Soulmates?

[CodyFaith]

What's your view on the concept of soul mates? Do you think it's scriptural and true?
My heart tells me it is true.

The verse Matthew 22:30 I see talking just about marriage itself, not about soulmates. Though I could definitely see how it could be took to imply all permanent romantic connections, thus me creating this thread to see the variety of opinions

Also, if true, do you think every Christian has a soulmate? Will we all be coupled there?

 

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What's your view on the concept of soul mates? Do you think it's scriptural and true?
My heart tells me it is true.

The verse Matthew 22:30 I see talking just about marriage itself, not about soulmates. Though I could definitely see how it could be took to imply all permanent romantic connections, thus me creating this thread to see the variety of opinions

Also, if true, do you think every Christian has a soulmate? Will we all be coupled there?

The common idea of a “soul mate” is that for every person, there is another person who is a “perfect fit,” and if you marry anyone other than this soul mate, you will never be happy. Is this concept of a soul mate biblical? No, it is not. The soul mate concept is often used as an excuse for divorce. People who are unhappy in their marriage sometimes claim that they did not marry their soul mate and therefore should divorce and begin the search for their true soul mate. This is nothing more than an excuse, a blatantly unbiblical excuse. If you are married, the person you are married to is your soul mate. Mark 10:7-9 declares, “A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” A husband and wife are “united,” “one flesh,” “no longer two, but one,” and “joined together,” i.e., soul mates.

A marriage may not be as unified and joyous as a couple wishes it to be. A husband and wife may not have the physical, emotional, and spiritual unity that they desire. But even in this instance, the husband and wife are still soul mates. A couple in such a situation needs to work on developing true “soul mate” intimacy. By obeying what the Bible teaches about marriage (Ephesians 5:22-33), a couple can develop the intimacy, love, and commitment that being “one flesh” soul mates entails. If you are married, you are married to your soul mate. No matter how disharmonious a marriage is, God can bring healing, forgiveness, restoration, and true marital love and harmony.

Is it possible to marry the wrong person? If we give ourselves to God and seek His guidance, He promises to direct us: “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5-6). The implication of Proverbs 3:5-6 is that if you are not trusting in the Lord with all your heart, and are leaning on your own understanding, you can go the wrong direction. Yes, it is possible, in a time of disobedience and lack of close fellowship with God, to marry someone whom He did not desire you to marry. Even in such an instance, though, God is sovereign and in control.

Even if a marriage was not God’s desire, it is still within His sovereign will and plan. God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), and “marrying the wrong person” is never presented in the Bible as grounds for divorce. The claim “I married the wrong person and will never be happy unless I find my true soul mate” is unbiblical in two respects. First, it is a claim that your wrong decision has overridden God’s will and destroyed His plan. Second, it is a claim that God is not capable of making a struggling marriage happy, unified, and successful. Nothing we do can disrupt God’s sovereign will. God can take any two people, no matter how mismatched, and mold them into two people who are perfect for each other.

If we maintain close fellowship with God, He will lead us and guide us. If a person is walking with the Lord and truly seeking His will, God will lead that person to the spouse He intends. God will lead us to our “soul mate” if we submit to Him and follow Him. However, being soul mates is both a position and a practice. A husband and wife are soul mates in that they are “one flesh,” spiritually, physically, and emotionally united to each other. In practice, though, there is a process of taking what a couple is, soul mates, and making that a day-by-day reality. True soul mate oneness is only possible by implementing the biblical pattern of marriage.

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[EmmaCat]

I'm in love, and so is he, and I always wondered about soulmates.

I read your post, @jason_delisle . That helped a lot! Maybe I should ask my boyfriend, now that I have a little knowledge of it. Thank you!

All good things
Emmy

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

What's your view on the concept of soul mates? Do you think it's scriptural and true?
My heart tells me it is true.

The verse Matthew 22:30 I see talking just about marriage itself, not about soulmates. Though I could definitely see how it could be took to imply all permanent romantic connections, thus me creating this thread to see the variety of opinions

Also, if true, do you think every Christian has a soulmate? Will we all be coupled there?

As Scripture you posted says,
in heaven there is no marriage nor giving in marriage.

Also, as Scripture says clearly, the heart is more deceptive than anything else.

 

[Gregory Thompson]

the concept of soulmate comes from the old idea that each soul was cut in two in the beginning, and by finding your soul mate, it means you found your other half. Though being married is permitted, Paul encouraged people to serve the lord and not get married. So what matters most is what your personal calling is and if the person is someone you can't live without.

