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"Singleness is a gift" is actually a lie?

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As someone who excelled in psychology, I get the impression that many of the Christian leaders who claim that singleness is a gift were themselves in a period of unwanted and painful extended singleness and subconsciously - or not-so-subconsciously - desire for others to be as well.

Misery loves company.
Or an attempt to pacify the disgruntled masses of singles.

I've been noticing increasing number of single women spending time together in public places. Obviously they're all friends with each other.

Intriguingly, these women are young, pretty, and fit. They wouldn't have any problems finding someone to date. Men would be flocking to them. Yet, these gathering of women seem to growing in numbers. I think they maybe avoiding having relationship with men. Any men.

I did not observe similar patterns in men. Men are either with their GF or spouse or alone.

I'm not complaining. Sometimes I think it's an improvement in some ways.

In the late 90's and early 2000's things are quite different. If you're single guy in your late teens or twenties, people will think you're gay or weird or have mental issues. Now it has become normal enough for young men to be single like who cares.
 
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Nah, many of the Christian leaders who have told me singleness is a gift are happily married: Singleness is a gift comes from the Bible. That’s why they say it.

Where it becomes a problem is when they act like you shouldn’t want it, which contradicts the Bible which says it’s okay to want it, & they wanted it themselves & likely want it for their own children. I think they're well-intentioned for the most part, just don't really understand the struggle.
 
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Intriguingly, these women are young, pretty, and fit. They wouldn't have any problems finding someone to date. Men would be flocking to them. Yet, these gathering of women seem to growing in numbers. I think they maybe avoiding having relationship with men. Any men.

There's no pressure to act and the reason is in your response. She's pretty and fit and that isn't the norm. She'll always get attention because of that. When you factor in the internet they probably get a lot. Taking a break isn't uncommon. Especially if you're on a site or using apps. The influx is tiring.

On the other hand, they may be holding out for someone who values their attractiveness and rewards it. That's more likely when you consider the demographic. When you're on the same page physically the conversation differs. You'll hear the truth in that setting. They're more likely to nudge you towards the better option relationally or encourage you to tackle challenges you're avoiding.

There's a greater thing at play we can touch on if you'd like. Ozempic is the foreshadowing. Weight is the new velvet rope. Thinness will be exalted and the backlash is underway.

~bella
 
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I think they maybe avoiding having relationship with men. Any men.
A friend of mine is very attractive, very popular and very successful (she's just bought a house outright in the middle of Amsterdam.)

She's been happily single and dateless since I've known her (and it's close to six years now.) We'd occasionally meet for drinks, but she knew I wasn't a risk. I was sowing my wild oats at the time.
 
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Neither marriage nor singleness is a gift.

To be content with the state you are in is a gift. You can be happy or unhappy in both states.
The text is not taking about happiness.
A person who is a gifted singer, isn't more happy than a person that can't sing well.
The gift is in respects to the area for which it is used, See Romans 12:6-8; 1 Corinthians 12:1-12

Because the natural thing, is to want or have a mate, it requires "special adjustments", so to speak, to remain single.
 
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There's no pressure to act and the reason is in your response. She's pretty and fit and that isn't the norm. She'll always get attention because of that. When you factor in the internet they probably get a lot. Taking a break isn't uncommon. Especially if you're on a site or using apps. The influx is tiring.

On the other hand, they may be holding out for someone who values their attractiveness and rewards it. That's more likely when you consider the demographic. When you're on the same page physically the conversation differs. You'll hear the truth in that setting. They're more likely to nudge you towards the better option relationally or encourage you to tackle challenges you're avoiding.

~bella

I think the pressure is still strong for men. Not as strong as before but still strong. No one sees a problem with attractive single women. Not the same situation with men.

There's a greater thing at play we can touch on if you'd like. Ozempic is the foreshadowing. Weight is the new velvet rope. Thinness will be exalted and the backlash is underway.

Fortunately, I still see many do it through exercise and many through outdoor exercise like running and cycling. It brings people together. It's better than the drug.
 
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A friend of mine is very attractive, very popular and very successful (she's just bought a house outright in the middle of Amsterdam.)

