Trips without your spouse

[gracefaith]

Do you take trips without your spouse? Does your spouse take trips without you? Do go alone because you have to or because you want to? How long have you stayed away?

 

[Oblivious]

My husband travels alot with work (mostly domestic), and no, I never go with him. Most of his trips are < week long. Other than worrying about him, I'm fine without him, even though it's not my preference. I have my big dog to keep me company.

Last year my husband did take a trip with his family at Thanksgiving without me. I don't wish to go into details as to why and where he went without me, but I will say that was the hardest week I've had since we've been married. Anyway, from that point forward, if there's any traveling other than work, we're going together.

 

[redwing030]

DH has gone to Vegas without me twice. Both times he went for school though, so I wasn't allowed to go along. Each trip lasted 6 days.

I've never gone away w/o him however since we've been married.

 

[marciebaby]

My husband goes to Iraq and Afganistan about 10 times a month. Does that count?

We haven't had any separate vacations so far, although I'm going to a friend's wedding by myself this summer while he stays home with the kids. THAT will be any interesting change. My mom and sister and I were talking about going to Las Vegas in November (mom had a conference there), but I was pregnant and nauseated and it didn't work out.

 

[Jill Ann]

My husband takes trips without me and while I don't really love it, I've learned to accept it (sort of) .

He's the kind of person that really needs and enjoys his "solitary time", so usually about twice a year he will take off by himself for a couple of days (either to go hunting or to a basketball tournament, etc.).

I will say, it has been hard at times, as I have trust issues as it is. It does make it a lot easier for me to accept as long as he and I are getting along and if he has made an effort to have one-on-one time with me, as well.

Wondering why you ask, gracefaith.

 

[gracefaith]

Wondering why you ask, gracefaith.

Oh, cause I hate going on trips by myself. I've gone to a couple of far-away weddings by myself because we couldn't afford two tickets and two time-offs, but I didn't like doing it.

I know some people that don't think it's a big deal to leave their spouse and just go visit family or friends of whatever for a week or more. I dunno, strikes me...odd. I just wonder if it means something about the relationship or if that's just OK for some people.

 

[3kidsmom]

I just wonder if it means something about the relationship or if that's just OK for some people.

I take the kids to visit family quite often, and my husband usually does not go with us. When we only had one child I would go to my sister's just about evey other week but only for 2-3 days. Now that we have three kids I go less often but for 5-14 days. I have also gone to his mother's for nearly three weeks following the death of her husband. Sometimes, if we are gone for two weeks or more, he will try to meet us for a day or two and then travel back home with us.

I don't think it means anything about our relationship, other than that we are not finacially well off enough for him to take numerous weeks off work.

Neither of us has family nearby, so I don't think it odd that the price I pay for my children knowing their grandparents is me spending a few days apart from my husband.

I understand that there are couples for whom this would pose a problem, but for us it is just part of life.

 

[andiesmama]

My family lives in another state, so on a few occasions I've gone to visit them with Andie, leaving my DH alone for awhile. It's not a big deal to us, we miss each other like crazy of course, but it sure is fun making up for lost time when we get back together!

 

[MERCY@GRACE]

Oh, cause I hate going on trips by myself. I've gone to a couple of far-away weddings by myself because we couldn't afford two tickets and two time-offs, but I didn't like doing it.

I know some people that don't think it's a big deal to leave their spouse and just go visit family or friends of whatever for a week or more. I dunno, strikes me...odd. I just wonder if it means something about the relationship or if that's just OK for some people.

Dh is military so him traveling is a given. However I'm like you, I don't travel without him or the kids. My reason would be more for safety reasons than anything else. I would have no problem going to a retreat w/ a few girlfriends for a few days. I'd love it actually!!

 

[Flipper]

I've gone on "girls only" weekends a few times since we've been married. Hubby isn't bothered by it. I don't think I could do a "girls only week", but on a weekend once in a while, especially if it's a weekend he's working anyway, isn't bad.

 

[sculpturegirl]

We haven't been married long enough to test this out, but while we were engaged I went on lots of trips by myself. I don't mind going by myself, but I don't like it when he is away without me. Though, when he is away from me he comes back very hungry for me, which I LOVE! We have been talking about trips that I would go on alone. My work schedule is a lot more flexible and I can take more time off. We'll see how it actually works in real life now that we are actually married. We were both single for a long time before getting married and both really accustomed to traveling alone.

So, I guess in theory, I don't mind traveling without him. But I always look forward to coming home

 

[Amélie Unbound]

We have never taken trips without each other, but then, we've only been married for about 14 months. I don't want to go anywhere without my husband though.

There might be times in the future when my husband will have to go away to work-related conferences, but he says when that happens, he'd like for me to come too, as long as I know he won't have a lot of time to spend with me. I wouldn't mind that though; I am completely okay spending time by myself. I like traveling, so if the conference is someplace good I will be happy to go along! (And one of the benefits of being a stay-at-home wife is that I am free to do so!)

 

[5stringJeff]

I've only taken two business trips without the wife, and she's only take one trip (a women's retreat) without me.

However, my wife's first husband used to take trips without her all the time. Turns out, he was hanging out with a bunch of female "friends." That didn't happen too many times before my wife left him.

 

[If Not For Grace]

Separate Vacations is great if there is something you really want to do that your spouse does not share an interest in. I am historically inclined and hubby is inclined to hunt. Let him go get the big elk, while I do DC we talked for weeks afterwards while we cuddled and told each other how even though we were having a ball, we missed each other.

 

[LiberatedChick]

I've taken one work related trip without my husband. I was only away for 2 days and missed him like crazy.

 

[PastorMikeJ]

I go and fish bass tourneys without my wife only if I am fishing as the back boater....like when I fish FLW or B.A.S.S. Tourneys... but she is my bassfishing partner when we do our clubs tourneys or Fishers of Men bass tourneys..She is a great partner that is for sure....but she doesn't want to fish a tourney in someone elses boat...

 

[amyp31]

My husband and I have gone on seperate trips before. We live in Nebraska and my family is from WV so I usually go back there alone only when I have to. (When someone is sick or there is a funeral) He goes on fishing trips with the guys in the family. I hate when we're apart but afterward I'm grateful that we had the time away from each other. It really lets me miss him and it reminds me of why I love having him close.

 

[MaraPetra]

In almost four years of marriage, hubby and I have never taken separate vacations. Everything's been done together. Thinking back on it, we've only spent two nights apart during that time...And that was when we were at a church leadership conference and there were male and female dorms. We sure made up for that separation, though

We do get to try the "without-the-spouse" trip this April, when I go to Tulsa with my church Sunday School for a national seminar. It's a great way to "try it out", since I'll be with the pastor's wife and other women from the church

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

My hubby has to take numerous trips each month and, of course, with the military he is gone for extended periods of time. I will take trips without him while he is gone.

We have a pretty happy marriage. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder but I'll admit, any trip that lasts more than a few weeks in duration is hard on the kids and me

 

[agyevesam]

Hubby travels alot!!! I sometimes go with him, but for the most part I stay home with our puppies and take care things. I hate that we have to be apart, but it is a neccesary evil!