Surrendering to God

[Meshavrischika]

I have been struggling with surrendering to God. I know this sounds strange. In my life I have so many walls and looking back, I cannot say I have surrendered myself wholly to ANYTHING.

I have recently had many revelations of God and how he is working in my life. I realize that when I really do want to let go of a burden that he will take it.... This has only happened two times to me so far (it's just so darn hard to let go).

My problem is that my mind understands that I need to surrender... but FEELING anything is so difficult for me (I'm a cold fish because it's easier to live without being attached, etc... no chance to be disappointed or hurt). I just find I have relied on myself and my own strength for so long that I subconsciously cling to control of EVERYTHING in my life.

Does anyone have any suggestions? I don't mean bible passages... I mean real suggestions of HOW to do this, not why I should...

Thanks.

 

[DIVA_for_Christ]

I have been struggling with surrendering to God. I know this sounds strange. In my life I have so many walls and looking back, I cannot say I have surrendered myself wholly to ANYTHING.

I have recently had many revelations of God and how he is working in my life. I realize that when I really do want to let go of a burden that he will take it.... This has only happened two times to me so far (it's just so darn hard to let go).

My problem is that my mind understands that I need to surrender... but FEELING anything is so difficult for me (I'm a cold fish because it's easier to live without being attached, etc... no chance to be disappointed or hurt). I just find I have relied on myself and my own strength for so long that I subconsciously cling to control of EVERYTHING in my life.

Does anyone have any suggestions? I don't mean bible passages... I mean real suggestions of HOW to do this, not why I should...

Thanks.

This doesn't sound strange at all. It's good that you are acknowledging where you are at and why you are there. This is a normal part of the healing process that we need to go through.

I've been there, done that. And releasing control is not an overnight thing - it is a day to day process. We didn't get messed up emotionally and spiritually overnight so it takes time for up to be freed from our mess. Stay encouraged and remember that our mess turns into a message.

For me I had to face a lot of the hurts and pains from my childhood, then I had to acknowledge my anger towards God and get honest and real with Him. It wasn't until I got to that point that I got my breakthrough. The thing was I didn't even realize I was mad at Him but when I just started talking to Him without holding back, I found myself speaking from hidden and covered up pains and that's what He was waiting for.

From childhood, we learn to cope to survive. Allowing God's healing process in our lives, regardless of the pain we have to face, teaches us how to shift from coping to survive to dealing to live.

Day by day, let God process you, let Him priortize what He wants you to face. Confront the past issues, cry out the pain, tears are healing. I had to face issues of abandonment from my dad leaving when I was four, my brother tricking me into performing oral sex on him when I was about 6, being molested by older girls, and being raped at 16. I had to face all of that as well as other things, then I had to face how these circumstances/situations effected me, things that I did as a result, I had to forgive them, myself and now I'm free from my past. No longer holding onto self protection but letting God be my protector and trusting Him.

It's worth the initial pain because it's a release and when your free, your free for real. Then you'll start seeing the people who hurt you, were themselves hurt and you'll develop a true compassion and be able to pray for their healing, salvation, etc with a new power.

Take it day by day and let nothing put fear in you!!!

God Bless!!!!

 

[ContentInHim]

I have been struggling with surrendering to God. I know this sounds strange. In my life I have so many walls and looking back, I cannot say I have surrendered myself wholly to ANYTHING.

I have recently had many revelations of God and how he is working in my life. I realize that when I really do want to let go of a burden that he will take it.... This has only happened two times to me so far (it's just so darn hard to let go).

My problem is that my mind understands that I need to surrender... but FEELING anything is so difficult for me (I'm a cold fish because it's easier to live without being attached, etc... no chance to be disappointed or hurt). I just find I have relied on myself and my own strength for so long that I subconsciously cling to control of EVERYTHING in my life.

Does anyone have any suggestions? I don't mean bible passages... I mean real suggestions of HOW to do this, not why I should...

Thanks.