She's been happily single and dateless since I've known her (and it's close to six years now.) We'd occasionally meet for drinks, but she knew I wasn't a risk. I was sowing my wild oats at the time.

That is interesting. Maybe it's just more likely for women to have no interest in relationships with men, other than for platonic ones.
 
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I think the pressure is still strong for men. Not as strong as before but still strong. No one sees a problem with attractive single women. Not the same situation with men.

Men have more pressure than women overall. You wrestle with stigmas we don't. When a woman can't get a guy there's a reason and her inability isn't questioned. But a man in a similar state is criticized.

Fortunately, I still see many do it through exercise and many through outdoor exercise like running and cycling. It brings people together. It's better than the drug.

We're the land of shortcuts. Drugs and surgery are preferred. ;-)

Brands are reducing sizes and attributing it to the drug but that isn't true. They don't want to spend the money. Larger clothes cost more to make and the profit margin is smaller. The industry standard caps at 145 to 150 and that's probably generous. We're going back and it will probably be closer to what we saw in the 40s or 50s.

Body positivity was a trend and it's done. Thin has returned and small is preferable. That's why there's so much interest in corsets and waist trainers. A year ago you didn't hear much about weight loss but now you do and it encompasses young and old. That's a positive shift.

But the bigger issue is beautification. Plastic surgery was the first iteration and now we have the drug. When you put them together you're moving the scale. And average isn't average. When I think about the slogan 'the beautiful people' I wonder if that's the goal.

PS. Measurements are easier to visualize. 4-12 is the standard. Everything beyond it is a larger size.

~bella

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Nah, many of the Christian leaders who have told me singleness is a gift are happily married: Singleness is a gift comes from the Bible. That’s why they say it.

Where it becomes a problem is when they act like you shouldn’t want it, which contradicts the Bible which says it’s okay to want it, & they wanted it themselves & likely want it for their own children. I think they're well-intentioned for the most part, just don't really understand the struggle.
Yeah, I sometimes have a hard time accepting messages directed towards singles because they're coming from people who are married. I agree with you that the intention is good, but can be a little tone deaf at times, and in more extreme cases lean towards being harmful rather than helpful.
 
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We're the land of shortcuts. Drugs and surgery are preferred. ;-)

Brands are reducing sizes and attributing it to the drug but that isn't true. They don't want to spend the money. Larger clothes cost more to make and the profit margin is smaller. The industry standard caps at 145 to 150 and that's probably generous. We're going back and it will probably be closer to what we saw in the 40s or 50s.

Body positivity was a trend and it's done. Thin has returned and small is preferable. That's why there's so much interest in corsets and waist trainers. A year ago you didn't hear much about weight loss but now you do and it encompasses young and old. That's a positive shift.

But the bigger issue is beautification. Plastic surgery was the first iteration and now we have the drug. When you put them together you're moving the scale. And average isn't average. When I think about the slogan 'the beautiful people' I wonder if that's the goal.
Ozempic will produce a generation of physically weak and fragile people. It's not going to be good. Acquired genetic traits from maladaptation is heritable. The damage caused by the drug can be passed down to offspring.

It will actually lower the genetic quality of potential mates. It's terrible even if you don't plan on having children of your own.

PS. Measurements are easier to visualize. 4-12 is the standard. Everything beyond it is a larger size.

I'd be a "12" in waist and hip. Through exercise, intermittent fasting, and calorie restriction.
 
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Ozempic will produce a generation of physically weak and fragile people. It's not going to be good. Acquired genetic traits from maladaptation is heritable. The damage caused by the drug can be passed down to offspring.

I don't agree with its use for weight loss. The side effects are horrible and there are less dangerous ways to address it. For the most part, I'm not a fan of pills or surgery and the results aren't permanent for most. Weight is a question of mindset. There's no hidden secret to losing or remaining thin. You can't be a glutton or believe excess is attractive. If you buy into either you'll be stuck.

That isn't politically correct but that's the way you get rid of it and keep it off. You don't beat yourself up or say you're ugly. But you have to reach the point where it isn't acceptable. Not because of your health, dating issues, activities, etc. But wholly because of the mirror.

