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And also, for further biblical support, 1 Corinthians 7:4:
"For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does."
If it's so simple, why does it break apart so many marriages then?.
This verse is specifically and explicitly about sexual access. It does not even imply something about finances. But if it did—do you believe that this means a married couple have no right whatsoever to privacy? Does it mean that a spouse always has a right to have sex when the other is physically exhausted, sick, or emotionally distraught?
No—Paul is talking about mutual respect; not the abolition of privacy or personal property. And if that applies to something as intimate as sex, it should be doubly true of their finances.
Okay, maybe we've been talking past each other a bit. I agree with that. But once again, you can't agree to share something that isn't yours. You have no say whatsoever in the control or disposal of something that isn't yours. It is a matter of charity; not obligation.
Going back to sex (since something about the one does have implications for the other), I want my wife to offer herself to me because she wants tonot because I have a supposed right to her. Same with money. I want to share what I have with my wife because I love her; not because I don't have the choice.
Pretty sure married women couldn't own property back then, because they were the husband's property.
I did not say it is not possible, but to give someone open access to it is a whole other thing. It gives people a felling of a "right" to it, and that is where most problems come in with anything.
I didn't say they were the same thing, you missed my point again.LOL. That is a hard pill for even me to swallow - and I've had someone actually try to kill me. A thief is not equal to a killer; there are some who are both but to say that that one diffinitively preempts the other is outlandish.
People will do alot for money; cold-blooded murder... That takes a certain kind of mentality.
I've known alot of people I would not leave my purse alone with but have no hesitation to walk alone down a dark alley with.
Well if you dont plan to ever be married why take part in a discussion about marriage and sharing an account? (No I am not saying you have no right to post in a public forum, just asking a valid question)That may be the big difference in thinking as I don't see myself ever getting married.
Okay so don't marry someone that has a sense of entitlement. Marry someone that is self reliant and not dependent and wanting something for nothing and they wont feel entitled to something they didnt earn
I didn't say they were the same thing, you missed my point again.
There ARE murderers out there or are you denying they exist?
yet you are more concerned about someone taking your money than your life. You will trust someone you apparently feel you cant trust with your life but not your bank account? Based on what? the assumption they share your value of human life? That they would rather rob you than kill you?
They could just as easily be a murderer as a thief.
Several reasons actually.Well if you dont plan to ever be married why take part in a discussion about marriage and sharing an account? (No I am not saying you have no right to post in a public forum, just asking a valid question)
Thinking ahead for when married life comes - Would you share one account between the two of you for all income, or would you have separate accounts?
Discuss. Since alot of marriages seem to break apart due to financial problems.
Note - by separate accounts I'm referring to having your individual accounts with a shared one which a percentage of both of your income goes into.
Three accounts - one shared, for all the necessary household budget items, to be funded in proportion to the respective income of each spouse until it balances in the black. Then separate ones for whatever, if any, is left over of our respective incomes.
'Course that's just my idea. I'd certainly let my wife have some input.
Wow, the responses in this thread are a bit surprising to me.
Apparently I'm taking a really unpopular/untraditional stance here, but a marriage means that you are married. Two become one. I really strongly feel that a husband and wife's names should both be on every account opened by either of them. It's unfortunate to me how much individualism has penetrated even marriage. Having separate accounts will only make a marriage weaker.