I know exactly what you mean. I had taken care of myself physically and psychologically for years and had done a pretty poor job of it, too.

When I was grieving over my husband, a counsellor recommended that I hand that grief over to Jesus and remind him of his promise that I would not be given more than I could handle and he would never leave me or forsake me. I wasn't even born-again yet, but that night I fell to the floor and screamed "I can't do it anymore - do it for me". And he did!

Now whenever I try to take care of business without involving him in the decision making, I usually mess it up. I'm pulled up by my collar and reminded to involve Jesus by prayer, by discussion with other believers, etc. and finally by turning the problem over to Him. And the solution usually presents itself!

Try it - and tell him you are trying it! He's faithful to help you.

 

[Nobility]

I've been struggling with this myself recently, as I realized I literally had NO relationship with Jesus anymore

For me, I connect through music and spending time with him so I've made an effort to get to bed at least half an hour before my husband and lay in bed with the stereo on (worship music - softly) and get out a study journal and my bible... I have done lots of things with it in the few nights I've been doing it... Asked Jesus for those things I really want in life (christian female friends in real life), told him who wonderful he is, prayed for needs of those I know, read the bible, and paraphrased the bible by writing it on paper in different wordings, I've also reflected on the studies by writing them down, and layed and worshipped God and sung some songs...

For me it's helped me to surrender since I've actually spent some time with him (remember 1/2 hour is actually only 2% of your day )

I'm praying for you.

 

[heron]

All the books will tell you to let go completely, but it was God who designed our bodies to respond to distress in this way.

Knowing this, He gave us verses like "Cast your cares upon Him, for He cares for you."

But the foundational reaction was what helped you survive. The walls did protect you for a while.

They might be up longer than they needed to be, but don't allow guilt to add another obstacle. The walls were there for a reason. Now you can gradually take them down -- the ones you don't need anymore.

-I surrender all to You-

God knows what you need. Make sure you do this in line with His pace, not just how the books and preachers and guilt tell you it should be done. It's not a race to be surrendered.

It's a partnership with God... a walk with Him... a father-child relationship. Our heavenly Father knows what you need to let go of, and when. It's okay.

 

[ephraimanesti]

I have been struggling with surrendering to God. I know this sounds strange. In my life I have so many walls and looking back, I cannot say I have surrendered myself wholly to ANYTHING.

I have recently had many revelations of God and how he is working in my life. I realize that when I really do want to let go of a burden that he will take it.... This has only happened two times to me so far (it's just so darn hard to let go).

My problem is that my mind understands that I need to surrender... but FEELING anything is so difficult for me (I'm a cold fish because it's easier to live without being attached, etc... no chance to be disappointed or hurt). I just find I have relied on myself and my own strength for so long that I subconsciously cling to control of EVERYTHING in my life.

Does anyone have any suggestions? I don't mean bible passages... I mean real suggestions of HOW to do this, not why I should...

Thanks.

MY DEAR SISTER,

i have one piece of advice for you--

IGNORE YOUR FEELINGS!
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In living as Christians--i.e., in following Biblical directions and keeping Christs' commandment--our feelings are our worst enemies. Feelings, by definition, are caused by chemical reactions within our mortal bodies -- some occuring naturally, some caused by mental processes in our carnal brains--and these reactions can be manipulated by everything from the present phase of the moon, what we had for dinner the night before, to Satan's subtle whisperings in our ear. They are like restless winds--blowing one way for a time and then changing directions and blowing the opposite way the next moment, and ending up gusting in circles.

All we should be paying attention to is God's Word--communicated to us both through the Scriptures and through the Holy Spirit residing in our hearts. These Godly communiques are TRUE whereas our feelings, more often than not, are either misguided, mistaken, or outright lies.

Just follow directions--Scriptural and Spirit-given--no matter what you feel. That is the essence of Faith and Faith, of course, is the essence of everything else for a follower of Christ!

MANY BLESSINGS TO YOU!