It will actually lower the genetic quality of potential mates. It's terrible even if you don't plan on having children of your own.

Ozempic is a reflection of the have's and have nots in respect to attractiveness along with plastic surgery. If you don't like something you can change it. There's a domino effect that follows. When you enhance your appearance your standard shifts and its usually higher. What most attribute to hypergamy is a byproduct of looks. That's why things are so imbalanced.

I'd be a "12" in waist and hip. Through exercise, intermittent fasting, and calorie restriction.

When I initially read this I thought you meant 12 inches or centimeters! ;-)

You're doing well and you're in shape. 4 is my ideal and 6 is the max. When you remove a corset you don't retain all your reduction. The waist will expand a little. I like a slim silhouette with curves. It looks classy as you age.

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Ozempic is a reflection of the have's and have nots in respect to attractiveness along with plastic surgery. If you don't like something you can change it. There's a domino effect that follows. When you enhance your appearance your standard shifts and its usually higher. What most attribute to hypergamy is a byproduct of looks. That's why things are so imbalanced.
Fortunately, there are cost-free alternatives. And the health improvements from the cost free methods will also improve productivity and even lead to higher income.

When I initially read this I thought you meant 12 inches or centimeters! ;-)

You're doing well and you're in shape. 4 is my ideal and 6 is the max. When you remove a corset you don't retain all your reduction. The waist will expand a little. I like a slim silhouette with curves. It looks classy as you age.

Yeah, that would insanity!

I'm not very particular with size but proportion does matter to me. It's fairly easy for me to burn calories. I found an activity I clicked with which is figure skating. I found I can even practice some jumps inside our tiny and crowded apartment and I do it whenever I get bored from sitting down and practically wear the skates the whole day.
 
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Fortunately, there are cost-free alternatives. And the health improvements from the cost free methods will also improve productivity and even lead to higher income.

That isn't our way. We aren't known for patience or long suffering. We want quick solutions. That's why surgery and drugs are popular.

But I can see health playing a part in job selection and promotion. Especially as layoffs continue and they're cutting costs. A healthier workforce requires less expensive policies. There was an initiative in the past led by employees that shifted the burden to those who required the extras that resulted in higher premiums. Smoking and weight were two of the conditions but there were others. They believed it was unfair to pay extra for coverage they didn't require. I didn't follow the story but I'm not surprised.

We'll definitely see it in social media and the platforms that are promoted. Nara Smith is a great example. That isn't the typical image of a woman in the kitchen we expect and that's intentional. Everything they put in your face is meant to trigger you. Women look at her and they like her or explode. And the powers love it.

I'm not very particular with size but proportion does matter to me.

When you consider the reality we're going backwards in its proper context you'll understand why there's a greater emphasis on appearance for the sexes. You had the gentleman and the dandy and the lady. They were the fashionistas of that period. But the rest were working class and they have a different narrative. That's what the red pill provides.

They're meant to incite men against modernity. In particular where women are concerned. By opting out or doubling down on tradition they prepare the population for a reduction in income. Once you convince him she's better off at home and he's willing to make the sacrifice he'll get along with less without complaint.

That's where trad wives come in. She stokes the ego and restores the man's dignity by her attention to the home and domesticity. He isn't threatened. She keeps the women occupied by cooking, cleaning, and minutiae for daily living. Her image is unrealistic but she won't tell you how to be like her. You're meant to mimic the example or get upset.

Then there's the gurus of course. They give you the stats and truth about dating, marriage, etc. That's meant to foster hopelessness and anxiety. That's why their platforms are big. The more you listen the less you'll do until you throw in the towel.

This is all a foreshadowing of transhumanism. They have to make you miserable with your condition, envy another's or be willing to undergo significant changes to have the same. Designer bodies are the first step. They created a drug you can't have unless you can pay out of pocket perpetually. Weight loss surgery is on the chopping block. They'll reclassify the procedure as cosmetic or make it nearly impossible to get it approved.