 

[CodyFaith]

As Scripture you posted says,
in heaven there is no marriage nor giving in marriage.

Also, as Scripture says clearly, the heart is more deceptive than anything else.

Is it not still possible they retain a permanent connection, and that it's simply talking about the institution of marriage itself being dissolved of it's purpose?
I'm not suggesting there's sex or anything like that, as that too I see being a part of marriage, just a permanent "soulmate" connection to one's true love.

I mean, it is called the Song of Songs after all.

 

[AnticipateHisComing]

What's your view on the concept of soul mates? Do you think it's scriptural and true?
My heart tells me it is true.

Sorry, but your heart longs for things of the earth. As scripture says marriage is a union of the flesh, not souls. While the Bible mentions that man needed a helper/companion, the actual act where flesh is joined is an act that results in reproduction which is the first command given by God to man. So the main purpose of marriage is to provide a stable environment and method to bring children that grow up to being good parents of their own. This causing a repeated generation after generation in following with God's command to fill the earth.

Note, there are numerous examples of God's people having multiple wives. Also, scripture allows/encourages widows to remarry.

The idea that another person/soul is required to fulfill your essence is earthly. Follow the example of the Catholic priests that wear wedding rings. Being married to the Church/dedicate your earthly life for God's kingdom is the highest completeness one may aspire to on earth. So difficult to do though in this age, but in the next age we will all be one with God, then we will be complete. To elevate the union of two people/fleshes as a soul union would only diminish the completeness of our spiritual life with God in heaven.

I fear the world has so romanticized love that people forget the greatest love is that one would die for a friend. John 15:13.

 

[AnticipateHisComing]

I mean, it is called the Song of Songs after all.

Solomon, who wrote your romantic book, had a harem of a thousand. He also wrote this of women.

Ecclesiastes 7:27 “Look,” says the Teacher, “this is what I have discovered:
“Adding one thing to another to discover the scheme of things—
28 while I was still searching but not finding—
I found one upright man among a thousand, but not one upright woman among them all.​

Lest we also forget, the love of women was the downfall of Solomon, tearing him away from God.

1 Kings 11 Solomon Turns from the Lord
Now King Solomon loved many foreign women, along with the daughter of Pharaoh: Moabite, Ammonite, Edomite, Sidonian, and Hittite women, 2 from the nations concerning which the Lord had said to the people of Israel, “You shall not enter into marriage with them, neither shall they with you, for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods.” Solomon clung to these in love. 3 He had 700 wives, who were princesses, and 300 concubines. And his wives turned away his heart. 4 For when Solomon was old his wives turned away his heart after other gods, and his heart was not wholly true to the Lord his God, as was the heart of David his father. 5 For Solomon went after Ashtoreth the goddess of the Sidonians, and after Milcom the abomination of the Ammonites. 6 So Solomon did what was evil in the sight of the Lord and did not wholly follow the Lord, as David his father had done. 7 Then Solomon built a high place for Chemosh the abomination of Moab, and for Molech the abomination of the Ammonites, on the mountain east of Jerusalem. 8 And so he did for all his foreign wives, who made offerings and sacrificed to their gods.

The Lord Raises Adversaries
9 And the Lord was angry with Solomon, because his heart had turned away from the Lord, the God of Israel, who had appeared to him twice 10 and had commanded him concerning this thing, that he should not go after other gods. But he did not keep what the Lord commanded. 11 Therefore the Lord said to Solomon, “Since this has been your practice and you have not kept my covenant and my statutes that I have commanded you, I will surely tear the kingdom from you and will give it to your servant. 12 Yet for the sake of David your father I will not do it in your days, but I will tear it out of the hand of your son. ​

Let this be a warning to you, do not worship a women, even your wife. As Samson and Delilah exemplify, men are so easily enticed by them.

 

[CodyFaith]

Sorry, but your heart longs for things of the earth. As scripture says marriage is a union of the flesh, not souls. While the Bible mentions that man needed a helper/companion, the actual act where flesh is joined is an act that results in reproduction which is the first command given by God to man. So the main purpose of marriage is to provide a stable environment and method to bring children that grow up to being good parents of their own. This causing a repeated generation after generation in following with God's command to fill the earth.

