greet you?
Do you remember the sermon?

 

[Pickles]

The people at my church started saying that you could get to Heaven without Jesus. No offense to anyone that thinks that but oh my goodness your crazy! They started saying that if your good and do good things that you can get to Heaven. That is so not true! It even says in the Bible that the only way to get there is Jesus. I guess unless you lead an unsinful life you could, but everyone sins whether we want to or not. So I left that church and now I'm at a new church that I love!
Much love, Pickles

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

God leading you away

 

[inrsoul]

I'm a little confused now, the thread says, What are goods reason to leave? But the poll ask what do I like about my church?

eh...

ANyway, if I were to leave my church (unlikely), due to the lack of "feeding" of the Word...

 

[ahmunmun]

I left my church fellowship because one of the counsellors was putting down charismatic people. She would rather believe that the miracles they once had asked for came from Satan than to believe that God blessed those people. Wrongly critizing another denomination like that just ticked me off so much that I had to leave. Sometimes I felt that there were so many experiences I couldn't share (i.e.: miracles that happened to my family) at that church because they, being non-charismatics, didn't understand. Not only did they not understand, but they wouldn't even take your word for it because they were against charismatics so much.

To answer your question directly, I think a Christian should find another church to go to if he feels that he can't talk comfortably with the brothers and sisters. Of course, it doesn't always happen when you're not in a church of your denomination, but only when they're AGAINST your denomination that makes you feel like you don't belong, then maybe you're more comfortable elsewhere. It all depends on how happy you want to be in your church.

Also, awhile ago I considered leaving my church fellowship because the counsellors there had extremely poor judgement. For example, whenever they don't know how to answer a question during Bible study, they would talk around your question, hoping to hide their inability to provide an answer. Sometimes they would tell you to "drop it" because they didn't know how to comment on something. Not only is this rude, but it also means that the counsellors are too proud of themselves, not wanting to learn from us but wanting only us to learn from them. Also, another counsellor actually thinks gossiping about other brothers and sisters is okay as long as it's in a small group. I listened to my friend being gossiped about and I thought she would cut into the converesation and stop it, but instead she joined in the gossip. Poor judgements like these made me want to leave my fellowship right then, because how could I learn from counsellors who do not correctly apply the Bible to their daily life?

This is just my sharing. I'm sure there are other reasons to leave a church, but these are mine.

 

[NewSong]

I'm a little confused now, the thread says, What are goods reason to leave? But the poll ask what do I like about my church?

eh...

ANyway, if I were to leave my church (unlikely), due to the lack of "feeding" of the Word...

Sorry for the confusion but it was my first time to poll and I wanted to make sure it was a positive poll and not headed in a lets beat up the church or pastor or congregation...Even though when we leave churches for whatever reason, it may seem negative to those left behind and those who go and so I was trying to balance things out? Does that make sense?

So sorry for the confusion. Maybe the next time I run a poll it won't be backwards to you.

Blessings and thanks for your participation.

NewSong

 

[Ann Doupont]

I just took the poll, and had to check every single item -- about what I like about my home church.

Now, about reasons why I have left other churches, there are many:

1. strife and discord
2. inaccurate teaching of God's Word
3. lack of acceptance
4. I wasn't needed there any longer
5. And, this should be #1: I left when God told me to leave.

Ann

 

[NewSong]

I just took the poll, and had to check every single item -- about what I like about my home church.

Now, about reasons why I have left other churches, there are many:

1. strife and discord
2. inaccurate teaching of God's Word
3. lack of acceptance
4. I wasn't needed there any longer
5. And, this should be #1: I left when God told me to leave.

Ann

Good post!

 

[New_Wineskin]

God leading you away

Yep .

 

[NewSong]

Yep .

I sure wished God would tell me in a louder voice if that is what He is doing?

Thanks~

 

[inrsoul]

Louder voice?

I believe He wants us to be silent and still for awhile. Be at rest, listening to what He has to say... Instead of seeking answers elsewhere... (But yeah... Sometimes, a louder voice does seem like a good idea )

 

[NewSong]

Louder voice?

I believe He wants us to be silent and still for awhile. Be at rest, listening to what He has to say... Instead of seeking answers elsewhere... (But yeah... Sometimes, a louder voice does seem like a good idea )

Thanks for sharing "inrsoul"!

 

[New_Wineskin]

I sure wished God would tell me in a louder voice if that is what He is doing?

Thanks~

If you are not at rest being a member of a group , the unrest could be speaking loud enough .

 

[NewSong]

If you are not at rest being a member of a group , the unrest could be speaking loud enough .

Oh I yearn to be a part but there is a disconnection and at first I thought I was just not able to accept others for who they are...And I felt like I was from Mars and everyone else was Earth...yadayadayada...And you know it was like they all seem to connect up with each other so it must be I am the problem. They all seem to be so content and seem to thrive in the church ...so what is my problem... I really long to be connected up but it is not happening. It is like I am some kind of space cadet that is not seen and just doesn't seem to have the same taste as everyone else. I felt like Cinderella's sisters and I feel like I keep trying to forcefully fit into the shoe.

Without going into many details, there have been so many things lately that have made me wonder what I am doing there. The details are irrelevant ...they were just part of what I have been going through for the past two-three years and especially the last 1 1/2 years.

I could say all sorts of nasty things, and blame all sorts of things but that is not what I should do~And the only reason I would do it , is because I get hurt and I am tired of being hurt.....that easily offended person here that needs love perfected in me.

Thanks

 

[goy]

Once I left a church because there were no eligible single girls

I have since then repented with sackcloth and ashes.

 

[NewSong]

Once I left a church because there were no eligible single girls

I have since then repented with sackcloth and ashes.

Do you mean there was something wrong with that? ​

 

[New_Wineskin]

Oh I yearn to be a part but there is a disconnection and at first I thought I was just not able to accept others for who they are...And I felt like I was from Mars and everyone else was Earth...yadayadayada...And you know it was like they all seem to connect up with each other so it must be I am the problem. They all seem to be so content and seem to thrive in the church ...so what is my problem...

While some are content , others could very well be good at looking so . To not appear content when obeying the law of assembly to obtain righteousness could produce people wondering what may be wrong with them ( as you have felt ) . When people are convinced that there is no way out and that not having a good attitude while being in their doctrinal prison could bring rebuke , one learns to put up with the few hours a week of essential sacrifice for maintaining their right standing before the Lord . Not all who look content are in fact content .

I really long to be connected up but it is not happening. It is like I am some kind of space cadet that is not seen and just doesn't seem to have the same taste as everyone else. I felt like Cinderella's sisters and I feel like I keep trying to forcefully fit into the shoe.

You feel that way because of the law of assembly is not from faith . Did the Lord suggest thal you to do this ? That is a typical feeling of attempting to obey the law of death .

 

[psalms 91]

i think that if god is leading you out then you must be obedient and also if you cant agree with the pastor or the vision of the church then you need to leave rather than cause dissention

 

[Hisgirl]

We left our nondenom church for a vineyard church. We had liked the people and the preacher, but two particular Bible school leaders were almost quoted as much as the Bible and an unbalanced view of God was being taught. The first sermon in the new church addressed the very thing that led us out. We're still trying to decide what to say to the old pastor......

 

[psalms 91]

the easiest and softest answer is that god led you out. if god leads you to get specific then youm should do so.