They don't want a healthy society. That's why the $1 menu is back at fast food restaurants. They're giving you the tools to unravel yourself. Whether it's through food, poverty, health, stress or loneliness. They're filling your screen with messages that make you feel worse. They know the average person won't take the higher road. They'll feed what hurts.

Keep doing what you're doing. People are beginning to crack and you'll see greater fractures in the coming years because the pressure is mounting. Several years ago I said we'll see the return of relationships of convenience as things worsen. Be mindful of that as your fortunes improve.

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Then there's the gurus of course. They give you the stats and truth about dating, marriage, etc. That's meant to foster hopelessness and anxiety. That's why their platforms are big. The more you listen the less you'll do until you throw in the towel.
After a few videos I've seen here, that's enough for me and don't want to know anymore. There will always be exceptions and freedom to choose whoever you want for a partner even if everybody wants rich and good looking is still the best option for everyone and I'm not saying it because my options are great. I'm poor and I don't think I look good enough. But I'm not complaining. It's probably better this way.

They don't want a healthy society. That's why the $1 menu is back at fast food restaurants. They're giving you the tools to unravel yourself. Whether it's through food, poverty, health, stress or loneliness. They're filling your screen with messages that make you feel worse. They know the average person won't take the higher road. They'll feed what hurts.
I've blocked out all information that could make me. My youtube account, all you can see are music, sermons, cycling, and figure skating content. I removed all contents and all channels from my feed that are deceptive or excessively materialistic. I blocked the ads as well. Stopped using facebook website 7 years ago. I only use the messenger feature on the phone. I can still receive messages but no longer see feeds nor visit people's profiles. I don't use any other social media platforms. Zero ads on my browsing.

My mom who uses youtube for entertainment, I "cleaned" her content as well, blocked the ads. She had no complaints so far and seem to be enjoying youtube better (I'll probably regret it).

Several years ago I said we'll see the return of relationships of convenience as things worsen. Be mindful of that as your fortunes improve.
It will take a miracle for my fortunes to improve. It could be tomorrow, after 10 years or even yesterday. There is no certainty for me.
 
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After a few videos I've seen here, that's enough for me and don't want to know anymore. There will always be exceptions and freedom to choose whoever you want for a partner even if everybody wants rich and good looking is still the best option for everyone and I'm not saying it because my options are great. I'm poor and I don't think I look good enough. But I'm not complaining. It's probably better this way.

The videos posted here are a good example of what I described. They haven't solved the problem. Nor are the people posting them any closer to obtaining what they've sought. It's a negative talking point that reminds you of your shortcomings and provides an opportunity for commiseration.

When you're trying to solve a problem you don't need a steady influx of what's amiss. You have to scrutinize your resources and test them to determine what happened when you applied what you heard. You can't rely on your feelings. You have to ask the hard questions. Is it moving the needle or not?

I've blocked out all information that could make me. My youtube account, all you can see are music, sermons, cycling, and figure skating content. I removed all contents and all channels from my feed that are deceptive or excessively materialistic. I blocked the ads as well. Stopped using facebook website 7 years ago. I only use the messenger feature on the phone. I can still receive messages but no longer see feeds nor visit people's profiles. I don't use any other social media platforms. Zero ads on my browsing.

It's good you're protecting yourself. I use these tools professionally and stay informed on the ways they're being abused. I don't want to be part of the problem or a victim. Forecasting, spotting trends and reading the culture is part of that. I've taken some of the steps you've mentioned for similar reasons.

I heard a really good message on jealousy a few weeks ago. She noted the spiritual consequences to both. The one with the problem and the object of their ire. She said the spirit afflicts them and went into detail on the ways their mind is besieged incessantly and they're tormented. It was really insightful.

We're bombarded with information and media designed to push our buttons continually. Social media is the greatest catalyst for that since the television was invented. This isn't the Most High's technology. That's why it's in the enemy's hands. It can be a force for good but you have to put parameters around it and remember the source.

It will take a miracle for my fortunes to improve. It could be tomorrow, after 10 years or even yesterday. There is no certainty for me.