A BOND-SLAVE OF CHRIST,
ephraim

 

[Treasurer]

You have to use scriptures, for the word of God declares "faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God". In order to let go, we must have faith. (We dont just blindly jump off a cliff if we dont know there will be something there to catch us- or that there is a bridge there). Now this is where the other scripture comes in because it says: faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen. (Just because you cant see something doesnt mean it doesnt exhist, it just means some of us know the net or bridge exhist).

So letting go isnt blind faith. It is having heard what God told you about trusting in him, and then believe you can and will trust him.

I remember a time I was so downtrodden, tired and weary. It felt as if everyone was leaning on me for everything. And there was such termoil in the house amist the family. It just so happened to be the night of the Sabbath day. So the scripture came to my mind of, "come unto me all you who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest." (paraphrased). I knew within that scripture it was saying rest, which I knew to mean the Sabbath. Oh how I longed for rest. I just couldnt handle the problems any more, I was so tired and drained.

So I prayed to the Lord, saying this scripture to him, and asking for my Sabbath day of rest thru him.

Now I expected him to literally give me a day of rest. Where I didnt have to do anything or be responsible for anyone. But that wasnt at all what he did. He gave me a rest I had never imagined. He healed the problem. He touched the hearts of the people involved, and made everything whole again. This was a much better rest, it was peace. Peace of heart, mind and soul.

The other day I had read a scripture that said, "these signs shall follow those who believe..."

It dawned on me when we believe what Jesus tells us, such as the come unto me when you are weary and heavy laden, signs follow our action, such as the finishing of this statement- "and I will give you rest." This is our sign of what we believe.

I used to have a problem with trusting as well, because unfortunately in this world people always let us down. And we are not taught to ever just trust first (which I guess is a protection thing in our day and age).

I felt like I had a wall around my heart, in fact I felt as if this wall was made of ice. I prayed that the Lord would break this wall and melt my heart.

There are a lot of tears at first. Because you are allowing yourself to feel love. (Even from dumb things, like this commercial I saw with a mother loving her child-made me cry). And there are times when you feel pain and resentment because you cant trust people. But what I have learned is that you can trust God. And if we do things not for others but for God, then we can never be hurt. Because we are not looking for a reward here. We know where our reward is, it is with God.

Trusting God is a process. It starts a little bit at a time. Each little step you take makes your faith grow bigger.

God be with you, and may he guide and instruct you in all things which you desire to know.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Sometimes. I often feel like my problems are too miniscule to annoy God with, but then I remind myself "He's God, He doesn't have a limited amount that He can handle"

 

[wonderwaleye]

I have been struggling with surrendering to God. I know this sounds strange. In my life I have so many walls and looking back, I cannot say I have surrendered myself wholly to ANYTHING.

I have recently had many revelations of God and how he is working in my life. I realize that when I really do want to let go of a burden that he will take it.... This has only happened two times to me so far (it's just so darn hard to let go).

My problem is that my mind understands that I need to surrender... but FEELING anything is so difficult for me (I'm a cold fish because it's easier to live without being attached, etc... no chance to be disappointed or hurt). I just find I have relied on myself and my own strength for so long that I subconsciously cling to control of EVERYTHING in my life.

Does anyone have any suggestions? I don't mean bible passages... I mean real suggestions of HOW to do this, not why I should...

Thanks.

ONCE AND FOR ALL TIME give your WHOLE heart, mind, strength, and soul to GOD and tell GOD from now on I'm going to do things YOUR way!!!

Boy will you be surprised what will happen next IF YOU REALLY MEAN AND ACT ON IT.

You bring back memories!!! I got to the point I told GOD I have done it my way and I'm still not content so now I'm ready to try YOURS.

I always thought I was something until I seen how GOD works.


IT IS SUCH A JOY TO REMEMBER:


“ Believe “ in Greek is a verb and has three components which are: hearing, accepting, and then " ACTING " upon that which you have accepted. X Even though you can't see him, GOD is there!!! O ( click on the x and drag to the O ) ( then see who is with you ) steven