Should i tell this guy the truth?

[Far Side Of the Moon]

This guy wants to meet up and I want to meet up with him more than anything...

But I'm afraid he'll find out how much of a loser I am..

He's younger than me. And has a degree, drives ...I just don't want to put him off.

I don't want him to stop talking to me,..

But I also feel like I won't measure up.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[Far Side Of the Moon]

As Wayne Gretzky said, "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

Yeah....

I think ill be honest with him though

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[paul1149]

I would pray on it, and do what gives spiritual peace (which is not the same as fleshly comfort). If taking some risk fits in with a dynamic trust in the Lord, that probably will be the way to go. Each situation has to be weighed, but if we always turn down opportunities we end up nowhere.

Of course you should tell him the truth, but how much truth to tell might be another issue. Feel your way through and see if you feel you can trust him.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

You definitely should be honest with this guy, there would be no point in being in a relationship based off of a lie. Just tell him how you feel and go from there. If hes not compassionate and understanding of your true feelings then he shouldn't be someone you would want to go with if hes not a caring person.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

If you had to stretch the truth to get his attention, then you're going to be in hot water. It's the reason why I don't like lying about my achievements or experiences. Once it's time to perform the feat, then you'll be exposed as a phony.

I never stretches the truth...its just you don't put everything out there when you just start talking to someone. Like someone I'm talking to for the first time, I'm not gonna tell them I have anxiety off the bat, you know?

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

yes, you should do him the courtesy of letting him know who you really are and not bating and switching him.

unless you're just looking for a one night stand(which I know you are not) he's going to find out anyway.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

I never stretches the truth...its just you don't put everything out there when you just start talking to someone. Like someone I'm talking to for the first time, I'm not gonna tell them I have anxiety off the bat, you know?

I agree you probably shouldn't talk about health conditions on the first date, and such a topic won't come up anyways. But just have some fun and light hearted conversation and enjoy yourself no need to make this more serious than it has to be on the first date.

 

[Grandpa2390]

This guy wants to meet up and I want to meet up with him more than anything...

But I'm afraid he'll find out how much of a loser I am..

He's younger than me. And has a degree, drives ...I just don't want to put him off.

how old are you?

and what makes you think you're a loser?

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

I agree you probably shouldn't talk about health conditions on the first date, and such a topic won't come up anyways. But just have some fun and light hearted conversation and enjoy yourself no need to make this more serious than it has to be on the first date.

Yeah. I told him how I felt...so I'm waiting for him to respond. If he's cool with me not having a degree or license...than we'll see where it goes.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

Yeah. I told him how I felt...so I'm waiting for him to respond. If he's cool with me not having a degree or license...than we'll see where it goes.

Alright good luck, hopefully everything works out and you have a good time.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

how old are you?

and what makes you think you're a loser?

I'm 25, still with my parents,no degree, license no life ,friends..ect.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Okay I told him and he says he doesn't judge me... He's so nice,. I'm nervous,

 

[Grandpa2390]

I'm 25, still with my parents,no degree, license no life ,friends..ect.

so?
You haven't been keeping up with your other threads. lol.

You are a girl. You are describing yourself as a loser based on the criteria used to judge guys. Guys don't care if a girl is still living with her parents, has a degree, a license, etc. It is ok for her.

It is a guy's responsibility to achieve the things necessary to provide a girl with a stable income and therefore a stable life. Her responsibility is to acquire the skills to provide a stable home.

having fulfilled those criteria could potentially work against you.
right, @Galatea

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

so?
You haven't been keeping up with your other threads. lol.

You are a girl. You are describing yourself as a loser based on the criteria used to judge guys. Guys don't care if a girl is still living with her parents, has a degree, a license, etc. It is ok for her.

It is a guy's responsibility to achieve the things necessary to provide a girl with a stable income and therefore a stable life. Her responsibility is to acquire the skills to provide a stable home.

Definitely agree with this. Guys don't care about the stuff you are worried about.

 

[Saucy]

Please be really careful. I hope it works out for you and all that, but it seems really quick. Just get to know each other. You can't judge how either of you really feel when you barely even know who each other are. Get to the point where you feel comfortable being honest with him first.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

so?
You haven't been keeping up with your other threads. lol.

You are a girl. You are describing yourself as a loser based on the criteria used to judge guys. Guys don't care if a girl is still living with her parents, has a degree, a license, etc. It is ok for her.

It is a guy's responsibility to achieve the things necessary to provide a girl with a stable income and therefore a stable life. Her responsibility is to acquire the skills to provide a stable home.

having fulfilled those criteria could potentially work against you.
right, @Galatea

LOL Oh my gosh that made me laugh.... He's actually very cool with it. I find it crazy

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Please be really careful. I hope it works out for you and all that, but it seems really quick. Just get to know each other. You can't judge how either of you really feel when you barely even know who each other are. Get to the point where you feel comfortable being honest with him first.

Yeah I've been talking to him for a minute actually.

 

[Grandpa2390]

Please be really careful. I hope it works out for you and all that, but it seems really quick. Just get to know each other. You can't judge how either of you really feel when you barely even know who each other are. Get to the point where you feel comfortable being honest with him first.

I agree. It is one thing to be honest. But don't be "too" honest. He doesn't need to know all of your personal info on the first date. Start going out, and as your relationship develops. As you start to trust each other more and more, then you should start revealing more sensitive information about yourself.