She wants me to sign uncontested divorce papers...

[fluffy_rainbow]

In an uncontested divorce settlement, if one spouse refuses to sign the papers you can usually only acquire what was yours to begin with. If the house is in his name she can't take it. Very few states allow for alimony so she may not even get that.

 

[desi]

Desi, I don't have the funds to go to court or afford an attorney. I won't be going to court. It is something my wife will have to do on her own. And it would be too dangerous to attempt because of the BPD... I will not put myself at risk of being jailed.

Remember Pr 27 - A wise man sees danger and seeks shelter, but a fool keeps going and suffers harm for it.

I am still standing for my marriage. It is up to my wife to divorce. Remember the Bible says that if the Unbeliever leaves to let them go. I cannot stand in the way, but I will be on my knees praying. Divorce may not be the end to this story. I still love my wife, and I won't quit on this. If things should turn around then we can remarry...

There is nothing I can do to stop the divorce from happening. I am in a no fault state, I spoke with a lawyer today and he said I could delay it for about 6-12 months, but we have no joint property and no children. She will get a divorce no matter what...

I do feel good about the decision I made today. Even if I get sanctions I don't mind, I will still be looking to God for the marriage... It will take wisdom and a lot of prayer... But God is MIGHTY. The Bible says that if it is not for sexual immorality or unbelief then go be reconciled or don't remarry. I hold on to this...

As far as I'm concerned it ain't over until God says it's over. I don't see divorce as the end, I see it as only the beginning...

She said something weird to me tonight tho when I told her I wouldn't be signing any divorce papers, that I wouldn't contest it but that I wouldn't be signing any papers... She said I'm sure we'll keep talking???

I can only trust in God, and get radical in this whole thing. The world says run, Jesus says bless your 'enemies'. Regardless, I am still going to bless Phelicia, does it make sense? No, but I've seen the principle work... In fact I am excited by the thought of loving her family and her even in the midst of all this...

It's nuts, I must be nuts... I need wisdom and courage but God is able... I must be a lunatic or I must really be believing God's commands and example...

If you can't afford an attorney be your own and trust God. Make a stand. Its not enough to passively defy her, for her to see you as a man she has to see you strong, not cowering or avoiding the issue. You almost have to go over the top on this one if you want to save your marriage.

 

[christianfilmcrew]

I will follow God's leading and not another man's veiled opinion. That's all I will say on that...

I will now quit talking on this forum as I believe my wife has been silently watching. Hi Phelicia! I love you...

I would share more on this thread, but I now need to be wise in the way I walk and I also need to demonstrate the integrity in my own heart and beliefs that I challenged my wife over in recent months.

What I know so far is that there are many good things ahead!

All I can say is that God is good, my heart is full of joy and peace and I trust my Daddy with my whole heart...

Firmly established in Him,
Dean.