second virginity

[InTheFlame]

*hug*

I think you're on the right track. I think the steps you've mentioned are good ideas, BUT - I don't think they're enough.

First of all, if you 'keep going back to it', you need to work out why. There could be a whole pile of experiences, beliefs and behaviour patterns that you don't even realise are affecting your daily behaviour.

Here's an example from my life -

Experiences - my father was alcoholic and I went through a lot of emotional abuse. I grew up with a very low self-esteem and a lot of bad messages about myself buried in my subconscious. My first boyfriend pressured me into sexual activity way before I was ready.

Hidden beliefs - I got the idea that someone would only love me if they were getting some sort of sexual satisfaction from me, and that I wasn't worth love in and of myself.

Behaviour patterns - I could be 'casual friends' with another female, or be good friends with a guy as long as I knew he had some sort of sexual interest in me. Of course, I had to keep making sure he was still interested, which led to a LOT of stupid mistakes... and generally I couldn't work out why I kept getting into those situations.

Only when I started tracing these behaviour patterns back to beliefs (ones I'd never voiced even to myself) and to experiences from my past... was I able to get God's help in changing those beliefs.

I hope this makes sense? Ask God to help you see WHY you've been behaving as you have been... ask him to search your heart and mind, and bring any dark areas into the light. Ask him for the resources and the people you'll need. The healing room could be a great start. If anyone gives you a bible verse, write it down and consider over the next few weeks how it might apply to your life.

Here's one for you - imagine yourself in the place of Jeshua, and your 'filthy clothes' the things you've done wrong:

Then the angel showed me Jeshua the high priest standing before the angel of the LORD. Satan was there at the angel's right hand, accusing Jeshua of many things. And the LORD said to Satan, "I, the LORD, reject your accusations, Satan. Yes, the LORD, who has chosen Jerusalem, rebukes you. This man is like a burning stick that has been snatched from a fire." Jeshua's clothing was filthy as he stood there before the angel. So the angel said to the others standing there, "Take off his filthy clothes." And turning to Jeshua he said, "See, I have taken away your sins, and now I am giving you these fine new clothes."
Zechariah 3:1-4

 

[Sketcher]

I guess I confused people. I didn't mean getting back my physical virginity. I meant spiritually being a virgin and pure in God's eyes.

As in forgiven? Easily done. But sex affects the soul too, from what I've heard. He can sanctify you so your mind isn't in the gutter anymore but beyond that I'm not sure. I don't know where healing ends and "sowing and reaping" begins. Be sure of this, though. God is kind.

Also, I was kinda forced to get baptized at the time, my heart was not i into it, so I want to do it again because I want to do it, not my family, not my friends...ME.

That shouldn't be a problem.

And the purity ring thing, its supposed to be a reminder of my decision to abstain from sex till marriage.

As long as it doesn't remind you of your mistakes, fine.

And the healing room thing, that was a suggestion from my pastor so that I could get some support from Christians my age. Its something really powerful in my city and it has helped with physical damage and emotional baggage.

Oh, getting other people to pray for you. That's fine. I just hope the effects last.

 

[Endure2]

athespiangirl
well thats awesome to see you want this purity in your life, this love you have for the goodness and holiness of God.
by all means, do all those things, the more the merrier.


but God makes all things new, your a new creation, God doesnt remember that stuff if youve put it under the blood and your living for him.

but the change is in your spirit, not in anything you do on the outside... thats why the bible says he wants the heart changed, not our clothes, and you have been changed.
the bible says that if you be in Christ you are a new creature, old things have passed away, and ALL things have become new and ALL things are of God...


just like the bible says in galations 6.15-16 speaking of men and their circumsision.
it says that neither circumsision nor uncircumsision availeth anything... but A NEW CREATURE! AND AS MANY AS WALK ACCORDING TO GOD, PEACE BE ON THEM!

all God sees you as is a chaste virgin, he doesnt remember your past, and he doesnt consider the molding of your flesh.

it doesnt matter what youve done are what you "are" but rather its how God sees you, and believe me God can change anything and remake anything, even your virginity. you have no reason to remember what hes forgotten.

the bible says in isaiah 54.1 that the barren woman can have more children than the married wife, when God is with her.

it doesnt what your body looks like, you are what God sees you as and wants you to be by his mighty power, whos report will you believe? i will believe the report of the Lord.

 

[vinc]

From a fleshly point of view, you have indeed lost your virginity when you were at the age of 15 itself and there is no way you are going to get it back again in the future.

From a spiritual point of view, as fornication/adultery is a sin in the sight of God, you need to repent sincerely from the bottom of your heart and ask His forgiveness and the inward cleansing of your heart (thru His already shed precious sinless blood). The moment you do this you are reconciled back to God again and God sees as if you have never sinned before. And decide firmly in your heart that you are not going to ever do such a thing again willingly. If you by any chance fall again into this sin then you have to repent again with all sincerity of heart before God. God is kind to all those who honestly confess their sins and repent sincerely and ask forgiveness from Him. The psalmist says "His mercy endureth forever." Pls remember that most of us are going thru similar struggles to gain victory over our sins. God knows this and understands us more than any Christian or Non-Christian.

Go into a prayer room or healing room and ask His forgiveness in prayers if you are led by the Holy Spirit that way. The better way in my opinion is to pray the prayer of repentance in your room/home coz this is entirely between you and God.

There is no use of getting baptized again and again because of falling into a sin. Because no man/woman can say or boast that he/she is perfect and sinless as long as he/she is in his/her physical body on earth.

Purity ring does not make a human being pure. There is no mention of such a thing in the Bible. This is really a stupid thing which is not at all part of Christian life or Christianity.

This is my honest opinion.

Lord bless you and yours.