The miracle isn't your responsibility. Your job is to be diligent and pray and allow the Lord to do what you can't. This is a reset. The hardest hit will be the middle class not the poor. It was designed to remove that group and restore the order that existed before its inception. You've positioned yourself well because of your investment. It doesn't seem like that now but everything moves in phases.

The next two years will be a bull run because of layoffs. They'll be pruning ruthlessly because they don't need the workers. A.I. can do a lot of it and that's what they're investing in. As they free up the payroll they'll reinvest the excess. While they're laying people off the government will be making cuts during the same period.

That doesn't take into account the debt states are carrying because of the migrants. They're all in the hole. We're down a billion dollars. I heard that yesterday and all I could do was laugh because you know it's going to combust. Keep doing what you're doing and try to put extra towards it during that period and ride the storm. You'll be okay.

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The videos posted here are a good example of what I described. They haven't solved the problem. Nor are the people posting them any closer to obtaining what they've sought. It's a negative talking point that reminds you of your shortcomings and provides an opportunity for commiseration.
My thoughts exactly. Even if it is true, I'm not going to dwell on it. I always see exceptions, outliers, and we can fix some of our problems. Granted, we can't fix all of our problems but we can at least try fixing the ones we can.

It's good you're protecting yourself. I use these tools professionally and stay informed on the ways they're being abused. I don't want to be part of the problem or a victim. Forecasting, spotting trends and reading the culture is part of that. I've taken some of the steps you've mentioned for similar reasons.

I heard a really good message on jealousy a few weeks ago. She noted the spiritual consequences to both. The one with the problem and the object of their ire. She said the spirit afflicts them and went into detail on the ways their mind is besieged incessantly and they're tormented. It was really insightful.

We're bombarded with information and media designed to push our buttons continually. Social media is the greatest catalyst for that since the television was invented. This isn't the Most High's technology. That's why it's in the enemy's hands. It can be a force for good but you have to put parameters around it and remember the source.
There's a chance I might end up believing it. And I'm not taking that chance.

The miracle isn't your responsibility. Your job is to be diligent and pray and allow the Lord to do what you can't. This is a reset. The hardest hit will be the middle class not the poor. It was designed to remove that group and restore the order that existed before its inception. You've positioned yourself well because of your investment. It doesn't seem like that now but everything moves in phases.

The next two years will be a bull run because of layoffs. They'll be pruning ruthlessly because they don't need the workers. A.I. can do a lot of it and that's what they're investing in. As they free up the payroll they'll reinvest the excess. While they're laying people off the government will be making cuts during the same period.

That doesn't take into account the debt states are carrying because of the migrants. They're all in the hole. We're down a billion dollars. I heard that yesterday and all I could do was laugh because you know it's going to combust. Keep doing what you're doing and try to put extra towards it during that period and ride the storm. You'll be okay.

That's likely the case with welfare states. My country isn't a welfare state and the poor will still suffer the most.

This world really seems to have a reset button. I believe the world reached a very advanced state in some form, be it magic or technology right before the great flood. Even the Native Americans believe it too and ironically, it's a closely guarded secret to them and I suspect it has something to do with the "watchers". It happens whenever the world is about to reach an incredible state of imbalance or injustice. In the Bible, it also coincides with high levels of corruption/pollution of the Earth.
 
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My thoughts exactly. Even if it is true, I'm not going to dwell on it. I always see exceptions, outliers, and we can fix some of our problems. Granted, we can't fix all of our problems but we can at least try fixing the ones we can.

It's psychological flagellation and sows unhealthy thoughts towards oneself and the opposite sex. The question that needs to be answered is what's hindering the persons appeal. Why aren't people responding to them? To answer that requires honesty and accountability. The speaker and respondents must be willing to tell the truth and the person must be willing to take action.

But we live in a coddle society. No one wants to hear the truth. They're looking for scapegoats and something that reduces their responsibility. We all play a part in our circumstances but they tell themselves it's not their fault and surround themselves with echo chambers that say the same. That's why they're stuck.

The most dangerous thing to a human is a mockingbird. They parrot your lies and deception and you believe it. But the truth is usually offensive because it pricks. When you understand the difference you'll accept the ouch. It's an opportunity for betterment.

Back in the day when people saw their friends struggling they'd roll up their sleeves and get involved and tackle the problem together. If they weren't meeting anyone they'd make inquiries on their behalf and ask their connections and others did the same.

That's how a lot of people got together. It wasn't always organic. Friends pitched in and family too and they combed their networks on their behalf. They'd setup a meeting or blind date and go from there. I was close to someone who was the same. She wanted to be married but wasn't dating men who'd marry her.

One day she got a message from someone. He was polite and a gentleman and wanted to get to know her. She asked me if she should respond and I said of course. They exchanged messages and he finally asked her out. He wanted to take her to see Dave Matthews Band. She asked if she should go because he wasn't her type and I said are you mad!

I told her you've finally met someone who likes and respects you and wants to know you better. He's not trying to sleep with you or take advantage of you. And he's taking you to see your favorite group. Go and see what happens and she did. They married two years later and they're still together.

That's why it's important to have people in your life who can cut through the noise. They counter your doubts, fears and insecurities because they know your heart. If she'd asked the question elsewhere they would have told her no. Because she wasn't attracted to him. But that wasn't her make or break and I knew it.

I've always valued people who challenge me. That's where the greatest growth occurs. I'm not fond of people who tell me what I want to hear. My biggest mistakes were usually made in their company. I look for that quality in my companion and friends.

This world really seems to have a reset button. I believe the world reached a very advanced state in some form, be it magic or technology right before the great flood. Even the Native Americans believe it too and ironically, it's a closely guarded secret to them and I suspect it has something to do with the "watchers". It happens whenever the world is about to reach an incredible state of imbalance or injustice. In the Bible, it also coincides with high levels of corruption/pollution of the Earth.

Sometimes it feels like we're living in an SNL skit. You read or hear something and your mind doesn't register disbelief.because the decibel is at state where it's the norm. Yet there are moments when you tell yourself this is crazy or you wonder why you're here.

There are times when I feel a reset is needed. But I hasten to say it because I know what they have in mind. Nevertheless, I think we're reaching our fill.

~bella
 
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That's why it's important to have people in your life who can cut through the noise. They counter your doubts, fears and insecurities because they know your heart. If she'd asked the question elsewhere they would have told her no. Because she wasn't attracted to him. But that wasn't her make or break and I knew it.

I've always valued people who challenge me. That's where the greatest growth occurs. I'm not fond of people who tell me what I want to hear. My biggest mistakes were usually made in their company. I look for that quality in my companion and friends.
I have no friends to begin with. The circumstances that made me lose nearly all my friends is even worse now especially with time and availability. My mental and psychological problems have improved though. The Lord is right to push me into figure skating as unbelievable as it sounded at first. I have no desire nor interest in the sport at first but I ended up enjoying the sport tremendously as a form of mental healing therapy.

I don't feel the need to be in a relationship anyway. This is probably the worst time for me when dealing with other much bigger problems that could only set me up with the wrong motive and end up with the wrong person.

But my desire to have friends within our church (not for meeting single women) and take part in after-church activities is genuine. I just don't have the time for it. I can't be outside for too long. I'm still able to exercise at the park but I limit my time outdoors.

Sometimes it feels like we're living in an SNL skit. You read or hear something and your mind doesn't register disbelief.because the decibel is at state where it's the norm. Yet there are moments when you tell yourself this is crazy or you wonder why you're here.

There are times when I feel a reset is needed. But I hasten to say it because I know what they have in mind. Nevertheless, I think we're reaching our fill.
I know the devil is a liar but it seems his followers inject truth in their shows from time to time. I don't know exactly why they do it. Does it enhance their powers to tell the truth from time to time instead of telling lies 100% of the time?
 
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I have no friends to begin with. The circumstances that made me lose nearly all my friends is even worse now especially with time and availability. My mental and psychological problems have improved though.

There can be seasons when we walk alone for various reasons. But it's wise to ask the Lord for godly companions nonetheless and trust their arrival in His timing.

The Lord is right to push me into figure skating as unbelievable as it sounded at first. I have no desire nor interest in the sport at first but I ended up enjoying the sport tremendously as a form of mental healing therapy.

His methods are countercultural but effective and I'm glad to hear you're healing and strengthening your body. And there's the added benefit of enjoyment. It seems like you're having a blast based on your posts.

I don't feel the need to be in a relationship anyway. This is probably the worst time for me when dealing with other much bigger problems that could only set me up with the wrong motive and end up with the wrong person.

There is a need that produces sickness and one that brings recognition. Your assessment is mature and when you're ready you'll know. Relational readiness doesn't produce an ache. It's an awakening.

Loneliness, sorrow, and anger are maladies of the heart. The immature mind equates it to an absence of companionship. When it's really indicative of unsettledness. It's not the person it's the heart that's unwell.

But when that isn't the case you can be alone and thrive in that condition and flourish when you find someone because you're content. Awakening produces joy and calm. Not sorrow.

But my desire to have friends within our church (not for meeting single women) and take part in after-church activities is genuine. I just don't have the time for it. I can't be outside for too long. I'm still able to exercise at the park but I limit my time outdoors.

For now but that will change in time. Be sociable while you're there. You may have an opportunity to share what the Lord is doing and strengthen someone.

I know the devil is a liar but it seems his followers inject truth in their shows from time to time. I don't know exactly why they do it. Does it enhance their powers to tell the truth from time to time instead of telling lies 100% of the time?

It's called revelation of the method. That's a tool used in predictive programming that reveals the truth under a different guise. Often used in images and entertainment for the public. You'll find it in other places too like business, finance, politics, etc. But you have to be more knowledgeable to catch it because of the symbols. They believe that by doing this it frees them karmically. Remember, they're alchemists.

When I mention decoding a movie or something I've seen or read that's what I'm examining. I'm looking at the symbols, characters, numbers, message, etc. to determine what they're conveying that's hiding in plain sight. The Olympics was a good example. Everything you saw had a deeper meaning. Including the boats on the water. But the public doesn't speak the language and it went over their head.

That's why I spend 2 to 4 hours a day on finance. It was half that amount before the opening ceremony. But once I started decoding it and listened to others I made the shift. Things are speeding up.

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For now but that will change in time. Be sociable while you're there. You may have an opportunity to share what the Lord is doing and strengthen someone.
I smile and greet joggers and cyclists in the park when coming across them but there's been little chance to socialize so far and not one has ever approached me to chat (except in the streets when I'm cycling on the way to the park which ironically, isn't the the ideal place for a long chat).

I'm even wearing proper workout clothes this time, mixing the good branded ones gifted to me and the really cheap ones I bought you can't tell the difference from the expensive branded ones. At least I'm not getting snubbed anymore. I did notice nobody else is chatting with one another unless they're couples.

But it doesn't make me feel sad that I have no one to talk to in the park. I still find it more fun to skate in the park than our apartment grounds.

It's called revelation of the method. That's a tool used in predictive programming that reveals the truth under a different guise. Often used in images and entertainment for the public. You'll find it in other places too like business, finance, politics, etc. But you have to be more knowledgeable to catch it because of the symbols. They believe that by doing this it frees them karmically. Remember, they're alchemists.

When I mention decoding a movie or something I've seen or read that's what I'm examining. I'm looking at the symbols, characters, numbers, message, etc. to determine what they're conveying that's hiding in plain sight. The Olympics was a good example. Everything you saw had a deeper meaning. Including the boats on the water. But the public doesn't speak the language and it went over their head.

That's why I spend 2 to 4 hours a day on finance. It was half that amount before the opening ceremony. But once I started decoding it and listened to others I made the shift. Things are speeding up.

I've been noticing it for a long time now. I never looked into it but always suspected they're doing it for nefarious purposes like mind control. I observed a similar pattern in the Bible.

I minimize my time on finance news and charts even though I have investments. Only couple of minutes a day at most. I feel like I'm looking at my brain activity.

Anyway, I haven't watched a single episode of the Olympics. Not in the last two decades. It is strange that I'm not trying to avoid watching it. I don't even hate the Olympics and we could have watched it if we wanted to and it remains popular in my country.
 
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