Note, there are numerous examples of God's people having multiple wives. Also, scripture allows/encourages widows to remarry.

The idea that another person/soul is required to fulfill your essence is earthly. Follow the example of the Catholic priests that wear wedding rings. Being married to the Church/dedicate your earthly life for God's kingdom is the highest completeness one may aspire to on earth. So difficult to do though in this age, but in the next age we will all be one with God, then we will be complete. To elevate the union of two people/fleshes as a soul union would only diminish the completeness of our spiritual life with God in heaven.

I fear the world has so romanticized love that people forget the greatest love is that one would die for a friend. John 15:13.

I resent and am offended by you calling my desires earthly. You have no idea my reasons for believing such. You don't know me to make that judgement call, even if I were wrong, earthly is a strong statement.

Just because that's the greatest love doesn't mean there can't still be soulmates. The way you talk about wives make it sound so cold, "men could have multiple", "it's just a joining of the flesh". Pretty sure you read Song of Songs and Solomon and his wife have a much deeper connection then flesh!!! Not only that, but when Eve was presented to Adam, he poetically stated "flesh of my flesh, bone of my bones". It's poetic.

I remember Solomon saying too, in Songs of Songs 6:8-9, that the one in question was his only one. His bride, his dove, his love. Just because of the way she looks/"pleases" him? No, absolutely not.

 

[CodyFaith]

Solomon, who wrote your romantic book, had a harem of a thousand. He also wrote this of women.

Ecclesiastes 7:27 “Look,” says the Teacher, “this is what I have discovered:
“Adding one thing to another to discover the scheme of things—
28 while I was still searching but not finding—
I found one upright man among a thousand, but not one upright woman among them all.​

Lest we also forget, the love of women was the downfall of Solomon, tearing him away from God.

1 Kings 11 Solomon Turns from the Lord
Now King Solomon loved many foreign women, along with the daughter of Pharaoh: Moabite, Ammonite, Edomite, Sidonian, and Hittite women, 2 from the nations concerning which the Lord had said to the people of Israel, “You shall not enter into marriage with them, neither shall they with you, for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods.” Solomon clung to these in love. 3 He had 700 wives, who were princesses, and 300 concubines. And his wives turned away his heart. 4 For when Solomon was old his wives turned away his heart after other gods, and his heart was not wholly true to the Lord his God, as was the heart of David his father. 5 For Solomon went after Ashtoreth the goddess of the Sidonians, and after Milcom the abomination of the Ammonites. 6 So Solomon did what was evil in the sight of the Lord and did not wholly follow the Lord, as David his father had done. 7 Then Solomon built a high place for Chemosh the abomination of Moab, and for Molech the abomination of the Ammonites, on the mountain east of Jerusalem. 8 And so he did for all his foreign wives, who made offerings and sacrificed to their gods.

The Lord Raises Adversaries
9 And the Lord was angry with Solomon, because his heart had turned away from the Lord, the God of Israel, who had appeared to him twice 10 and had commanded him concerning this thing, that he should not go after other gods. But he did not keep what the Lord commanded. 11 Therefore the Lord said to Solomon, “Since this has been your practice and you have not kept my covenant and my statutes that I have commanded you, I will surely tear the kingdom from you and will give it to your servant. 12 Yet for the sake of David your father I will not do it in your days, but I will tear it out of the hand of your son. ​

Let this be a warning to you, do not worship a women, even your wife. As Samson and Delilah exemplify, men are so easily enticed by them.

So your saying Song of Songs is an unholy book and that he was just a womanizer?

Pfft. "My romantic book", wow.

 

[Noxot]

the church of swedenborg says it is a thing in heaven.

 

[EastCoastRemnant]

The concept of "love" here on earth is but a pale reflection of the love we will have in Heaven and on the new earth... our one true love throughout eternity will be for God the Father and Jesus His Son... our affections for every other created being will be the same as we will have a perfect heart of love and will be incapable of loving one more than another. There will be no jealousy, envy, etc. to mar this love that God will flow through us.

 

[Rzim]

Its me that has to bear my cross i cant bear my wifes if i were to marry. From a view of maturity and such this post is mind blowing. Some people only want to hear what thier itching ears want to hear.
What does mans validation compare to the word of God?

 

[Noxot]

here is the church of swedenborgs explanation of it for anyone that believes that God still works through and lives with his people. at around 13 mins there is an explaination of the supposed verse in the bible that 'denies' soulmates: